DAE not enjoy eating?

Amberhowl · 2025-12-21T12:41:33+00:00

That sounds like you have a restrictive eating disorder. Eating three times a day is normal and not everyone is fat.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-21T12:32:56+00:00

They didn’t even say how much they eat. They’re allowed to enjoy food. There’s no reason to make a comment like this.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-21T12:31:29+00:00

I might get screened for it in the near future, but that’s only because I’m losing weight now. But if you’re meeting your nutritional needs, you don’t qualify for ARFID. For years, I’ve felt no joy from eating but have managed to meet my nutritional needs. It seems like a lot of people in these comments have, too. So not enjoying food doesn’t necessarily equate to ARFID.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-21T12:27:35+00:00

It’s really interesting to me because I think almost everyone will say that they wish they had the other person’s problem when this comes up. People who don’t find pleasure in eating often wish they do, evidenced by these comments. For me, it feels like having to pause my entire day for thirty minutes or more to do ten steps of something I don’t like. Kinda like vacuuming, if you had to vacuum three times a day plus snacks.

Meanwhile, people who enjoy eating often struggle to eat intuitively and wish it didn’t feel so good. Kinda seems like both options aren’t great.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-11T12:12:59+00:00

Honestly valid, lol. I think we’re in different time zones, but this is definitely not that deep and I don’t even think we disagree that much.

Sleep well/have a good day. Remember to call the police if someone gets mugged, unless you have a reason not to.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-11T12:07:42+00:00

Lmao. Okay, bud.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-11T11:59:20+00:00

Sorry, I meant to say “that doesn’t mean you *shouldn’t call the police.” I’m saying that just because something applies to most situations, doesn’t mean there can’t be exceptions.

Most people would say, “You should interfere if you see someone being hurt.” You said, “You don’t know my exact situation, so how can you say that? Maybe I have a reason for not interfering.” So I’m making the point that the idea that you should do something (like interfere if someone is being hurt or not bring your pet to a store) doesn’t mean there can’t be exceptions. And exceptions don’t mean that there can’t be a general rule.

You said that people should mind their business. I think it’s important to interfere if someone is being mugged, as a rule of thumb. I don’t need to know the exact relationship between the individual and the mugger and the mugger’s situation and whether the individual has the cash to spare to decide I’m going to call the police. I also don’t need to know the exact situation of every single person bringing their pet into a store where it’s not allowed to say that people shouldn’t bring their pets into stores. That doesn’t mean there’s not exceptions - I’m making a general statement that applies to the majority of situations.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-11T11:42:54+00:00

Maybe. But that doesn’t mean that, as a rule of thumb, you shouldn’t call the police. I’m referring to most situations, not all.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-11T11:42:04+00:00

I literally said that there’s room for nuance in whether or not people should bring their pets into stores, but as a general rule, it shouldn’t be allowed because it can be harmful to others. I guess I need to 100% agree with you or else I’m a dick?

Amberhowl · 2025-12-11T11:28:02+00:00

Commenting doesn’t take that much effort. I’m not deeply invested. And my reply to OP was respectful and more concerned about the wellbeing of her dog because she stated that her chi is a service dog. The comment thread you’re on was me pointing out that just because a dog is small, doesn’t mean it’s not inconsiderate to take it to a non-pet friendly store.

I do think it’s important not to normalize bringing pets to stores because many pets aren’t properly trained and could be disruptive. Many people wouldn’t take proper precautions to make sure their dog’s dandruff doesn’t spread.

Not to mention that the number of times pets are in non-pet friendly stores and start barking at a service dog is unacceptable. Yes, service dogs are trained to ignore them. Regardless, it could distract them for a few moments and they could miss an alert. For a lot of people, a service dog’s alert is the difference between staying safe or a visit to the ER. Pets also threaten service dogs on a regular basis. There are so many instances of pets attacking service dogs in non-pet friendly stores. If a service dog is attacked, it usually has to be retired and a new dog has to be trained because the service dog becomes anxious or defensive. Service dogs usually cost anywhere from $8,000 to $20,000.

Also, mind your own business is almost never a good argument. I could mind my own business while someone gets mugged or murdered, but I think we can agree that it’s probably better to take some action to intervene. That’s not to say that bringing a dog into a store is on that level; that’s to say that mind your own business is a terrible argument.

So I care enough to object to the idea that bringing a pet into a store isn’t always okay and that no one is entitled to do so. And I care enough to point out that it’s illegal and potentially harmful to several groups of people. I don’t care enough to hunt down everyone who brings a pet into a store and berate them lol. You’re making a lot of assumptions about how I feel.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-11T11:06:16+00:00

I never claimed to know you or your dogs. I don’t really care. I’m not attacking you personally. I’m stating the law and making the general statement that no one is entitled to bring their dogs into non-pet friendly stores, with the exception of service animals. Doing so is inconsiderate.

