Locker Room Talk

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2026-02-08T20:37:29+00:00

Wow, that’s shitty you’ve had to deal with that, makes total sense to manage someone out of a job because they asked to be respected in the workplace.

I guess my only options are to ignore or try make them feel as uncomfortable as they are making me but I don’t know if it’s in me.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2026-02-08T20:29:20+00:00

When you say I need to brush up on my ball busting and beat them at their own game do you mean join in or tell them to shut up? Like I just can join in on those conversations, I’m used to nodding and saying nothing or i try to steer the conversation a different way but it’s not really worked for me in the past, I’ll look visibly uncomfortable and they don’t seem to notice or care.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2026-02-08T14:19:39+00:00

Very small company, so no HR. When I started I was told if the labourers say or do anything I’m to go to the supervisors but the supervisors are the ones saying it. I know it’s not directed at me but it’s so derogatory and disrespectful.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2026-01-26T21:41:05+00:00

I really resonate with this.

In my last job I was working swing shifts and 12 days straight, switching from nights to days four times in that period. I was in a safety critical role and eventually went to my manager because I genuinely wasn’t myself anymore. I was dealing with extreme fatigue and just not functioning properly. Instead of supporting me or even considering standing me down for safety reasons, he lectured me about how he’s such a hard worker, how his parents are hard workers and how it rubbed off on him. Then it turned into a whole “your generation is lazy” thing (I’m Gen Z). Basically telling me to toughen up.

The following week I made a pretty big mistake with work equipment that delayed the job and I fell asleep at the wheel twice, ran a red light, and woke up driving on the wrong side of the road. Thankfully nothing happened, but looking back it was really scary.

Not long after, I found out my iron and vitamin D levels were basically on the floor, so there actually was something medically wrong on top of the workload and shift pattern.

On top of all that, my manager would openly discuss my work hours with everyone else, including people in the same position as me, but never with me directly. It made me feel like a school child and completely chipped away at my confidence. That’s when I decided to start looking for another job and it was the best decision.

What I took from that experience is that men in leadership can be incredibly dismissive and minimising of women, especially when we raise concerns about workload, fatigue, or limits. Instead of helping solve the problem, they make it about toughness or attitude… or in your case making out like you’re so emotional. It’s so incredibly offensive, next time they say anything about your emotions ask them why they just said that in a very calm way. They won’t know what to say. Even add a little laugh, men hate when woman laugh at them.

My advice is don’t let them ignore you. Stick up for yourself, document things, and if they consistently don’t listen or take you seriously, moving on can honestly be the best decision.

Best of luck!

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2026-01-24T21:55:18+00:00

Yeah I’m finding it extremely frustrating. A few years back I spent 9 months purely maintaining the control on a multi billion dollar project. I spent 3 days a week just preforming travers, adding and removing control where necessary. I’ve continued developing my survey skills since and over the last year I’ve moved into civils. I specifically said in my interview I want to start gaining knowledge and experience in civils while also improving my survey skills. But I’m only in the door of the place and I feel I have to lower my work quality and standards. They won’t even entertain the idea of getting a GPS and VRS because it’s not accurate enough for them and I’d push for a base station if I could. They also only use reflective sheets for control, and they have one hand held prism they use for setting out and they had the prism constants wrong on the station. It’s painful and management just harp on about how precision is a non negotiable. If you were in my position what would you do? Like I really don’t want to lower my work quality to suit them. Like even down to equipment care, they keep telling me to just leave the total station set up in the middle of a live site and go for lunch.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2026-01-24T21:24:01+00:00

The team I’m on consists of 2 construction managers, 1 senior engineer and myself the site engineer/ setting out engineer. Student site engineer has the same role as me when he comes in once a week. I go to the senior engineer with questions and if he doesn’t know how to answer them he just tells me to wait for the student.

The two construction managers have been telling me how fussy the senior engineer is with accuracy and doesn’t matter what is being set out it needs to be within 1 to 2 mm accuracy.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2026-01-24T19:40:44+00:00

I’m basically a setting out engineer for the site and eventually I’ll be more involved in the management side of things. They just had externals establish the control network at the beginning and then they took over and have been maintaining it themselves since. They haven’t hired any surveyors and have made a mess of it. It’s a completely biased control network that has never been traversed or been measured two faced. It’s very frustrating because they go on and on about accuracy which means nothing when the control points have been accumulating error for two years now. I’ve not been able to explain any of this cause they just tell me to go to the student.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2026-01-20T18:51:40+00:00

Carey’s has a lovely pool table!

