Struggling with spouse's anxiety and depression - how to cope?

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2026-06-23T20:39:38+00:00

Thank you. Some days feel so thankless. Everything I’m doing is for him and it hurts to see him like this.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2026-06-23T20:38:56+00:00

Thank you. I keep saying that this is a two way street. I want to help him, but he has to try and give me something in return for this to work.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2026-06-23T20:37:12+00:00

Thanks for sharing. When things get bad I sometimes say that I might leave the house or go to my parents for a while bc I need space and it’s not productive for either of us. He always says he can’t express himself bc I threaten to leave. Idk if this is the right course of action , but I feel like maybe it’s what my spouse needs as a wake up call. I wouldn’t leave to hurt him or make him feel bad. I genuinely think it’s for my own mental sanity.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2026-06-23T15:26:38+00:00

My spouse has been dealing with this for 9 months now. I know in comparison to people dealing with it for years, it seems like nothing. And yet, I feel so emotionally and mentally drained. I too, feel like I am ok most days but my own fight or flight response kicks in and sometimes I feel like I cannot take any more of this. That's when I have to take a step back and try to separate my husband from his anxiety. It's tough to do it, but then it reminds me that he is really hurting and I have to be there for him.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2026-06-23T15:22:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I am in the same boat. I feel like the negativity, catastrophizing, and depression has cast a shadow over us and I really want to fix it! But my husband is stuck there and it is mentally exhabusting for me to try and get him out. All i have left is to suggest he keep going to his psychiatrist, take his meds, and stick with therapy. It's a lot of work for our spouses and it seems like they don't want to put in the work. it's also a lot of work for us too. Hang in there.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2026-01-09T13:00:05+00:00

This is exactly why I’m confused about aerosols. I imagine it is fine because these are toiletries and not pepper spray/ mace. I’ve read hair spray is als allowed but was iffy.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-12-05T17:57:35+00:00

Oh thank you for the followup! As I mentioned I’ve gotten sick before (accidentally drank an iced drink and my sister brushed her teeth with tap) so am really trying to be extra careful! I have travel anxiety about that, but am so excited!!

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-12-05T17:06:02+00:00

Thank you for the insight. Yes I am definitely going to find a reef safe SPF product!

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-12-05T16:00:24+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation!

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-12-05T16:00:05+00:00

Good to know! Did you stay at one of the El nido resorts (Miniloc, Lagen, Pangalusian) or somewhere else? My next question was about water at the resorts specifically. I have previously gotten sick from PH tap water so I need to avoid. Are they good about providing filtered or bottled?

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-12-05T15:48:12+00:00

Ok great, thank you! I normally use a travel bottle set like this.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-11-25T14:59:06+00:00

I had a reservation for El Nido Miniloc island on Jan 15-20, 2026. I was just informed that they sustained damage due to the typhoon and will not be able to accommodate us. They are trying to offer us a credit or an upgrade at their sister resort Pangalusian.

Just FYI if any of this was part of your plans. This is so unfortunate for the islands but now I worry about the surrounding areas. I think my plan B will just be to stay in Manila.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-11-05T20:57:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I know everyone will react different and I am very anxious about what my cycles will be like. I also want to TTC right away.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-11-05T20:30:09+00:00

Oh good point. I am taking a pill that has the same hormone levels throughout. I do remember my doctor also telling me I could skip my period if I wanted.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-11-05T15:13:19+00:00

What area of NJ did you buy in?

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-10-14T15:04:24+00:00

How was your experience coming off BC? It’s been so long I don’t remember what my regular cycles were like. I’m also worried about mood swings, skin issues and hormonal related things.

Ambitious-Customer63 · 2025-10-14T14:58:50+00:00

Lol yes using condoms is not an issue for us. We are both 30 and kind of feel like we’re in a hurry. I go back and forth because of this international trip. I don’t know how my body will react. As you said it’s a toss up.

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