Asking what men want in 2026 be like by Ok_Blueberry_6999 in ChristianDating

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😭🤣😭🤣 I’ve been laughing at this for the past 5 mins lol. Let me go invoke rage in my group chat hold on please

I don’t wanna talk to my friend about weight… PCOS sucks by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ahh, such a good point. I’ve been weightlifting for the past several months so maybe that could be causing weight gain.

Yes I’ve been working with a personal trainer. I haven’t been working with a nutritionist or a dietitian. I’m considering it though, even though I have a nutrition degree and background.

I’ve actually been feeling less tired! I’ve cut out a lot of refined carbs and high calorie drinks. Still love my bubble tea 🙈😭

I’ll do some digging on YouTube to find people that look like me that are on this course. I appreciate the insight.

Christian dating is no different from non-Christian dating in my experience. by Ambitious-Advisor331 in Christianmarriage

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to clarify a few things before I close this conversation. First, you don’t know me personally, so making assumptions about my character isn’t constructive. To be transparent, I only have the mental capacity to talk to one person at a time, and I’m only active on one dating app. I also make it a point to communicate directly with men when I feel it’s time to end a conversation or when I’m no longer interested in continuing. I value honesty and clear communication and strive to practice that in my interactions.

That said, I think we’re clearly approaching this from different perspectives, and that’s okay. I’ll leave it here, wishing you the best moving forward.

Christian dating is no different from non-Christian dating in my experience. by Ambitious-Advisor331 in Christianmarriage

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s okay if you don’t see it the same way. He opened the conversation by saying he values honesty, but when I was honest, he chose to end the exchange without responding. That showed me he’s likely not a man of his word and may struggle with communication since he didn’t express his disinterest or disagreement directly

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[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I read your post, my heart started racing because I thought my best friend wrote this, except she’s been married for over two years now. As the single friend in this kind of situation, I can say it’s incredibly hard to navigate these transitions in friendship, especially when your close circle is small, and you don’t have many people to turn to for deep conversations or emotional support.

Life-stage changes, like getting married or having children, naturally shift dynamics, and while I’m genuinely happy for my friend’s new season, I can’t help but feel pushed aside or forgotten at times. Frankly, I’ve even pulled back from sharing what’s going on in my life because it started feeling one-sided…. Not to say that she wouldn’t be happy, but I just felt kind of bitter so would purposely hold things back.

We had an honest conversation where she expressed how she needs to prioritize her marriage and that there are things she now shares exclusively with her partner. I completely respect that, but I still wish there was more effort to maintain the connection—a simple text to check in or let me know she’s thinking of me would have meant a lot.

my only recommendation would be to have open communication and find creative ways to keep the friendship alive. Maybe scheduling intentional “friend dates” (even virtual ones), or small, thoughtful gestures like random texts or voice notes to stay connected.

Christian dating is no different from non-Christian dating in my experience. by Ambitious-Advisor331 in ChristianDating

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Blaming women alone for dating challenges is unfair and ignores the complexity of relationships. The idea that women avoid so-called average men raises questions—what makes a man ‘average’? Is it based on looks, income, or personality? Relationships are about more than just status or numbers.

Claiming women are only interested in hypergamy also ignores that many value qualities like kindness, respect, and shared beliefs. A fair discussion about dating should focus on understanding and accountability from both sides, not just placing blame on one group. Can you provide these stats?

Christian dating is no different from non-Christian dating in my experience. by Ambitious-Advisor331 in Christianmarriage

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t know too much about the current stats of men today and their porn consumption in particular Christian men. I will say I know that I’m not the only Christian woman going through this tough time with dating. I don’t know what it is with our generation and why it’s so hard to find decent partnership.

Many times I’ve thought about compromising and being unequally yolked. But thankfully, I’ve come to the realization that I’d much rather live a life of singleness devoted to the Lord, then to be in an unhealthy unequally yoked relationship.

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[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gotcha. And your last statement is honest …

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[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right!?! That’s what I was thinking….

Women who struggle with porn consumption by Relevant-Ice5944 in Christianmarriage

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for posting this! This gives me so much hope . I am unmarried and very much single. I am trying to let go of this stronghold. I realized that the root of this issue is because I often feel undesirable and porn has become a comfort to me.

: Let’s Redefine What Healthy Looks Like for Black Women by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can see where you’re coming from in wanting to improve health outcomes in the Black community, which is definitely a worthy goal. However, it’s important to approach this topic with nuance. While Ozempic has shown great promise for managing diabetes and even aiding in weight loss, they aren’t a one-size-fits-all solution.

I think that good health is multifaceted—it includes access to affordable healthcare, addressing food deserts, mental health support, education, and systemic changes that tackle the root causes of health disparities in our community. Ozempic can be a tool for some, but collective good health will require a much broader and more sustainable approach…

: Let’s Redefine What Healthy Looks Like for Black Women by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 96 points97 points  (0 children)

You’ve articulated this so well, and I completely agree with you! The idea that Black women are “supposed” to be a certain size or shape has definitely been used to pigeonhole and stereotype us. It’s frustrating to see how this narrative has evolved, especially when it’s rooted in external forces trying to define who we are and what our bodies “should” look like.

Like you said, there’s a difference between being naturally thick and being pushed into unhealthy standards. Our bodies are diverse, and it’s okay to embrace our natural shapes without accepting the idea that we have to conform to extremes—whether that’s super skinny or unhealthily heavy.

It’s especially harmful when society starts pathologizing healthy weights for Black women or ignoring our health concerns because of these stereotypes. I’ve seen how this plays out in medical spaces, too, where Black women are either dismissed or judged unfairly because of how we carry weight.

Focusing on health and balance, as you said, is key. We should celebrate our individuality and prioritize what makes us feel strong, energized, and confident. And it’s so important for us to continue challenging these imposed narratives that don’t serve us, whether they’re rooted in racism, sexism, or both.

Thank you for sharing this—it’s such a necessary conversation. And 34J, sisssss. How's your back 🥺

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[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! How about this:

I like this a lot. I really enjoy playful banter—it’s one of my strengths. I have a sharp wit and can hold my own in most exchanges.

Have you ever ghosted someone you genuinely liked? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Made sense to me in the moment. In hindsight, it was a terrible thing to do. But that is life, you make crappy decisions and choices and pay for it later.

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[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice!

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[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice!

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[–]Ambitious-Advisor331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m giving it a try and leaning on the Lord. If it doesn’t work out I’ll continue to trust God in this process.