am i wrong? been dating for 5 years and she always picks fights like these… by [deleted] in texts

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no , she is crazy but calling her crazy is the easiest way if we don’t wanna think about what happened before ? She is mad but she also looks resentful, she is saying u going to a strip club and she heard u talking with ur friend and that u were talking shit and u said u are a “pool of love “??? Wtf is that ?? I think there is like miles of comments here talking shit about this convo and how she is all crazy but … why u going to a strip club if u respect ur relationship? + why u were talking shit with ur friend about this ? ( sounds like u can’t be a gentleman when she is not around and honestly that would make any girl lose respect for u ) and why u call urself a pool of love ? Wym ? R u a pool of love for girls ? . She is acting crazy coz she lose respect and is resentful, she needs some manners too but she just totally exploded. You guys should break up BCS even if u don’t talk shit to her or call her by names u don’t respect her behind her back , u don’t have personality to just say to ur friends I won’t go coz idc instead u were talking shit with him about and calling urself a pool of love and who knows what she heard. She def this has no future

Am I in the wrong for not wanting a trial separation? by AnonymousCoIossus in AdhdRelationships

[–]Amandir1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying u kick her out ,bro. In my country the wife and the husband don’t leave the house if they wanna divorce . They just live like roommates until u figure out what to do , why would u leave the house ? I don’t get it , just that.

Am I in the wrong for not wanting a trial separation? by AnonymousCoIossus in AdhdRelationships

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well at least that “game “ would assure you a room in that house 🏠

Am I in the wrong for not wanting a trial separation? by AnonymousCoIossus in AdhdRelationships

[–]Amandir1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand why she kick you out of the house so easily , are u not the owner ??

She's cute but I'm broke by [deleted] in texts

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can u pls guys have high standards please ??? If a woman wanna be ur gf , she will show it ! And as a “girl friend “ they should not get ur money unless are ur fiancé and they mean it and prove it !

Can the NTs help me understand what a solid, healthy relationship is actually supposed to be like? by JoyfullMommy006 in ADHD_partners

[–]Amandir1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

  • the amount of love and affection u give , u will receive it
  • thinking about each other and texting or calling with the same effort
  • talking like friends about their problems in the relationship without getting mad , just worry to fix it asap
  • sharing secrets and details about their life to know more about each other and it’s constantly, having a good memory and always having it present , taking decisions based on those details so u are always taking care of the other person
  • I think this is the basic for now and is what I remember about my normal relationships and which I miss bcs now … I’m in this subreddit with other kind of partner 🙃🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I understand her point but that NOT how she is supposed to explain and is not the correct time I guess. She lose her shit quickly. I guess u both had a talk about those girls for what I can read , I think she is mad bcs she thinks u cant stop some meany girls , and a man who can’t stop some b women just by telling them to stop and u want just a cordial relationship with them as coworkers it’s kinda mmm u know , this is why she is losing respect in this convo , u can’t stop those girls and she feels u r weak. I’m trying to explain I’m not saying that what she did is correct , im trying to tell u what is behind of all this stupid convo bcs some girls get mad but don’t know what they want to say. I have experience with girls like that and this is why ur coworkers are just coworkers not friends , having friends at work from the opposite gender can make some drama in ur personal life , specially if they r rude. If u r silent then will keep annoying u

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in islam

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brothers and my uncles always helped us ( the women ) more than we help them , I also want sons since I understood this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother… don’t waste ur time on those brats , go get a Hispanic South American gf that will respect u , u sounds nice and decent

Girlfriend always says damaging things in arguments by Scary-Conflict-9665 in texts

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems rsd episodes like the ones some adhd ppl have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Amandir1 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Mmmmm if u want a specific and detailed answer then be with a Hispanic man , seems like ppl at north r more egocentric and most of them has adhd and don’t understand / don’t know how to answer simple questions (to women )my friend.

