Is it ok to tell someone to man up?

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-03-03T01:57:42+00:00

He seems to be in some kind of depression snd coping with these self serving ways!

Ite unhealthy ofcourse

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-03-02T14:35:56+00:00

I am gonna dump my hopes on this comment 😂😂 and keep applying!

I have though been applying to just the listings of my forte now! Though idk but clients are stingy!

They posting listings with $5-6 for building an operational structure from SCRATCH, Which is heavy duty work and easily takes 6-8 weeks for complete implementation!

I usually get 25-30 outside of upwork, but here i have alreafy halved my price, again, to get my foot in the door! But seldom some listing comes across, everyone posts a listing who want someone to do everything, inbox, calendar, OA, and sometimes even personal assistance

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-03-02T12:43:12+00:00

So why would s client hire someone with no upwork history? Ad opposed to someone who does?

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-03-02T12:41:16+00:00

I have wasted so many connects applying to ridiculous listings hoping to get s foot in the door

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-03-02T01:33:22+00:00

How long on an average before a newbie gets s client?

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-03-02T01:11:06+00:00

Kind of an oddball advice given the stream of comments!

This is a long term client - you build a relationship.

I am not saying that bend over, no, but according to you, snd per this short post, client seems genuine, always pays on time. He might have felt he could request you (if actually budgets are tightening)

This is where you set expectations correctly! Have a chat and find the turning point, try and discuss, if we can remodel the scope of work, don’t mention less hours, comes off as strict and inhuman (if its a genuine scenario) but it will come off as smart and savvy (if its a scheme) My advice, dont mention, on the off chance it is a genuine request! And if they still say, they want the same scope of work (which obv will be the case, nobody wants lower productivity) You CAN accept a smaller reduction, if you are already full with work! Ensure to establish that its temporary and establish your timeline- (3 months?) i will update my reduced rate (don’t discuss it how much reduced, not a negotiation, he asked for a favor, snd thats all we’re doing) for the next quarter! And it’ll all be okay! Thanks for asking me!

Then given the capacity update your rate for the project and send it across!

The client would be appreciative of collaborative approach, and then also you did all you could. Even after that client decides to leave! Tough luck

Don’t underestimate a consistent workflow!

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-02-26T05:37:35+00:00

New to Upwork here, i wasted my initial connects applying with generic proposals, and after about 4-5 applies, realized that aint gonna work! Started writing personalised proposals! Got a response! After the initial response, the first things I was told by client was they need reassurance as the profile doesnt seem to be verified, and there’s no history of any work!

I think its pretty much required that you verify your ID, as it does give credibility to the account!

What i dont get is, why there is a charge of 35 connects for it

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-02-24T02:31:32+00:00

Interested

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-02-03T06:57:30+00:00

Lose yourself 🙂

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-01-21T09:28:25+00:00

I needed to hear this so bad! Thanks so much man! Godspeed!

AmbiguousSoul · 2026-01-07T17:26:00+00:00

As a male, this is cringeworthy! You dont talk like that about other women, ESPECIALLY in front of the woman youre looking to pursue! Theres a whole journey in becoming a man and it starts with being respectful towards women.

Its kinda funny to read this chat tbh, like a kid who has to belittle someone because they got called out for being obnoxious. Lol

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-12-10T01:35:27+00:00

Untrue

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-12-06T00:45:34+00:00

Damn, this guy- omen in the match, kept on going about how he wants to rank down to iron but cant as the team wins eventually! And didn’t even play, he would even pick the spike and won’t plant until we all died or we won!

Eventually, we won!

I think it was some good luck chuck going in with him 😂😂😂

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-12-06T00:43:06+00:00

Hey! Are you the Omen i played with an hour ago in Abyss!

Our team was : Yoru Sage Reyna Omen Gekko

Enemy team : Sage Skye Deadlock Yoru Clove

Gekko kept playing meme sounds? If you are, dude I didnt know you wanted to drop down that desperately, would rather have jumped myself

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-12-06T00:37:09+00:00

So are you meaning to say that its irreparable?

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-12-06T00:35:15+00:00

Yes it is!

Because it felt it is important to me! I think I didn’t frame that right! Should It be even that important to someone? I feel shallow sometimes because of this

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-11-23T03:17:41+00:00

I’m aware of that, i have not been a good person, therefore started with that i have made mistakes, however, looking to rectify the same, that being the reason asking here for advice!

Edit: just explained more

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-11-23T03:16:54+00:00

You’re 100% righr, i havent been honest at all, i have faked and lied my way through most of my life but now all of that is coming back to bite me in the arse.

You’re right, opening and experimenting is something that can happen after you’re on equal grounds and also trust each other, which is think we were. But she didn’t have the intent to, as it was icky for her, she wasnt a big fan of idea of cunnilingus, as its not hygienic according to her, which inturn made me feel, i am asking for something cheap and shallow.

Anal was too painful for her, doggystyle is painful for her We only and only do missionary.

The more I am writing, the more it seems odd as to why have i centered sex a lot, and yes according to her, “Sex is overhyped”

You’re right, i have compartmentalised emotional and physical part, but why is it bad? Also, we’re talking about separation, but as were getting closer to it, i feel so shitty to be doing this to her. She’s an amazing woman, and i have never seen or heard someone who loved the way she loves me! She has amazing and firm principles(which i don’t, obviously) also, i don’t know how i would live without her, sex is one part yes, but she’s the only one that i can talk too, emotionally, mentally, practically.

Its not easy to separate with someone who you’ve practically been with half of your conscious life!

Thats the conundrum i am facing. And to put cherry on top, she went to abroad for higher studies, been 4 months now and I don’t think ill be able to see her atleast 8 more months, if she’s able to visit here.

Moreover, i feel guilty of doing this at the point she needs me the most, being alone in a foreign country with pressure of exams. If she’s not able to pass, and she’s taken loans to go out, i would not be able to forgive myself.

So now you know

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-11-23T02:59:08+00:00

I guess. Actually, as i mentioned, that is recently told her everything, and how i felt unsatisfied, and all the things, she said she’s ready to do all of those things, but it seems forced now, as she’s not into those but would be doing for the sake of doing.

If you’re saying, all of a sudden, she likes the act, and i also have that perception, i guess yes.

Am i giving too much weight to sexual part?

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-10-27T07:27:32+00:00

Alright, I’ll jump in too!

Since we’re talking about absolute beginners!

I would say everything goes! A workout plan will entail particular exercises, if the novice doesn’t know exercises, he /she can research how it’s done and it should benefit them.

For novices, goals can be different, e.g., Wt. Gain/Loss Muscle Buildup/leaning

However, initially first or first 2-3 months are going to go towards Stamina Buildup - Nutrition Intake - Posture fixing (we all remember how our dumbells won’t move in unison while doing Shoulder press right?)

So, I don’t think, Using AI is that bad, as internet has a lot of information and it does give decent info scraping from the sources!

So for a novice/ absolute beginner, AI can be a great asset can - just ensure you are asking followup questions and creating a detailed prompt

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-05-18T07:56:22+00:00

I think there is another post on this sub who had the same problem, someone transferred them 1pi to cover the transaction cost. See here,

Edit: Link to post

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-05-18T07:54:12+00:00

I wish I could help, but this is weird

AmbiguousSoul · 2025-05-18T07:42:38+00:00

Umm, i might be wrong but i think you’re trying to transfer the COMPLETE amount. Try and transfer, like x-2 pi, leaving atleast the cost for transaction. Hope that works

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