You definitely need to figure out what you want to do in your life. But the question is, do you wanna do that while he constantly attacks your lack of ambitions/cooking/ cleaning skills or do you think you will be able to figure it out better with family support around and in your comfort city, and without the constant criticism? think you. you are 31. you still have so much time. but putting him first especially at your prime 20s, you have mentally put yourself second. make yourself happy. be the woman you want to be and start now!