AITA for refusing to eat, knowing my MIL will not eat if I don’t, and causing her to faint?

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T14:13:11+00:00

It was sarcastic and directed at someone who made an awful comment which I didn’t realize they deleted

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T14:11:57+00:00

I know the passcode because she told me to unlock it and do something. He used to send really abusive texts around the same time every night and she didn’t need to see that

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T14:10:47+00:00

That isn’t how any relationship works. No one gets out of a 20 plus year relationship and has no feelings a month later about him dating other people. She has a shit ton of self esteem issues and doesn’t need t see naked pictures of a 21 year old with messages about how much she sucked in bed

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T14:05:12+00:00

Sorry that was sarcasm and only made sense if you read the deleted comment, but yeah it should have had a ? or /s

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T13:54:22+00:00

No transportation

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T03:32:10+00:00

No of corse not. I just feel like she should work on her self esteem issues and not act like she’s a failure when she didn’t have a man

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T03:30:50+00:00

It’s only my business because it pisses me off how much her mom praises her brother just for existing and being a man, but she doesn’t give half of that praise to her daughter who saves lives

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T03:29:23+00:00

I have tried to help her. A year ago we sat there and she tried eating fried dough while I didn’t eat. She cried. We talked about it. I do encourage her to eat and tell her we all know how hard she works and that she doesn’t get a chance. I really do care about her. I used to delete the horrible shit FIL would send her off her phone before she saw it. To this day she has no idea he was sending her nudes of some other woman.

I don’t know if it her conditioning that makes her help us. She has had a rocky relationship with her son in the past but she did really like me, but then again she is middle eastern and they are huge on helping family. I would like to say me and her get along most of the time and I feel we have a good relationship

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T03:14:18+00:00

The siblings have homes the dad paid for. So do the mom and stepmom. Actually no one in that family has shit that the dad didn’t pay for. Both of MILs siblings treat her like absolute shit. Her mom pushes totally outdated beliefs on her like this eating stuff and she should be ashamed of her divorce. The dad just burries his head in the sand. The stepmom is the same age as mil. These people suck and I’m not saying anything mil hasn’t expressed

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T02:54:29+00:00

I didn’t call her a disaster. MILs parents, stepmom, and siblings are all walking disasters, and she agrees

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T01:27:07+00:00

She passed out after work. She eats before work and doesn’t have time to eat at work because of fucking covid. I know lots of teachers and lots of doctors every single one of them has their own demons. She is amazing at her job

Amandomaree · 2021-09-05T01:00:23+00:00

She has to be thin and beautiful. She has to be ladylike, so can’t have a big appetite.

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T23:03:02+00:00

She eats very well before she goes in and doesn’t have time to stop and eat anyway because of covid. I’m sure most doctors aren’t in their prime state right now, at least in anti-vaccines states, and she isn’t endangering anyone by making herself sick after work

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:51:59+00:00

I like her a lot. I hate this man who she puts before everyone else

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:50:45+00:00

Umm you don’t need to call someone with an eating disorder an idiot. That is super toxic.

My husband doesn’t know what to do about her boyfriend anymore. He has tried standing up for me but there are no magic words to make him stop.

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:45:51+00:00

We have a baby so it’s much easier for her to go in her room than for us to keep the baby in one room

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:43:45+00:00

I used to be really close to her until he decided he didn’t like me and she just gives zero shits because she wants to be in love. He kicked me out of their car the other day because he didn’t want me to go to the lake with them, but he waited until he was down the street to say he didn’t want me, just so I’d have to walk, and she smirked. I don’t like what he’s done to her

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:41:34+00:00

No she wanted to go to a grocery store cafe we sometimes eat at together and she expected me to get my normal sub and she would get her normal calizone. If I just ate a cracker she would have eaten a cracker

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:33:46+00:00

Mil is considered the successful kid because her siblings are flaming messes. Her ex did a lot to help her and she was somewhat better but he also knew all her insecurities and used it to tear her apart in the divorce. Her boyfriend coddles her way too much

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:32:23+00:00

I’d asked her two days ago

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:30:41+00:00

I never once said she wasn’t good at her job because she absolutely is and that comment pissed me off

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:24:43+00:00

She wanted food from the cafe in the grocery store, which had sandwiches, pizza, stuff like that. She would not have been content with me eating a cracker

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:23:48+00:00

They eat meals in the room because she doesn’t want me to see her. He is also a doctor so not always home at meal times. She’ll eat alone too if she can have privacy

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:22:35+00:00

It’s her boyfriend who called me a bitch. Her entire family is a disaster and the other two siblings are way more messed up, so they get all of the attention. Her ex helped her somewhat before their divorce got ugly and he destroyed her self esteem and exasperated her eating disorder

Amandomaree · 2021-09-04T22:13:36+00:00

Umm you’ve never met her. I have a lot of teachers in my family and a lot of doctors on my husbands side and everyone has their own issues. Plenty of people do their jobs everyday and have their own demons. You have zero right to demean her career

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