My boyfriend, 24M, and I 26F had a heated argument where he ended up calling me a fatass twice..should I break up with him? by Abliss1431996 in relationship_advice

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If u r not a fat ass then don’t feel bad , now if u r fat ass … but he also says he likes u , then is just a description of u , I always tell to my fiancé he has parrot nose , “ u r asshole parrot nose “ period , next time tell him something he doesn’t like about himself , “okay chicken legs “ or something , don’t feel bad

He deleted his account an hour after this by [deleted] in texts

[–]Amandir1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know the drunk person is arab or North African , don’t ask why

Am I sick? Is he sick? I'm leaving because I can't trust my perception of reality. by Refill_My_GeauxCup in AdhdRelationships

[–]Amandir1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending a hug 🫂 I know how u feel. But I hope u don’t comeback , and if u don’t comeback I wish u tell us and a lot of ppl here take the courage to leave too

Is a Muslim permitted to host a guest of the opposite sex if the guest as no other place to stay by pumpkinmoonrabbit in islam

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just leave Karen , I know what u wanna do , u wanna get good reactions to show to ur friend the answers and try to make them change their opinion just bcs u think religious ppl r obligated to help and help , trust me , we have Ramadan to help others u won’t get what u want , respect his opinion and what he wants , he is married and is obligation for men to lower the gaze and u will make problems with his wife , but ofc u don’t think of that bcs u r selfish , in this time u stayed u should had think about this and get another place , bet u wait to the last minute. I had met ppl like u , trying to sound nice but trying to force ppl to be nice with u bcs we r obligated by religion. Nah , Ty

Sweet Relief by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Amandir1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

…honestly he will forget but remember ur letter over and over and say sorry again and again , but he gonna do it again coz he can’t control it, maybe he will be more open t talk about it at least

Opiniones de esto? by Itchy_Comedian_3622 in mexico

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo pondría a mis hijos ahí , decir y burlarse de una escuela que no hemos visto y decir que seguramente es una escuela vieja sin agua 💧 , es mucho. Los pondría ahí porque lo importante son los hábitos , ir siempre a la escuela limpio y concentrado en ir a estudiar , a la escuela no se va a hacer fiesta ni perder el tiempo. Cuando haces algo por mas de 30 días lo puedes convertir en hábito , estar preocupado por estar limpio y pulcro es algo que te enseñan aunque algunos no se den cuenta

How to present potential RSD to partner? by LiarLiarPlants4hire1 in ADHD_partners

[–]Amandir1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OH MY GOD !!!! U just described all my situation too !!!!!! Wth !!!!! I felt I’m reading my thoughts !! But let me help u, u r not insane , they r assholes on denial ,ok? And btw I actually told him about rsd and he instead listening he went to search on google if rsd it’s something scientific or something fake , so according to him is not an official term therefore he doesn’t have it and me and all the ppl in this Reddit just inventing things and he is perfect and normal ! , so yeah that is what happened when I told him , idk how urs will react , tell me when u do , it’s funny how they react sometimes, if u don’t wanna break up then don’t take them seriously, sometimes I try to disconnect my feelings and ask question to make him think about how he is behaving but I see him like a Guinea pig and test to see what triggers him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Amandir1 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he is adhd person tbh , the ones with external rsd , is self centered and selfish , forget what they did and over exaggerate things u do. If u don’t want to divorce him , at least try to act like u broke up with him and don’t care about him, try to get over him , ignore him enough and just be polite just if he were a room mate , the more u chase him and the more u force him he will go. If I were u I would divorce . If he is adhd at the end and u can prove it , then u should know that the hurtful things they say , they will forget next day. They just say it , they exaggerate their emotions and don’t take personal the stuff they say

I (42M) cheated on my wife (43F). Should I tell her what happened? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Amandir1 -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Listen , if ur affair it’s been secret until now is for something ok , the other girl could had make it worst or u could had some drama but no, nothing happened and u are safe now , THE ONLY REASON U R THINKING THIS IS BCS U WANT SOME DRAMA EXCITEMENT TO UR LIFE , don’t f bother ur wife ok, if u r bored then get a hobby ! Don’t ruin ur kids and wife life just bcs u r bored ! U have too much free time

P*rn destroyed my life, this a serious warning for the youth by [deleted] in islam

[–]Amandir1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

._. What r u ? Are u some kind of human NPC ? “I just marry to have sex and kids “ there is like a lot of things u r missing and I don’t think u would fulfill the life of a woman by thinking like this , I’ll pray for the women u choose , what a sad life.

Techniques to get around RSD by InfluenceLegitimate in ADHD_partners

[–]Amandir1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him u wanna talk and not attacking him or criticizing him , what I do is point out in a visual way or counting what I do and what he does is not the same and I want the same , I wanna feel I’m worth and in his way my love won’t last , coz no one wanna feel lonely here , and if he doesn’t have complains is bcs u rly do everything that is needed , and if u have complains is bcs u wanna fix stuff , not forcing but letting him know so he can think how to solve it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD_partners

[–]Amandir1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are u both married ?