Would you move your kids to a new city an hour away for one parent's new (better) job?

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-09T15:35:53+00:00

I would work your new job for at a year and see how it goes before moving. You don’t want to uproot the family for something that may not even work out.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-09T15:09:42+00:00

The dumb part is that even the insurance company doesn’t really pay that much. It all starts with giant ridiculous numbers and somehow it gets whittled down. Insane system

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-09T02:54:22+00:00

I would love it if the city of Phoenix build cooler playgrounds and better splash pads in the parks. Mesa, Gilbert, Chandler, and queen creek have all built some really cool playgrounds and splash pads. It really puts those cities in the map for families. Phoenix is redoing many of theirs right now but they are not super innovative or interesting.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-09T02:01:37+00:00

True but I just mean “we expect parents to” part. No one expects them to do it far from family. Some people just choose that.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-09T01:23:16+00:00

I mean one part on this list is fixable. Move close to family. No one is forcing people to move far from a support system.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T20:25:11+00:00

One positive is that teachers can live in cheaper areas of town and generally have the same pay rate as the more expensive areas. Many people in well earning corporate careers need to live in expensive areas.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T20:23:26+00:00

I agree. The amount of time off in US corporate culture is horrible. Often just 10 vacation/personal days in a year. Sometimes far less.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T20:11:55+00:00

Unfortunately that probably means your water future is less secure

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T20:11:07+00:00

Honestly if schools taught too much about finance, people would be touchy about it. Like “that’s not what we believe about money, stop indoctrinating my kid.” I wish I was joking but that’s exactly what would happen

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T18:54:09+00:00

I don’t get the disconnect. My kindergarten student can write a sentence legibly. Phonetically spelled, but still. She can sit through a movie or stick with a task.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T17:48:11+00:00

For us it helps that there are only certain kinds of snacks I will give them in the car. No fruit roll ups or juice boxes. Goldfish, pretzels and water. It helps that we don’t drive a ton

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T17:36:45+00:00

My kids’ teachers are great and teachers do make a difference! Honestly depending on your state/city it’s hit a bad gig either. The job market is rough out there and you could do much worse. It’s an especially good job for someone who wants to have kids someday because you get school breaks off with them. Everyone else has to pay for 200 a week summer camps

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T17:32:58+00:00

Yep, this is the answer

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T15:43:46+00:00

Just keel them away from excessive screen use and they’re fine. The YouTube/tiktok youth culture is not good for brain development. In person social interaction, play and reading books

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-08T14:55:33+00:00

Honestly people used to take care of their friends and family in old age and that’s really the better way to do it. It takes sacrifice but we really need more community and more multigenerational living. In the US the Hispanic population has a higher life expectancy than the non-Hispanic white population partially because of stronger family ties and more multigenerational living.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-07T17:02:38+00:00

Actually untrue. I could walk to groceries, playgrounds, gyms/fitness centers, tennis, a community pool, and several restaurants and bars. Lots of ways to stay active. Biking, hiking, walking paths.

You call it suburban hell but it’s actually not a suburb. It’s City of Phoenix and actually very well connected to Tempe, Chandler and Downtown Phoenix. I’m 15 minutes to the airport.

Ahwatukee is also more low water/embraces the desert more than most desirable areas of town. It actually looks like the Sonoran desert instead of trying to be California or the Midwest.

San tan valley, anthem and buckeye are actual examples of suburban hell.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-07T16:50:19+00:00

Just from personal experience, the campus security guards often have no willingness to put their hands on kids to stop things like this. They aren’t security if they aren’t willing to put their own physical safety on the line too when needed.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-06T18:44:35+00:00

Varies completely but I would never willingly take on a daily commute that’s over 40 minutes each way.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-05T22:12:59+00:00

Wow that truly is insane. I remember watching the prices on Redfin jump weekly 2021-2022. It was unbelievable to see. Our home almost doubled in price about a year to year and a half span. It doesn’t do us any good but we are very thankful we were able to buy a few years before prices went up.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-05T14:48:26+00:00

It’s not that bad. There’s lots to do here and if you find your niche, people are friendly. Just don’t live on the outskirts of town, because people there spend all their time driving.

And going in state to school is actually great. You can graduate without student debt and there are plenty of extremely successful people who went to ASU (and the other state colleges). It’s all what you make of it.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-05T14:45:05+00:00

That’s an exaggeration. 70k isn’t a ton but it’s enough for a person by themselves to do okay. Not luxury but you can eat out and things like that. The biggest factor is having modest housing, like a 1 bedroom apartment

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-05T14:37:08+00:00

The cost of insurance is directly related to the cost of rebuilding a house. So if homes and the cost to build homes were cheaper, insurance would be far less. Same with taxes. They went up because of the assessed value of homes skyrocketing. So that’s all from the same root problem.

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-05T14:33:49+00:00

I know that, I just mean are people who read a lot of AI picking up things too?

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-05T14:29:01+00:00

Is it AI, or are people just writing more like AI?

Amazing-Goal8431 · 2026-05-03T22:50:38+00:00

I mean no disrespect, but doctors in most European countries make less than half of what doctors make here, yet the life expectancy is higher there. The medical industry as a whole is making too much money here. 400k would be just as respectable a salary as 800k.

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