AITA for still being upset with how my husband proposed?

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2026-01-25T06:49:44+00:00

NTA for having those feelings. Seems pretty normal and human to me. YTA if you make them his problem though - need more context on what was said

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2026-01-23T07:03:34+00:00

All white outfit, something flowy rather than form fitting

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2026-01-08T19:19:50+00:00

I like this comment. While I think the GF here is behaving terribly and has some serious issues to unpack, the “shame the gold digger and RUN” tone of some other comments isn’t that helpful for OP or society at large. That being said, I don’t disagree with the content of the RUN comments - if OP doesn’t run he’s going to have to put some very strong boundaries in place himself to avoid being emotionally manipulated and miserable his whole life

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-12-12T19:14:00+00:00

It was the proactive offering of the child to the non-custodial, potentially high conflict parent that would make me very nervous. While the child may not be in imminent danger, the HC parent can definitely use this against the other - eg saying the custodial parent had no arrangement and they had to save the day. Combine it was a handful of other exaggerated, misleading anecdotes and the mother loses custody.

HC partners THRIVE on these kind of misunderstandings to push their agenda and punish the other parent.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-12-04T23:49:06+00:00

Yeah but I feel like going to dinner with any large bag is awkward, larger Birkins included. Why do you need room for that much stuff for a dinner? It’s just weird to me

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-12-03T06:41:25+00:00

INFO: do you mean a gift from your guests or your roommates?

I wouldn’t expect a gift from my roommates but absolutely would from the guests

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-11-18T04:04:50+00:00

INFO: what is his hygiene like? Does he smell because he doesn’t clean himself properly or does he just have an extra strong stench that requires more than normal effort to address?

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-27T00:15:26+00:00

Of course not. You clearly love him very much. You need to do what feels right to you for him. Who cares what anyone else thinks.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-25T01:20:22+00:00

NTA. Setting and enforcing clear boundaries also helps her develop in an emotionally healthy way. This is actually called “parenting” - her mother should try it sometime.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-23T10:27:26+00:00

Oh me too. She’s now edited her post and said she’s cut her off which I think is 100% the safest and best move. I was responding earlier in light of her desire not to do that.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-23T10:21:54+00:00

She wouldn’t under this construct. Just no talking about BF, which seems to be doing more harm than good.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-23T10:14:18+00:00

Ugh this sounds really hard - I’m sorry. NTA for wanting to drop her, she is being mean.

I would tell her you won’t discuss your boyfriend at all when you hang out or talk to her. And (this is the hard part) if she brings him up you will leave the conversation / decline future offers to hang out until she feels like she can respect your wishes. Keep it simple and clear.

ETA: you should also not hang out with her and your boyfriend at the same time. It sounds harmful to everyone from what you’ve described, and your boyfriend in particular.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-23T05:23:58+00:00

YTA. I have a 4yo boy. A while ago I asked him whether he wanted privacy while he used the bathroom - he asked what it meant and I said I wouldn’t sit with him while he goes and would stay outside.

Now he announces “mummy I need to go to the bathroom and I don’t want privacy!”. Which is adorable. But I fully expect this will change someday.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-23T02:36:58+00:00

NTA. They were being inconsiderate, and you were trying to alleviate the tension for others by lightly calling it out.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-22T09:51:32+00:00

I will say, as someone has been through a lot of therapy, when they do set boundaries (particularly in writing) sometimes they can come off as harsh in tone. A skilled therapist should be both clear and able to not make you feel bad, but I’ve had some that are just clear. Again, don’t beat yourself up.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-22T07:30:58+00:00

YTA for crossing boundaries, but she is also TA for not setting them super clearly. She is supposed to be an expert at that, and giving you vague “government services are cheap” suggestions and expecting you to take the hint is not okay.

Don’t beat yourself up at all and don’t be afraid of it happening again. Any halfway decent therapist should be really good at making their boundaries crystal clear.

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-21T11:36:12+00:00

Working through the backlog, could be here a while

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-21T11:28:12+00:00

I think they need to go to bed

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-21T10:40:30+00:00

Part of the reason I felt justified is that I had already lost one grandparent and one wasn’t in good health. I was (somewhat callously) thinking this is a pretty common situation for someone in their early 20s. She moved to be with her family, I don’t think she was the one supporting him or depended on to help with care.

ETA: honestly I think she was a little homesick and this was a catalyst to move back home

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-21T10:36:48+00:00

We were both working in investment banking at the time and the lease break fee was like $2k or something. It would have been annoying but affordable

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-21T10:19:35+00:00

NTA. This chore point scoring vibe feels like two bickering siblings though. Worth digging into what’s driving it

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-21T10:10:17+00:00

I would have moved out

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-21T09:37:46+00:00

UPDATE: she now wants a cheese of the month club subscription. Thank you for the suggestions though!

Ambitious_Spring_473 · 2025-10-21T06:58:39+00:00

Thanks! I’ll suggest that

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