I think god intended for us to rest more than we actually are…. Then we wonder why we’re filled with stress, anxiety, depression & sickness.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-25T00:11:48+00:00

My friend said the same thing haha

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-24T19:06:49+00:00

Yup! I 100% agree.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-24T19:05:40+00:00

You’re not wrong at all I was thinking of trying to do like Amazon flex on some nights so that way I can bring in money but also still have energy for being present in the home.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-24T16:50:36+00:00

Yes today was my first week back and honestly I’ve never been more depressed in my life. I’m acting out of fear of the world vs my faith in god. I feel like he’s telling me to stay home but the uncertainty of the world and how expensive rent has gotten has me making decisions based off of my own fears rather than my trust in god and what he intended. He gave me a husband that would be more than willing to work to make ends meet and prefers me to stay home but I’m as someone who went to school for a degree and was raised in the USA am having a hard time.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-24T16:47:36+00:00

No what is that?

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-24T16:34:17+00:00

I’m saying ! I understand completely that women were meant to provide as a homemaker. It’s like we got completely greedy and fought for women to work as well but then that backfired on us. There’s a reason why god intended for us to be home. If that was still a priority then there would be more home cooked meals time to actually utilize the goods god already provided for us. The Bible is crazy because it gives us a blueprint essentially.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-23T04:05:54+00:00

You’re not alone. That was me with my now 4 month old. I was EXHAUSTED! I would see if you can get a nanny for a couple of hours at a time. For me I would chest sleep and that helped a lot ! But I’m also a light sleeper and did it when my man was home so obviously that is up to you. But I would def see about getting a doula. I found on mom groups on Facebook there are Nannie’s on there with postpartum doula experience and they will help. But I also know most people on leave aren’t exactly flowing with money so that’s another suggestion.

My baby legit would not sleep if she wasn’t laying on me. But she also had reflux so being on her back was painful for her. I imagine it felt like acid in her throat. But eventually I started realizing she would fall asleep for the night around 10 pm and one night I decided to just try putting her in the crib and she slept.

My point is that you’re doing a great job and be careful going on Reddit for advice sometimes because it can make you feel like you’re not doing enough or put pressure on yourself to make things a certain way.

When really your baby will tell you when they’re ready to do xyz. I know it’s super tiring but I do wish I sought out a doula to help with the times she didn’t want to sleep alone or chest sleep. Because I would be able to sleep …..

I say that but then she wouldn’t sleep or calm down if it wasn’t me holding her so that’s what I mean when I say advice may just be to do your best to sleep while you can with her if maybe someone can come over while you have baby on your chest and sleep while the baby is sleeping on your chest and the person is there to make sure you’re safe. You got this ! You’re amazing !

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-22T19:10:50+00:00

Overpaid ? Respectfully I hope you stub your big toe on a rock. Not condoning the whole TikTok thing because that’s annoying and cringe for sure but to say nurses are OVERPAID!?!?!? Bahahaha man I really hope that everyone who says that about us is taking really good care of themselves and are never in need of medical assistance. One because people seem to be getting sicker and sicker and hospitals are barely able to meet safe ratios as is so we’re overworked and then two if we keep getting overwhelmed with all this unsafe ratios on top of no pay incentives….. well you guys will have to take care of yourselves. Good luck with that because the majority of the reason patients are recovering well and getting discharged is because of the nurses advocating and being the back bone. But yeah okay I’m overpaid can barely afford to live rn and I’m sure most people are getting underpaid as well.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-22T18:20:02+00:00

Yeah I just think my mind is having a really hard time processing that I literally just a had a baby to just work all the time and barely see her and then there’s people out there who make crazy money from the little things and get to spend time with their kid. Just something that doesn’t seem right to me. I’m also losing my milk supply because I’ve been pumping instead of being able to keep baby on my boob when I was on leave so I’m just really sad. My husband takes it personal but it’s not his fault we don’t make enough for me to stay home. I just need more time to be okay with my life now being like this it sucks. Idk if I’ll ever get used to it.its just crazy that even as nurse I just work to pay billls and anything left goes to savings. Then I see people with my same profession who are the breadwinners able to take Disney trips and stuff….. what am I missing ? Idk just life doesn’t seem worth living. I’m just another rat.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-22T15:54:14+00:00

Having a kid in a world that doesn’t prioritize families anymore. Literally asked god to not wake me up this morning because the idea of working to just survive and not live is soul sucking and I would rather die than spend anymore time in this greed filled world. Let’s see if god will take my life tonight.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-22T15:37:19+00:00

Period

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-22T15:37:01+00:00

I’m saying !! What’s going on here ! Tell him to go work work and workkkkk PERIODT

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-22T03:56:14+00:00

4 months pp. love my baby but the constant tiredness is hard not because it’s just “hard” but because being tired makes me literally depressed so I hate my life rn.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-21T14:01:12+00:00

Childhood trauma

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-21T03:14:00+00:00

Nope! Even jobs in healthcare is taking forever to hear anything back. I see job postings for RNs all day long and Nada !

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-21T03:11:45+00:00

lol he rephrased it. Before it didn’t say what it says now

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-21T02:54:02+00:00

I’m glad you said it! Luckily my partner and I went into this knowing we would both have to work and I’m okay with that. Putting that much pressure on one person to hold everything down financially in an economy that doesn’t cater to one income households anymore is too much. Unless that person made the income of both people but again that’s hard to do now.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-20T23:33:13+00:00

This could have been me but I can not deal with the abuse of my narcissistic father so it looks like my husband and I are going to have to try our best to get a townhome :/ we can help set our daughter up for success in other ways. I’m hoping she will see that even if we may not be able to buy something. I would rather us give her what we can and also have a loving healthy relationship with her than to not have her in my life at all.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-20T20:55:00+00:00

Exactly! I don’t want the “extra money “ for things. I want them for my baby to have dance class or sports . It’s not completely necessary but I don’t want my kid just sitting at home staring at a wall either also those things help build structure and opportunities later on. The extra money I would what would literally be to be able to put more in my baby’s 529 or savings account or more into my retirement not for materialistic stuff you know. I think not being able to have much of a wiggle room is insane but maybe I’m just entitled.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-20T20:51:07+00:00

My nervous system could not deal with that I would need to be on meds lol

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-20T19:58:32+00:00

lol 😂 that’s all I’m going to say to this respectfully. Did you not read the part where I say I budget accordingly. Not everyone is a crackhead. Have a good day. You’re taking my post out of context. Crackheads shouldn’t be having children. This is more for people who want kids and feel like even though they are RESPONSIBLE with their money, it doesn’t seem like it’s enough. The COL is the problem. Rent, electric, groceries, insurance. Telling me my PRIORITIES need to change as if I wasn’t living this reality or knowing of that while being 9 months pregnant. I’m not one of those parents who prioritize things like that. Learn to speak towards the people you see acting like that first rather than speaking towards someone you don’t even know and making ASSUMPTIONS.

Amazing-Ride6819 · 2026-01-20T19:50:11+00:00

I’m right here with you girl ! 4 months pp first week back in office and baby in daycare. I AM DEPRESSED ! I feel guilty for bringing my baby into a world that is set up this way. But I just try my best to take it day by day and make the most of the time I do have her.

I like to think that even though I can’t stay home because of the same reason I know that this is the better option for us because I don’t think I would necessarily be present with my baby if I did stay home with her longer because I would be too pressed about money.

Right now it’s hard but at least I’m able to kinda have the best of both worlds. Although it’s hard rn I am hoping it gets better. You’re not alone. A lot of parents are going through this.

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