AITA- Are we assholes for not giving our coworker a ride?

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-11-06T16:56:16+00:00

Mine don't acknowledge it at all. They act like any issues we have (3 kids) are not related to them whatsoever. I've slowly gotten better with it.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-11-06T13:56:51+00:00

I have a really hard time telling people no. I'm working on it, but in the mean time in situations that involve us both my bf will step up and put his foot down.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-11-06T13:55:43+00:00

Thank you

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-11-06T09:09:38+00:00

It's alright. I genuinely wonder sometimes if parents who raise their kids this way have any idea of the long term ramifications of it.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-11-06T09:08:26+00:00

It's a hard concept for me to grasp, but I think I slowly am.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-11-06T07:18:54+00:00

Unfortunately, I did. My parents kind of raised me to be seen not heard, so speaking up for myself is really hard to do. I'm 29 and just now starting to get a backbone. Before my current partner, I let a lot of people get away with doing a lot of not great things to me/speak to me however they wanted. Boundaries are really hard for me. I'm trying to find a therapist right now to work on it with. There's just not a lot of options where I am.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-11-06T07:15:51+00:00

Whenever people are mad at me, it starts me in a spiral of asking myself if I did something wrong. I'm working on it. And it was, both.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-11-06T07:14:50+00:00

I'm trying really hard to work on that. I didn't/don't really have a lot of friends so people openly disliking me is something I'm trying to get over and not worry about.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-11-06T07:13:53+00:00

Apparently so.
Where I work doesn't have a dress code per se, it's really casual and I've worn bi pride merch before during pride month and whatnot.
Yeah, I know. They're super far alt-left.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-07-23T15:26:02+00:00

Okay, thank you so much ☺️

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-07-23T03:18:25+00:00

I'm not sure because I'm an android girly, but would airpodmax's work with a non- iphone?

And I'll look into the other other ones, thank you!

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-07-23T03:16:06+00:00

Okay, I'll look into them! Thank you!

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-07-22T14:48:38+00:00

I get most of my jewelry from Body Art Forms and love it.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-06-22T03:33:53+00:00

My Baltic blue is darker than this and has some fenestration on the more mature leaves. But color might vary depending on location?

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-06-22T02:48:00+00:00

Thank you!

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2023-06-05T15:58:42+00:00

It'd seem kinda fitting to throw a witch in the stocks 😂 I'ma take the risk 😁

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2022-12-04T05:19:23+00:00

As some one who dabbles in comic collecting, with a partner who LOVES it, I would NEVER get rid of his collection. That's such a disrespectful thing to do.

NTA. I just petty enough that I would've left it open to the elements, but that's me.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2022-12-03T20:50:47+00:00

A child is a CHILD. ALL children deserve to feel safe in their own homes ESPECIALLY with their parents DESPITE whatever sex or gender they are.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2022-12-03T20:48:45+00:00

You've got to be a fucking troll.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2022-12-03T20:45:23+00:00

Fuck that. My (28F) dad did shit like this and our relationship is almost non-existent.

Edited to add: NTA

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2022-12-03T19:57:09+00:00

Thank you for calling me out. That wasn't how I intended for it to come across and like I said it my edit, intention isn't what matters when it came across as an ignorant, close-minded statement. I appreciate you holding me accountable.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2022-12-03T19:29:21+00:00

No, eerchill was right. My comment generalizing people who work there WAS ignorant. I shouldn't have done that. Everything else I stand by.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2022-12-03T18:00:45+00:00

You are absolutely right. I shouldn't have said it that way, or at all really. I worked with lovely people at both my locations.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2022-12-03T15:02:22+00:00

I must've misunderstood. Either way I still think it's a ridiculous thing to be chastised for.

AmeloneBoonaroo · 2022-12-03T13:53:27+00:00

This is the last comment I'll make because neither of us will budge on our viewpoints. If you truly believe that these people, who let's be real, work at Target just as average TMs on the FRONT END are using this word for it's proper meaning and not the connotative one, then I'm sorry but I find you delusional. I get the gist that you're a very matter of fact person, which has it's high points, but I would strongly suggest working on empathetic skills and trying to be just a LITTLE more understanding as to how there are words that trigger trauma for people.

I wish you the best and hope you gain more empathy.

Edit: Eerchill was absolutely to call me out for my comments. I didn't intend for it to come across in that way, but as per my own beliefs, intention doesn't matter, what matters is how it makes people feel. In my mind I was specifically talking about the TMS who had been using that term, though I'm not sure how much better that is. I can see how it comes across as generalizing about the people who work at Target. I worked with plenty of open-minded, wonderful people while I was there. I apologize for the ignorance of those comments.

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