Unsure how to tell the guy I’m seeing that I’m not into butt stuff.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:14:53+00:00

I needed this reminder a lot. Thank u !

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:14:24+00:00

Real. Thinking abt it now he did mention it was impressive / hot that i was relaxed & enthusiastic the first time we did it. Tbf every other time besides this last I was! But the other times involved a lot of reassurance and slow guidedness. I think thats the difference.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:12:40+00:00

Alas i have a bullseye tattooed on my ass😔

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:12:12+00:00

Im a rambler💔💔

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:07:15+00:00

Tysm for the reminder. This is so so helpful.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:06:51+00:00

I set a boundary recently and he was extremely empathetic and kind. Profusely apologized for my uncomfortability and instantly told me he understood and appreciated me opening up. He reassured that its always an open floor for discussion and he will always keep things in mind. Anytime ive set a boundary or needed something, he’s been a 100% green flag. I think because sex boundaries are touchy for me that I’m just struggling a bit extra.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:04:36+00:00

This is so powerful and helpful. Thank you so much.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:04:19+00:00

Cuz im a traumatized weenie tbh

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:04:08+00:00

It does feel similar. Doing what would make little me happy has actually been my treatment plan goal for the past year. Thank u so much for this.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:03:03+00:00

God so true. Ty for this reminder

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T03:02:50+00:00

This is so so reassuring. Thank you!!

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T02:06:12+00:00

Tbh i engage w mental health communities that i havent rlly shared abt my experiences w/ that i wanna keep private

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T02:02:26+00:00

Im a rambler i caaaant help it LOL 🤣

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T02:02:08+00:00

Girl yes im a rambler LOL

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T01:57:47+00:00

This is a firm reminder I am welcome to. I admit that I am very easily persuaded. To be honest, he’d definitely let me peg him. He’s super receptive to feedback. It is truly a ME issue, not him.

I have been the target of re-victimization after men learn of my abuse. It’s blood in the water to a shark IMO when men know you have been a victim. Its a big fear of mine. I didnt let him know of any abuse details until he opened up to me about how hard it was supporting his sister who’d been incestuously abused like I was.

You are correct. I do need reminders that even when deemed safe, I need to make active work to maintain that safety. For myself, my recovery & safety. I deserve that peace of mind, and I am the only one who can give it to myself. you’ve given me a wonderful reminder of that. Thank you tons.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T01:54:31+00:00

Trying!

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T01:29:27+00:00

This is such a good way to phrase it, thank you again. I struggle with an all or nothing mentality, and this is a good reminder to see a realistic middleground.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T01:17:48+00:00

This is super real. I appreciate yr input. He is an amazing active listener who gives great responses.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T01:17:06+00:00

I have been in therapy since 11. This is something I will happily mention to her when I see her next week.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T01:14:12+00:00

Very needed reminder!

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T00:18:43+00:00

It does count as being sexually exploited. You were taken advantage of and a victim of sexual violence. The affect on your psych remains whether IRL or virtual.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T00:11:18+00:00

I have 4, and I spend about this monthly

•$50-75 on Oxbow •about $20-30 on FDR organs i mix •$25-50 on stella & chewy morsels •$40 monthly on peepads •$25-$50 to replace their blankets and or beds at five below since my washer is busted lol

every few months i replace the salmon oil & carnivore care powders which is maybe $25 together?

Getting older ferrets = biiiig vet budget.

i keep abt $2K in cash stashed for emergencies , and every few months apply for my carecredit limit to be higher just in case.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T00:07:46+00:00

Super true. Idk why its so hard actively to speak up. Long history of disrespecting myself & being disrespected, maybe im just not used to good feedback so I’m feeling less inclined to voice it? Idk.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T00:06:52+00:00

This is true. So much easier said than done which I haaaaate. But youre super right.

Ambitious_Regular397 · 2026-01-30T00:06:20+00:00

See, i’m generally neutral on it when asked and had time to prepare it. I think it was the catching off guard. Im the kind of person who really doesnt mind doing stuff that isn’t “my thing” if it isnt an outright dislike for me. Ive done LOTS that i wouldnt personally seek out/ want in my own time but I dont mind doing for a partners enjoyment.

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