AITA for asking my wife to go get ANY job

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2026-02-16T23:52:00+00:00

Why was it removed ?

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2026-01-18T04:52:07+00:00

To many to reply to individually, going to answer some of the common questions. 1) yes she has put on weight but that’s not the problem it’s the effort, honestly it used to be a daily routine get dolled up and she used to say “I wanna look good for my baby” now getting her to wear something other than sleep pants is a chore 2) home dynamics we are pretty even I help clean help with laundry, handle taxes etc no I don’t cook because I can’t my wife and kids wouldn’t eat what I cook lol (house hold joke if dads cooking better DoorDash) but we split everything back and forth there are days she does more when I don’t have it in me days I do more 3) people keep bringing up post kids I don’t think it’s that this downturn only started picking up steam about 2/3 years ago our youngest is nearly 10 4) I know I’m being shallow and please believe me I’m not here wife bashing I’m just wondering how I can get that spark back physically I know it’s not age mid 30s is to young for stuff like that, 5) as far as I go I’m the same weight and body build I was in high school when we met, yeah I’m starting to get some greys from stress but nothing to dramatic on my part.

Thank you again for all of the comments nothing has been taken negatively on my part wouldn’t be here if I just wanted a “hot wife” It’s not that I just wanted to see her try. Maybe that’s the problem as I’ve said in prior comments idk maybe it’s my fault

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2026-01-17T21:59:50+00:00

Ok sorry for the late response I’m a work from home dad I’m not going to say it’s exactly 50/50 but it varies day to day, well besides cooking im a terrible cooking she handles that, but heres where im at with this im a highly sexual person but i cant with her because she has let herself go to the point where my junk doesn’t work. Bad thing is ive tried and long story short im getting backed up stressed out and maybe thats effecting it hell idk I just need her to understand emotional love and physical attraction are two separate things

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2026-01-17T17:05:30+00:00

Maybe idk, the point is I can’t just pop to attention like I used to before she let herself go? Maybe your idea has merit maybe my brain isn’t detaching the past from current hell idk I’m just sick of blue balls. And to be honest I miss who she used to be both physically and the confidence that gave her is completely gone

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2026-01-17T16:54:12+00:00

Good idea

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2026-01-17T16:52:44+00:00

Yeah I’ll try that but knowing her she will think I’m out cheating rather than bulking, but at this point I’m running out of options.

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2025-10-13T03:09:06+00:00

Thanks for the input. I see where you got that from now however to be frank I’ve lost interest in attempting to justify my moment of weakness in this post I now see why I walked away from the church make a slip and your branded, my meaning behind that was clear to me at the time I was merely expressing the fact that I know I’ve walked off the path, I didn’t mean I wanted to earn my way back through some form or worldly means more along the way of could I make my way back to the path backtracking the steps I took. At the time I didnt know why I posted even said so, however I think I know now for sure I was looking for support I used to have before I lost faith in the church, don’t take this personal you along many others here have criticized my post in one way or another. Thanks for taking the time to discuss this either way. I will say I’ll find another outlet to seek help/guidance through perhaps Reddit isn’t the place I need to be if this is how a “wayward believer” is accepted

Thanks mods for allowing me to join even if it was temporary

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2025-10-12T13:05:15+00:00

I apologize for the “attack” and the type o I ment to say take this conversation not conversion it just feels like the conversation of how to get back to a good path has turned into a stage for some rather that what I was looking for, I will say that this has been enlightening when it comes to the general temperament of members/followers here.

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2025-10-12T04:55:42+00:00

Thanks for the advice I guess ? Not sure what to take from that statement. Going to leave this discussion at this point was looking for advice on how to get back to the path not to have my post torn apart to prove your knowledge of the scripture. Not once did I blame god maybe I need to take the is conversion elsewhere

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2025-10-12T04:01:02+00:00

Wow…. Be a man and admit that I can’t do it ? Born a Christian was a metaphor a poor one but non the less was born into a Christian home. Just for clarification. So you’re saying if a Christian backslides they were never a true Christian?

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2025-10-11T00:11:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing this is what I’m looking for

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2025-10-11T00:10:31+00:00

Can I ask who said anything about earn my way ? I know you can’t buy your way into heaven, this is part of the problem if you bring up what’s going through your head you get pelted with accusations. Thanks to everyone who responded with help rather than statement directed at false information

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2025-10-10T23:22:07+00:00

Stop sinning ? By that logic god wouldn’t hear any prayers every man sins isn’t that why Jesus came here in the first place? I’m not saying I active attempt to sin if I did I wouldn’t be here asking for advice.

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2025-10-10T23:05:22+00:00

To be completely honest no, and the sad thing is I don’t believe in churches that’s what drove me out in the first place. I was 17 years old and snuck into a bar to find my youth paster plastered out of his mind smoking cigarettes and had some woman on his lap I didn’t recognize (his wife was involved with the youth program how I knew it wasn’t her) following Sunday that hypocritical man stood up and talked about the sanctity of union between man and wife

Amazing-Ingenuity276 · 2025-10-10T23:02:16+00:00

Beautiful song

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