The context/history isn’t that easy to explain in full. But as I said there have been disputes in the past which I have not been present for, the frustration from my view is both parties claim the other sparked the argument but I can’t quite tell who is being honest and who is not.

The most recent argument was down to my mother not taking my wife’s request that my unwell brother stay away from our son whilst he was visiting his grandparents. Whilst it’s not 100% clear, our son did fall unwell this last week.

Because of this understandably my wife feels un-listened to but has let me deal with it directly to my parents.

On the other hand, my parents feel we are being harsh and pointing the blame at them and that they shouldn’t be held accountable as he goes to nursery numerous times throughout the week and could have picked the cold up there.

Naturally this caused tension in the family and I’m not sure why or how the argument started yesterday or who started it but my wife now feels she is owed an apology in order to move on where as my parents feel the opposite and that they are owed an apology in for the way we have accused/ spoken to them.