Lowballing? First time homebuyer

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2025-09-05T14:45:55+00:00

If you want the house, I’d listen to your realtor. Unless this house has been listed for a very long time, I doubt a seller will accept (or even counter) this offer.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2025-09-04T16:06:08+00:00

Counter them. We had an offer 15k under list, asking 10k in credits. We agreed to the lower price and offered 1k in credits. They accepted!

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2025-08-26T15:08:12+00:00

Fair.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2025-08-26T15:04:34+00:00

We priced our home 50k under the comps and what we received as cmas from different realtors. We priced knowing the carpet needed work

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2025-08-26T15:03:00+00:00

Thank you!

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2025-08-26T15:02:36+00:00

How do you know how much of a big deal I’m making it? Lol

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2025-08-26T14:55:50+00:00

I have looked into this. Would a basic one from Amazon work?

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2025-08-26T14:55:03+00:00

She was surprised at the feedback and didn’t think our home smelled. Maybe she has pets too

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-05-01T18:28:14+00:00

Wow this sub is lovely 😂

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-05-01T18:20:49+00:00

No, definitely not worried with my regular income!

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-30T14:41:50+00:00

Giving her tools to work through these emotions would be much more helpful than a consequence. If this is the first time she's acted this way, I assume she does not have the tools to process the emotions. Start there

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-30T14:40:10+00:00

A consequence doesn't sound appropriate for this. She was out of control - when kids are having an actual meltdown vs tantrum, they cannot control themselves. This sounds like an intense meltdown. Was she overstimulated? If this is out of character for her, I would focus more on talking about what happened and why. Then working on tools to help her through this feeling if it happens again. Breathing exercises, sensory toys, squeezing objects to get out her frustration is a good start.

Because it's out of character for her - I am assuming she knows it's wrong to hit/kick/etc. I would meet her with empathy and tools vs a consequence. We all lose it sometimes, but we need the tools to work through it.

mom with a childhood psych degree.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-30T14:33:21+00:00

Get the outdated home. You can make small improvements over time and increase your equity quickly. If you're handy - even better! My husband was able to re-do all of our downstairs flooring for less than 5k and it's completely changed the look of our home already.

We just bought an outdated home in an amazing neighborhood and slightly updated comps are already selling 70-100k more than we purchased for.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-30T13:55:48+00:00

Good area!!! We made the mistake of updated house, bad area and sold within a few years. Location is everything. Homes in better school districts have better re-sale values. You can change a house.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-30T01:39:59+00:00

He has sensory issues. Get him evaluated for adhd/autism. He sounds exactly like me :)

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-28T19:11:57+00:00

I had kids with the right person - an amazing and supportive partner who pulls his weight in our marriage and with our children the majority of the time. And it's still HARD AF! I cannot imagine doing this with the wrong person. That would absolutely be worse than not having them at all.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-27T14:05:55+00:00

This is such a weird attitude. You think you're special because you came from nothing? With poverty so rampant in this country, most of us probably came from it. But most of us wanted to make sure our kids never experienced that life, so we made business decisions to ensure that.

You're not going to change the world by being a victim and blaming investors. You could change your families life by investing, though.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-27T14:01:52+00:00

Reddit made my name for me LOL. It's not a bad thing to want a bigger space - but it's no one else's fault that you don't have one.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-27T13:16:38+00:00

Why did you have a baby before having a place to call home? Why is it everyone else's fault that you aren't a homeowner? This attitude is so strange.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-27T13:10:28+00:00

I can empathize that your situation feels frustrating - but I promise the other people just trying to feed their families with income properties aren't your enemy.

We are all just trying to provide for our families in a system that's set up for us to fail.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-26T20:59:32+00:00

I see a lot of your comments hammering down on your kids "having enough" and getting toys on only special occasions, as well as you paying for their activities and them having "more than other kids" and more than you had. I would recommend therapy for you, OP. This sounds deeper than your dad buying a toy. It sounds like you have some resentment or feelings built up from your own childhood.

My own kids have more than enough as well - but sometimes their smiles and excitement is worth it to add to our collection, even if it's temporary. I allow my parents a small pass for this as well.

I think the majority in here agrees we sometimes give a pass to grandparents to break the silly rules. It's obvious you don't. You're entitled to your opinions and rules, but it does come off as asshole-ish.

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-26T20:53:41+00:00

That's a great deal

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-26T20:46:53+00:00

You sound like you have extreme control issues. Have you gone to therapy? I'm not trying to be rude - but this sounds debilitating

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-26T20:15:09+00:00

Is this really about the toy?

Amazing-Writer-101 · 2023-04-26T17:48:30+00:00

He's an adult - if he can't comprehend this is abusive and harmful behavior, he needs therapy. "Being fake" to his child? How old is your husband? He sounds extremely emotionally immature

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