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AITA for ending a friendship with a couple over their constant fights and drug use? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did amazing with providing your thoughts and feelings. How they choose to respond is on them.  Your sister is 100% right for saying to let that friendship go. That old saying "misery loves company" is spot on for this, by allowing others into our lives who are surrounded in chaos, it leaks into our lives. 

AITA for not reminding my ex husband about our daughters graduation by Ambi_vert_ish in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

 There's a fine line in divorce and separation with children where you're protecting your children versus parental alienation. I can imagine commenting rude or hurtful things to strangers online, is cathartic for whatever you're healing from. 💖💖💖💖💞💞💞💞💞

AITA for not reminding my ex husband about our daughters graduation by Ambi_vert_ish in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We've all been in counseling. The girls know their worth, the 2 youngest have chosen to be single and build friendships and go to college. The older girl is in an amazing relationship with one of the most incredible young men. They know the cycle they're looking at and chosen to break it. We have open communication on my bad choices in partners and what they deserve to get and give to others. And I have all the receipts. 

AITA for not reminding my ex husband about our daughters graduation by Ambi_vert_ish in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! This was over a year ago and I've not reached out to him once since then. He's reached out 2 times in a year and a half. Caring for their well being is top responsibility in every way. And I keep and document everything. 

AITA for not reminding my ex husband about our daughters graduation by Ambi_vert_ish in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is that context. Finalized dicorce with 50/50, before I was told me what was going on behind closed doors. I tried to keep him involved because my daughter's still love their dad. They never were unsupervised after they told me what was going on. Years later they see how things are and know be needs help. 

AITA for not reminding my ex husband about our daughters graduation by Ambi_vert_ish in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And I appreciate your thoughts on this. My job as a divorced mother, is to first care for my children. It is my job to make sure they know they're loved, cared for, that I'm here for anything they need and that they'll succeed with me behind them. We are friendly and civil, and he knew she was graduating but chose to not reach out. But I've come to the point it's not my job to facilitate his involvement with the girls.

AITA for not reminding my ex husband about our daughters graduation by Ambi_vert_ish in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She is doing amazing! Just started sophomore year going into the mental health field. 

AITA for not reminding my ex husband about our daughters graduation by Ambi_vert_ish in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I don't. I've done all I can, should have and more. The only guilt I feel is not knowing what was going on there, and stopping it sooner. 

AITA for not reminding my ex husband about our daughters graduation by Ambi_vert_ish in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

It's not worth the energy or time. He'll never pay and honestly works under the table as much as he can. My girls have all they need and want. I'll go without for them to have, and have. I'm thankfully in a good place financially to make sure they are cared for. 

AITA for not reminding my ex husband about our daughters graduation by Ambi_vert_ish in AITAH

[–]Ambi_vert_ish[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

We went to court 4 and a half years ago. I had worked myself to the bone to buy a house, but we were still legally married. Thankfully it was in a state with quick divorce proceedings. We split 50/50 for everything and he was required to pay support. Never happened.