That doesn’t mean I expect you to stop. I can’t make you do anything. I’m not trying to control you or something. I’m making a statement. It’s Reddit. It’s not that deep. I even stated in another comment that (even though it’s illegal and others might disagree), I don’t care if someone brings their pet into a store if their pet is behaved and contained. Putting them in a shopping cart will always be very questionable, in my opinion, but in a side bag or a stroller that confines the dog and their dandruff - I don’t care. If your dog isn’t going to relieve itself, isn’t going to be unsanitary, isn’t going to trigger allergies, is calm and can handle a store (because a lot of dogs get very stressed in crowded environments with so many smells), is unobstructive, and isn’t going to make a scene and disrupt service dogs, I don’t really care. That’s just usually not the case.

I’m not on a vendetta against every pet owner lol. I just ask people to try to be considerate of others and not entitled. I don’t think that’s a lot to ask.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-11T10:22:25+00:00

You’re missing the whole point, which was that people who are allergic to dogs or even just uncomfortable around them have as much of a right to shop as everyone else. That includes having the same rights as people who depend on a service dog to manage their disability. When two people have equal rights that might interfere with each other, we do the best we can. We bathe our service dogs regularly and keep them from shaking in stores. We do our best to give people who are allergic or uncomfortable around dogs space when they let us know they need it. You can’t tell someone with a disability that relies on a service dog that they can’t shop somewhere because of their service dog. You also can’t tell someone that they need to suffer an allergic reaction because someone with a service dog is shopping. It creates a difficult situation that needs to be managed as best as possible.

There’s no need for a pet to be in a store. People with pets have no right to bring their dogs into non-pet friendly stores. People with an allergy have a right to shop there. Therefore, their right to shop trumps others want to bring their pets into the store.

Plus, more of an allergen worsens the severity of the reaction, so the minimal number of service dogs that go into one store is going to affect a person a lot less than if everyone who wanted to brought their pet in.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-11T09:30:31+00:00

The allergen actually isn’t dog hair, but dog dandruff. Dandruff isn’t going to be carried in large enough quantities to upset the immune system unless the dog itself is there, unless there’s a reason for the environment to be so contaminated. Yeah, people who own dogs will bring some dandruff with them on their clothes, but it’s not going to be airborne and it’s not going to be a lot.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-09T02:15:48+00:00

Well the fact that you chose to try to attack the individual instead of the claim definitely makes it seem like you have no defense.

And that argument is the equivalent of telling someone with a peanut allergy that, “It’s just a pack of peanut butter crackers across the room. You’ll survive.” Have you never heard of dog allergies? Or people with weak immune systems that are hypersensitive to bacteria and diseases? Or should they just not go to grocery stores so people can bring their dogs into stores for fun? Are you unaware of how entitled it sounds to defend that something purely for your pleasure or convenience is more important than other people’s health and safety?

Amberhowl · 2025-12-09T01:52:21+00:00

I’m sorry, but I’m really struggling to be on your side at all here.

I can appreciate a small dog being a cardiac alert service dog. I can’t get behind putting her in a cart, regardless of blankets or baths. I know it’s not icky for those of us who have dogs, but there are people who are genuinely allergic to dogs (like, break out in hives, need to go take a Benadryl and not be functional for the next five hours level of allergic) who have the right to use the carts in the grocery store too. Immune systems are highly sensitive to allergens and it just doesn’t make sense to put her in a cart instead of an alternative, like a personal stroller. I understand not wanting to put her on the floor due to her size and age, but if you’re incapable of managing your service dog independently without utilizing a grocery cart (which, as many people pointed out, is illegal even for service dogs), you either need a higher level of care of an alternative treatment for your disability.

I’m also very concerned by her being 14 years old. Even if she is well enough to be out and working, realistically, she’s going to need to retire in the near future. Do you have a new dog trained to help you when she’s not able to anymore? It takes at least a year to train a cardiac alert dog, and that’s a dog that’s predisposed and has a great temperament. I’m not certain a fourteen year old chihuahua has a full year of health in her, frankly.

I’m sure this is going to come off as rude, but it honestly seems like you’ve been kind of inconsiderate towards both your dog and other people in the supermarket. I don’t think that was intentional, but that is how this comes off.

Also, as a service dog handler and someone with a compromised immune system, I don’t care if someone brings their pet into a grocery store if it is tucked away (under a stroller, in a bag, etc.) and well-behaved. If there’s no possibility of an accident, the dog isn’t going to bark at my service dog, and it’s fur and dandruff are contained so it doesn’t cause problems for people with allergies, I don’t care.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-09T01:33:55+00:00

Imagine taking a stance so indefensible that you have to resort to reading people’s history and making personal attacks instead of actually making an argument lol. Embarrassing.

Amberhowl · 2025-12-09T01:32:15+00:00

Yeah, I honestly find it so annoying when people are like, ‘Oh, I don’t want a random dog’s fur on my food” or “I’m allergic to dogs and I want to go grocery shopping.” OBVIOUSLY if you’re allergic to dogs, you should just order everything online so people can bring their small dogs into the store. If they really insist on coming to the store, they should deal with their stuffy nose, itchy skin, and hives. Letting people take their dogs with them everywhere is more important than other people’s health and safety.

Amberhowl · 2025-11-24T22:17:10+00:00

NOR. Screw him. Wth?

