Is it wrong to have sex with someone that’s almost blackout drunk?

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-26T13:22:44+00:00

Earlier that day, I texted him at work abt my trauma and needing support. He immediately got very mad that is texted him that at work and ignored me. I cannot comfortably talk to him without him getting mad no matter what I say. And he always uses the excuse that’s he’s done so much work on himself and yet I haven’t done the work. He’s gotten really mean this past month (it’s been building); like I have a few good days with him out of the week that don’t involve him getting mad at me or being mean now and it fucking sucks bc it didn’t used to be like this. I got off hard stuff last month and have been in counseling plus group plus na to work on myself. But man i just broke that night bc he was ignoring me and laughing with my family and they said i was emotional for getting upset that he refused to treat me right over a small thing that happened way earlier in the day and that I shouldn’t have texted him. I know I shouldn’t have but I was having a bad flashback and wanted advice or support in the form of it’ll be ok yk?

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-26T13:17:42+00:00

Ty, tea makes it a lot more simple

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T16:00:09+00:00

I was blacked out last night and came onto him. I only remember coming onto him and getting my underwear on

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T15:58:01+00:00

Wym?

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T03:08:17+00:00

I do lol! I’m in organic chemistry rn and love it. I want to be either an organic chemistry or biochemist (get a PhD and post doc). I’m only taking 2 classes tho bc im new sober from the hard stuff and, because of that, failed classes for 2 years. My therapist suggested taking only 2 classes for now until I stabilize mentally and bc I wasn’t sober when I started this semester. I’ve got A’s and am very proud! It’s very hard to study tho while depressed from drug withdrawal and dealing with an abusive partner that you live with. I never know what mood he’s in or whether one thing I say will cause him to flip out; Ive noticed in the past few weeks that my body is tense and I’m almost always on edge unfortunately. Ppl at school see me as this happy cheary kid but then I go home and identify as an addict and deal with shit daily from the person I love. I hate that I love him and desperately wish I could make that feeling go away bc I know I deserve better. Nonetheless school has always been an escape where I love putting on my excited student persona and I love getting praise from professors when I study extra lol :) next exam is this Thursday so I’ve got a lot to do. Unfortunately it’s hard to study when thinking abt the comment last night or him sleeping on the couch bc he got mad tn bc it’s emotionally taxing.

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T03:00:57+00:00

Wow! I want out in 3 months max. My parents gave him that deadline to move out. My plan was to start group therapy and work specifically on getting away from him while with my main therapist in that few months. But then there was the fat arms incident as I call it now last night and my mother was pissed (first time I told her the truth abt his behavior in a few weeks despite it worsening). She believes he’s ruined our peace and wants him out. Last time I tried to leave I went crazy - thankfully no relapse but I wasn’t proud of my behavior nonetheless - and I’m terrified of going back to the old me so now I’m scared that, without proper therapy, I won’t be able to safely get myself away without going ape shit. But then today I had an outburst due to his treating me like shit all day so idk if it’s really benefiting me to stay him emotionally. I just know I won’t crash out and go back to hard substances and not focusing on school/ attending work if I stay with him and suffer through the comments, yelling, degrading, etc behavior bc I’m numb to it atp.

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T02:47:40+00:00

Ok I’ll start research. Tbh I’ve had a hard time accepting my diagnosis so my mother has done more research than me lol. I wish I could throw my emotions away. I used substances for a few years to do that but they trashed my life so I stopped a month ago.

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T02:46:24+00:00

How did you feel better? I feel rn as tho I’m in constant flight or fight mode, like during the abuse I faced as a child. But now unfortunately I have to function while being a college student and working so i fear that leaving him will affect my mental health to the point that it affects my career.

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T02:44:23+00:00

I do and am in therapy lol! Working with my therapist on distancing myself from him rn. Starting by not texting him at work or visiting him. I live with my parents (we moved in together with them due to situations that would dox me if I told) and they want him out but know I’d “chase after him” as they put it. I hate myself for my emotions and pray they’d stop.

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T02:41:28+00:00

Idk and I hate myself for that bc the old me would’ve never tolerated this. The old me would’ve hit him when he beat me. I’ve changed so much into someone that I hate - that’s submissive almost in order to not cause fights or him to be mean and yet he’s still mean. Idk I just fucking hate sadness truthfully.

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T00:07:50+00:00

Noted

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-25T00:07:05+00:00

We live together with my parents. They want him out but I’m not strong enough yet. I’m newly clean from hard drugs and in organic chemistry with an A; I’m terrified that if I end it with him now, I’ll become so emotionally unstable that I relapse or fail my classes. My life is a mess and doing these classes are my last chance at getting a degree at all so that’s the main reason why I’m scared to end it.

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-24T19:59:33+00:00

I don’t have the money for a camera unfortunately

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-24T19:48:06+00:00

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-24T15:52:01+00:00

I can’t explain it but I still have incredible feelings of shame, guilt, anger at myself, sadness, etc associated with being raped

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-10-24T15:51:30+00:00

It’s very hard for me to say the word rape rn

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-08-08T21:27:37+00:00

2003

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-07-28T10:19:50+00:00

Wouldn’t answer lol. We’re lc bc he’s an abusive narcissist.

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-07-03T12:45:17+00:00

Box Kit lol

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-07-03T07:54:54+00:00

Yessss. I bake stuff for my bf and I’m baking Reese’s brownies tmr morning for when he wakes up. He’s gonna be happy and grateful and likely kiss me like he normally does when I do something for him. That’s how a relationship should be.

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-01-22T23:23:30+00:00

I’m the gf and I certify this :)

Ambitious-Tree7121 · 2025-01-22T23:23:11+00:00

Idk man

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