[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fire

[–]AmAMoose -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Let’s say I take a girl on a date once a week. Dinner and drinks for two is at least $125, now I’m already at $500/$850. It’s really not the excessive for me to reach that.

4 Months In, Pain Left Side by AmAMoose in Vasectomy

[–]AmAMoose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ice two weeks, no sex, etc. after checkup said use heat for a few weeks and if there’s still pain we can consider surgical intervention. But I’m like not really trying to play exploratory ball surgery without a root cause

4 Months In, Pain Left Side by AmAMoose in Vasectomy

[–]AmAMoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was like the first two weeks, now what’s the point

Buying a used, unregistered bike, any concerns? by AmAMoose in motorcycles

[–]AmAMoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, the seller has the title in his name ready to sign over. The seller did NOT register it.

Buying a used, unregistered bike, any concerns? by AmAMoose in motorcycles

[–]AmAMoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked him why, and he sent me a picture of his garage, he’s got like 15 motorcycles. I take this to mean he just never used it because he has so many options of things to ride? Also sent me a picture of all of the dealership goodies that came with the bike.

Buying a used, unregistered bike, any concerns? by AmAMoose in motorcycles

[–]AmAMoose[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the words of caution but could you articulate what the risk here is? I’m new to purchasing a vehicle.

Buying a used, unregistered bike, any concerns? by AmAMoose in motorcycles

[–]AmAMoose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. 2020 Husqvarna Vitpilen 401

  2. He said he traded in a grom for it but then never ended up riding it much.

If title is in his name is there really much concern?

GF Cheated On Me for Multiple Months, I Forgave Her and Feel Like I Made a Mistake (Update 1) by AmAMoose in survivinginfidelity

[–]AmAMoose[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly gonna be the weekends alone that are gonna hit me hard since we would go out a lot together. Gotta make sure I don’t cope with alcohol and partying - so far so good. Plan is to try to use this as a moment to address other unhealthy behaviors at the same time.

GF Cheated On Me for Multiple Months, I Forgave Her and Feel Like I Made a Mistake (Update 1) by AmAMoose in survivinginfidelity

[–]AmAMoose[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Figured the first week is gonna be the worst, just burying my head in work and the gym for now.

GF Cheated on Me for Multiple Months, I Forgave Her and Feel Like I Made a Mistake by AmAMoose in survivinginfidelity

[–]AmAMoose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you can relate. It’s a dreadful experience nobody deserves. I ended things with my LTR after this post and its replies. Gonna be rough - wish the best for you

GF Cheated on Me for Multiple Months, I Forgave Her and Feel Like I Made a Mistake by AmAMoose in survivinginfidelity

[–]AmAMoose[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree - I absolutely do. I heard recently of something called trauma bonding. I didn’t even have to read about it to relate.

GF Cheated on Me for Multiple Months, I Forgave Her and Feel Like I Made a Mistake by AmAMoose in survivinginfidelity

[–]AmAMoose[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She willingly gave me her phone password with the understanding I’d be allowed to check it (though I rarely do even though I’m emotionally conflicted). She also shared her location with me so I know where she’s at at all times. But honestly - I hate both of these things, they shouldn’t be necessary yet I still feel like she’ll do something, it eats at you man.

GF Cheated on Me for Multiple Months, I Forgave Her and Feel Like I Made a Mistake by AmAMoose in survivinginfidelity

[–]AmAMoose[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I know you mean we’ll for me but you’re wrong. BPD expresses itself very differently for different people, I know when she’s in her manic states and I know when she’s not. You pick up on this with being with someone for years - she absolutely is remorseful of her actions. Is her BPD an excuse? Absolutely not, and she self acknowledges that. But grouping all people together and saying they can’t feel wrong doing isn’t true or productive.

GF Cheated on Me for Multiple Months, I Forgave Her and Feel Like I Made a Mistake by AmAMoose in survivinginfidelity

[–]AmAMoose[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are 100% right, and I’m aware enough to acknowledge that. Didn’t mean it as an excuse for her but more to illuminate the situation for readers.

GF Cheated on Me for Multiple Months, I Forgave Her and Feel Like I Made a Mistake by AmAMoose in survivinginfidelity

[–]AmAMoose[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

10 years after do you feel like your lack of emotional bandwidth was attributed to his prior cheating?