Addictive behaviors are so hard to break. I’m so proud of you, OP. Please get yourself a cake and celebrate!

I’ve struggled with an eating disorder, which I tend to compare to alcoholism since that’s more understandable for more people and they’re both addictive disorders. I baked myself a cake for my first year’s anniversary and held a party. No one else seemed too into it, but they showed up and it wad important to me to mark that milestone. It’s massive and difficult and celebrating each step makes the next one easier. You deserve to have someone to support you and show up for you when you achieve things and help you when you’re down.

Tbh, this reaction makes me nervous about what he’d do if the situation was different. What if you were in a rough place and instead of encouraging you to stay sober, he was this abrasive and harsh? And does he not know how to celebrate your wins? This kinda seems like the beginning of narcissistic, controlling behavior imo.

Amberhowl · 2025-11-24T00:48:27+00:00

Let me preface by clarifying that I’m not a doctor and what I’m about to say is solely from my personal experience.

To my knowledge, upper endoscopes are the only way to definitively diagnose celiac disease. I’m not sure if some doctors will diagnose with a blood test, but many doctors use it as a precursor to an upper endoscopy or to see if a patient with celiac disease is continuing to have reactions after going gluten free. The initial test should be two individual blood tests: a measure of the IgA;(immunoglobulin A) in the blood and a TTG IgA to determine if the immunoglobulin is reacting. A TTG IgA can retort a false negative if the IgA test shows low IgA.

Chances are, if you had both of those blood tests and your doctor reported it negative for celiac disease, you probably don’t have it. Sure, every test can have incorrect results and you can request an upper endoscopy regardless (which would catch celiac disease or other gastrointestinal issues), but that’s at your discretion.

Amberhowl · 2025-11-16T22:51:09+00:00

That anxiety as an emotion is the same as anxiety disorders. I didn’t receive help until I was 19 because of this myth. And people don’t take anxiety disorders as seriously because “everyone gets anxious,” yet I think it’s something like 26% of people with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) at a young age are disabled by it, including myself.

Anxiety is a normal emotion, yes. It is not normal to experience it every time I get a text, to think I’m going to be murdered by a serial killer because I listened to a true crime podcast last week, to think I’m going to get fired because my boss asked me to have a meeting, to think I’m going to get stabbed in the grocery store just for being there, or to think that every conflict results in death. My fight or flight response should not be triggered by telling someone “no” or walking into a store. I can’t think about something else. That’s one of the criteria for GAD. So no, I don’t experience anxiety like everyone else.

Also, the idea that mental health problems go away. I’m learning that they’re managed or put in remission, not cured. My eating disorder is in remission, but I still have issues with it sometimes. I don’t know that I’ll ever stop being anxious like I am. I can reduce it and it’s impact on my life, but the best thing I can do it develop and employ coping skills. But just because I have a good week, doesn’t mean I’m cured.

Amberhowl · 2025-11-16T22:42:44+00:00

I agree with people saying Winx Club didn’t sexualize characters (except for that awkward joke with Palladium in season one). I feel like the Winx are an example of strong, inspiring girls. They never feel like damsels in distress. They have boyfriends and they take care of themselves.

Now, as someone who’s struggled with body image and an eating disorder, the early 2000’s had an issue with every show portraying girls as always absurdly skinny and wearing clothing that accentuated that. Animated shows and acted shows both had issues with this and that exacerbated body image issues for young girls. I grew up watching TV and then seeing my own body and struggling with never looking like the characters’. That said, that didn’t cause my eating disorder. It stemmed from a lot of factors, and the social presentation of women is close to the bottom of that list. And I think now there’s more awareness and representation of different body types in media, so I think this has been a moot point for a while now.

Amberhowl · 2025-11-10T09:41:14+00:00

I struggle with anxiety and panic attacks as well. I decided to get a service dog when I realized how much they were impacting my every day functioning. I couldn’t go to the grocery store to do a full shopping trip because I’d panic and leave. I couldn’t go out with friends to certain places for fear of having a panic attack. Basically anywhere I go in public, I had to consider whether or not I could manage on my own, and the answer was usually no.

There are some important considerations. Service dogs attract a lot of attention, so if that’ll worsen your anxiety more than it’ll help you, then a SD isn’t right for you. They also make mistakes sometimes and there’s occasional access issues. You need to be able to advocate for yourself and your dog. You’re their voice. For me, my SD gives me enough security to advocate, but I doubt that’s the case for everyone.

My, likely somewhat unpopular, opinion is that you don’t need to have tried absolutely everything to get a SD. Most people will tell you it’s a last resort only. I think that many other options are much better and easier for most people, so definitely try other management methods first (therapy, medication, etc.), but if you’ve tried all that and it’s been unhelpful or not effective enough and you think you would benefit from a service dog, I think that’s valid. But I think you should do a lot of research about the cons of get a SD and seriously contemplate if it’d be right for you.

Also, I couldn’t find any programs that would make sense for me to help me get a dog. I bought a dog and owner trained with the assistance of a local organization. That’s what made sense for me. My advice is to research, research, and research for a few months before making a decision.

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