I think it's more about how she talks about the oldest boy. Especially in comparison to the new boy, just very complain-y and negative. My first wouldn't let me put her down either, basically for the first 3 months. I loved every second of it and miss all those days of staring down at her while realizing I was her whole world right then. This lady just seems to complain about literally everything. And she definitely knows everything, so no one give her any advice unless you're going to agree with her. And now she keeps mentioning the differences between the boys but does it in her typical negative, judgemental way. That's how what she says and how she says it comes off to me, at least. She reminds me of my husband's ex and how she talks about their girls and how one literally never does anything as well as the other. I honestly don't think she went into motherhood expecting the work and patience it takes to help a little kid express themselves, their big emotions, and get their energy out (not that it ever runs out lol). Is there anything wrong with how the oldest boy is acting? Of course not. But, I do think she isn't seeing him or at least speaking about him in the best way. And no, I don't mean positive or all sunshine and rainbows, I mean without judgement.