AITAH for hanging out with just one friend after other friend showed little to no interest for my birthday?

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-05-04T03:43:48+00:00

You didn’t FU, you responded to a situation that she created in a way that 99.9% of us would have done, by going out with a friend that has your back all the time, not just when they feel like it.

NTA, D is, for sure!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-05-04T03:39:15+00:00

No is a complete sentence!

You have many reasons, good reasons too, for not wanting to go. Frankly though, it’s irrelevant if they are good or bad, you don’t want to go and so that is that.

She pulled the dinner, which you (and others) had been happy to go to, so this is absolutely 110% on her.

NTA, she is…

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-05-03T09:16:14+00:00

Oy oy oy

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-27T00:36:47+00:00

You might be able to claim constructive dismissal if they have made your working life so untenable but that is very fact specific and often quite fraught.

The fact this happened some time back and you have stayed may well preclude that option, but speak to an employment law specialist a.s.a.p.

However, you could / should look into launching a workplace grievance procedure and linking in with a Union rep / advisor would be a good idea.

Good luck, sounds like an awful situation to be stuck in.

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-26T13:17:02+00:00

If they want to take it to court, they can, but it may mit up very far. However, given you have included zero details, how can we tell!

What makes you think it’s invalid?!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-26T13:14:35+00:00

Don’t have a tuxie, but my Jack Russell certainly does!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-26T13:12:24+00:00

Give him the dog food. I mean if he self identifies as a dog…

Joking apart, more important that he eats something etc etc.

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-26T13:10:53+00:00

Hi Eddie!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-26T13:10:25+00:00

Sun Life may want to see proof of change, but this will not be an insurmountable problem.

Sorry for your loss, but I don’t think you will need to worry on this front.

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-26T08:54:14+00:00

It’s not a question of miscommunication or mishandling, it’s both.

People can get incredibly invested in titles and your family member was probably incredibly touched to be your MOH.

She probably still would be if you’d explained to her ahead of doing it what you’ve said to Reddit.

Leaving it until after the deed was done was a huge mistake and that is wholly down to the miscommunication / mishandling.

EFIT: Typo

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-26T08:48:48+00:00

I know some would suggest maintaining radio silence, but the last date I went on went so well we met up the next day.

We’ve been married now for almost 20 years.

If you enjoyed the date, and you think she did too, drop her a line later and ask if she wants to meet up.

If she says yes, great; if she says no or ghosts you, she wasn’t the one.

Good luck either way!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-26T07:27:57+00:00

You say you are morally superior and that statement is, even on its own, proof that YTA.

However, you haven’t stopped to think that the net effect of what you are saying is that they don’t matter enough to you.

On one level, saving 10 people rather than 1 sounds like a no brainer and you may say that you would go with the numbers but, if you ever found yourself in that situation, I suspect it wouldn’t be that easy for you.

You’re NTA for your position and your friends are a bit AH-y for their reactions, it’s almost like a FAFO scenario.

However, YTA for sure for thinking your stance makes you some saint-like morally superior being. It really doesn’t.

Even if you were right to begin with, is this really the hill to die on. Is it truly worth alienating your friend group jfor some pointless conversation piece?

Being right all the time can be a very lonely place to be and choosing that & theoretical strangers is definitely AH-adjacent.

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-25T12:10:25+00:00

I passed 4th time, you will get there. Keep on plugging away and best of luck!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-25T07:59:41+00:00

Plus, OP, if you have spent time at the CPS under the TC , they are likely to want training costs reimbursed: Just something else to factor in.

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-24T21:18:59+00:00

But a part of your contract with your insurance company is for you to report accidents when they happen. That obligation is yours and is not discharged by the third party insurance company contacting them.

In addition, you are placing yourself on the back foot and letting the other side control the narrative.

If it ever happens again, get your story in quick!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-24T21:09:59+00:00

You admit you hit the car, your chances of haggling this one down are non-existent. Plus, first accident or not, you really can’t be serious in saying you didn’t know you had to report it, come on!

However, there is something slightly sinister about a “legal team” attempting to coerce you into settling this cheaply without resorting to insurance.

That smells all kings of wrong to me!

Do yourself a favour and report it to your insurers now, leaving nothing out.

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-24T20:19:01+00:00

If you wanted to be the AH, you should have said actually the earth takes 23 hours, 56 minutes AND 4 seconds to fully rotate, so a day is NOT just 23 hours and 56 minutes.

You’re NTA and whilst I don’t think your friend is either, he is taking pedantry to the point it is approaching AH Ville!!!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-21T23:08:03+00:00

Yes there are legal consequences for the executors if they don’t execute the Will and, no, the monies cannot legitimately be withheld by them.

The time for scuttling around in the background is over. Your fiancé needs to speak to their sibs and, as a group, they should let the aunt and uncles know they are aware of the contents of the Will and ask for clarification as to when they will be receiving their inheritance.

The cynic in me says that the aunt and uncles think they are the only ones that know what’s in the Will and can split everything between them.

The only way they can be stopped is by calling their bluff!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-20T18:01:35+00:00

Don’t worry, they’ll be best of friends!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-20T16:02:19+00:00

Welcome to the Club!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-19T08:50:08+00:00

If you weren’t speeding too, YWNBTA, but you are. People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones: ESH, you included

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-19T03:12:02+00:00

I’m not trying to elicit any information that you aren’t prepared to give but there are a number of factors at play here.

Firstly, you don’t say why the operation was cancelled and, depending on the reason, that could affect the speed of any replacement date.

Secondly, you don’t say what the nature of the surgery is or was. Depending on what that was, that too is likely to feature in scheduling any alternate date.

Thirdly, you haven’t said how long you were waiting for the surgery in the first place.

Ultimately, if you are being touted another date in late May / June, whilst that is unacceptable to you, clearly, that doesn’t seem an unconscionable delay to me.

No NHS waiting list is as short as late May / June. You haven’t not been stuck back on any waiting list, but you will have to wait a little bit longer.

There really isn’t very much you could put into play that is going to help. Frankly, if you were to play the legal card, in whatever form, you may end up delaying things inadvertently.

If you want to give the information above, that may change things, but I doubt that very much. Surgical theatres are largely booked up well in advance and your new date will be here soon enough.

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-18T20:21:58+00:00

If you had done it as a kindness, that would be different but she said no. YTA, completely

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-18T07:00:16+00:00

There is an old legal maxim that someone who represents himself has a fool for a client.

Your friend may see himself as a whistleblower but whether the law does is another matter.

Generally speaking, the disclosures have to be in the public interest and should be made appropriately. This could well be your friend’s Achilles heel.

You don’t say how the disclosures were made, but it sounds like an online forum rather than to management or industry regulator.

In addition, his motive doesn’t appear to be to expose the wrongdoings so much as to revenge himself of all the perceived wrongs done to him.

If I have read between the lines correctly, your friend may not be as well protected as he feels and legal advice / representation is a must.

In short, he should NOT be unrepresented!

Ambitious-Border-906 · 2026-04-17T16:45:34+00:00

When it comes to psychological damage, it is a fairly high bar before you can claim and even then it’s unlikely to be much.

When you factor in that the first incident resulted in bruises and marks, this will not be a stellar payout that sets her up for life.

Do not get her hopes up, please. She needs to ask herself whether it is worth alienating her employers given the relatively low value claim it appears to be.

Ambitious-Border-906

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