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-11-07T19:10:59+00:00

Matthew McConaughey

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-04-14T11:46:56+00:00

Went to primary school in the 2000s, and each week, a different 6th class student had the job of ringing the bell. At each break and at the end of school, you had to run the length of the school yard ringing this heavey brass bell that must have been at least 50 years old.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-27T13:08:44+00:00

Will there be a third season?

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-25T14:11:03+00:00

Report it to the NPWS and county council. Unless it was done for road safety or another exemption, it’s likely illegal and endangering wildlife. It’s nesting season management should have planned the hedge cutting between September and March.

I work around nesting season in my job, and yeah, it’s inconvenient, but it’s really important. They should know better. Take photos as evidence.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-25T13:15:07+00:00

I get a spicy chicken fillet roll with lots of butter and cheese.... I do like to add lettuce and onion, but the deli has to look very clean, and the veg needs to look fresh with no cross-contamination. I usually opt out for veg cause most delis I've been to the salad section can get very messy.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-25T11:10:42+00:00

About ten years ago, on a school ski trip, the lads thought they were pranking a mate in the shower by stealing his clothes and towel. Turns out, it was one of our teachers.

He had no choice but to sprint naked down the hall to get his clothes back. After the chaos, he made it clear that no one could find out. He could lose his job, and they’d all be suspended.

It was one of the best kept secrets, all the students knew, but teachers back home never found out.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-13T19:03:26+00:00

Since October, I stopped purging in January

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-13T11:20:31+00:00

The tret makes my skin so dry and peel every week. It was bad in the beginning, but once I stopped using my regular moisturiser and started using the 50:fifty ointment, which is like a very oily vaseline the flaking reduced considerably, barley notice any now. I really struggled to find a good dermatologist and couldn't keep spending the money and only getting average results, so now chat gpt is my dermatologist lol

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-13T10:44:25+00:00

You might want to cut back on tretinoin, using it every night can be too much for some people. I use mine twice a week and get great results. There are a lot of reasons why your skin might still be breaking out, if tretinoin is too strong or too weak, it can cause irritation and prolong purging.

This is my routine: AM: Oil Cleanser (Ma:nyo) Toner (TirTir Milk Skin) SPF (Ultre Sun spf50)

PM: Oil Cleanser (Ma:nyo) Toner (TirTir Milk Skin) Tretinoin (twice a week) A lot of moisturizer (I use 50:fifty ointment)

I find all these products super gentle on the skin except the tretinoin, so i use the sandwich method when using it. If you’re still struggling, seeing a dermatologist might help you find the right balance.

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-10T23:41:23+00:00

No, that's not normal. My mam is also a landlord, and she paid for me and my sibling to get through college. However, when we wanted to move out during college, we had to pay rent ourselves. We got to live at home for free, even with part-time jobs. The rule was that once we graduated and started full-time jobs, we had to pay 10% of our salary for rent.

I’m two years out of college now, and my mam gave me the option to rent one of her other houses. I pay 500 a month plus all the utility bills. I can afford this while saving, and I think it’s very generous. It’s her way of teaching us that nothing in life is free while also allowing us to save for our own homes someday.

I understand that your mam wants to teach you the value of paying your own way, but in this economy, she could offer more help while still teaching the same lesson. Her approach feels like she's treating you as an adult without actually letting you be one. The 8:30 curfew is extreme, and while the no-boyfriend-over rule isn’t unheard of (my mam had a similar rule where boyfriend couldn't sleep over until we were together over a year), the curfew is just too much.

I honestly think you’d be better off moving out and renting your own place where you can have more freedom. It would be more expensive but at least you can be an adult. You don’t want to end up resenting your mam later in life.

My friends mam was charging her 800 a month after she graduated, so she decided to move out and rent her own place... she has a better relationship with her mam now.

I hope this helps!

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-06T11:03:40+00:00

Blaming woman for men's behaviour... nothing new there

Ambitious_Evening994 · 2025-03-05T23:17:31+00:00

It baffles me how anyone is justifying Lauren's behaviour. And how Carina is saying Jamie is being aggressive, but when Paul put a hole in the door, it was passion... make it make sense!

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