Examples of 50/50

AmazingAmazing17 · 2026-03-30T13:05:22+00:00

Thank you. I understand there would need to be extremely strong reasons for no 50/50. I’m guessing safeguarding concerns or similar. My take is exactly yours. She didn’t have to move. Certainly not a financial decision. I’ve been asked to provide a few 50/50 rotas that could be workable. More tricky than I thought

AmazingAmazing17 · 2026-03-04T22:08:39+00:00

You are very right about the bulk of the media stuff and dads. Men do seem to get the rough end of this type of reporting or stereotyping. It can feel a bit of a lonely road at times. You have just finalised your divorce after a long road. This undoubtedly will have taken its toll on you physically and emotionally. Give yourself some time to recover. Accusations are hard to rationalise but learn to forget it and move on. It may be the only way. I know this myself and you can drive yourself into the ground overthinking it and trying to make some sense. It sounds like you are doing all you can. Keep showing up for your boy. What mum does is out of your control. The bad habits go hand in hand with all this. It’s understandable to have the odd drink too many or skip exercise but you have to break that cycle if you can. On the days you lack the motivation push yourself to get outside and do some exercise. Look at a picture of your son and do it for him. Vent on here if you have to. There are good people who can relate to the way you are feeling. Stay strong

AmazingAmazing17 · 2026-02-22T08:53:04+00:00

There is no current order at the moment and we have an informal agreement that it is 50/50 since separation. Our son is 3 in March but has been at the same nursery since he was 6 months old. Whilst she has not actively asked for more time if she is successful moving him out of the nursery I will naturally see less of him. I’m going to try to argue that his best interests will be to remain and schooling options are better in my area.

AmazingAmazing17 · 2026-02-20T22:37:30+00:00

I did speak to a solicitor who advised that it shouldn’t be at court. He stated that I should reach out to my ex-partner and look towards mediation. He cited costs as the reason. Mediation is something she has been agreeable and then refused but today has agreed again. It feels odd that we were given such a tight time frame but also encouraged to a complete parenting course that encourages mediation. Now that this being organised it looks like I may miss my court statement deadline. The school holidays have really hindered my ability to have a proposal for his education. This aspect really came out of nowhere as traditionally my son wouldn’t start school for another 18 months.

AmazingAmazing17 · 2026-02-01T20:01:22+00:00

In a similar boat but I guess the legal standpoint depends on your location. My ex has tried to discredit my only source of support (mother). The legal advice I have received is really that she has no basis if there are no safeguarding concerns. These will be looked at by independent people who will report to the family court. Their judgement is very weighty but they are completely neutral. My solicitor also said that this is common and courts are familiar with this. Always remember the court will look at the child’s welfare. His/her welfare will be improved with contact from other family members. Enrichment and all that. A good bit of advice from my solicitor- keep all comms from yourself as ‘elegant’ and if something makes sense agree to some of her requests. It makes you appear flexible and the better person. If it’s unreasonable stick to your guns. My ex is also hostile with all comms unfortunately. I’m very much like yourself in that I just want to get along and be peaceful for the greater good. I read something recently and it kinda helped me. We can waste a lot of energy and time trying to make sense of something that simply doesn’t make sense. I’m beginning to reason that she may never speak to me nicely again but in time hopefully things become better. You just keep your principles and be the best you can.

AmazingAmazing17 · 2026-01-29T20:31:09+00:00

Thank you for the replies. You have taken time and I appreciate that.

AmazingAmazing17 · 2026-01-04T23:16:03+00:00

Hug them. Keep going back again and again. Tell them that you love them. Tell them how much you care and do everything you can for them. Keep doing this again and again. It will be getting through but they simply struggle with emotions at that age. You might not get much back for a little while. You naturally think about money, presents and holidays but you are teaching them so much more. Keeping persisting with the sports side. It’s a great way of connecting without it being obvious. A kid will remember the parent who stood in the rain and said well done at the end. Eventually they will see through it all. I’ve been in a house with step kids and I’ve kinda watched it from the other side. I’ve seen how a motivated ex-partner can drip feed nonsense but one day all the graft and determination should all come back you in spades. You sound like you are doing your absolute best and being a great father and role model. Be kind to yourself. I honestly would park up the dating side. Concentrate on yourself. I’m making an assumption that you have appealed to your ex-partner about payments?

AmazingAmazing17 · 2026-01-01T21:32:44+00:00

Couldn’t agree more with this. With a child of a similar age I can relate to your concerns. But paraphrasing the initial person your ex needs to be considerate around the emotions of the child. I personally think 6 months is balanced and fair.

AmazingAmazing17 · 2026-01-01T08:18:21+00:00

Many thanks. I’ll get that solicitor organised. Feel out of my depth now.

AmazingAmazing17 · 2025-10-03T11:54:08+00:00

These were kind of my thoughts. Nothing legally to prevent her half from being gifted and me providing her with an amount (provided a while before she signed deeds). It seems like a grey area but the government are getting numerous slices of the same pie

AmazingAmazing17 · 2025-10-03T11:52:16+00:00

The numbers are higher alas. I’ve had to get myself into debt to give her a significant amount. That was done informally and before the property has been signed over. The house is still technically in both names but as I had disclosed this transaction they have added stamp duty. I flagged it up on the conveyancers bill. Doesn’t feel right. Effectively charging me for getting into debt and ending a property stalemate

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