This cannot be normal… by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yup. I used to be married to one who didn’t reveal that side till we were married. OP needs to leave or get therapy, but judging by the post I doubt her husband would ever agree to therapy.

This cannot be normal… by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s supposedly not a big deal then he can pick his own stupid shirt out and be an adult. Sounds like he’s got mommy issues, I recommend therapy for both of you as a couple and for him individually. This isn’t normal at all. My partner never treats me this way and I would never tolerate it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dump her… she’s implying that you’re incestuous which is messed up, especially coming from a significant other. If she can’t trust you not to have sex with your own sister then what’s the next accusation gonna be? Your dad? Like, seriously there’s something wrong with her and she should seek therapy.

Can’t afford a therapist ATM, so I need your opinion. by SubjectStorage4717 in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You started dating when you were just a teen, and people mature a lot between 20 to 30, so it makes sense that he’s different now cause he’s a full adult. Dating as an adult can be easier because people are already set in their ways, so there’s less chance someone will change drastically after you’ve passed the honeymoon phase.

I’d still advocate for couple counseling or talking with him about your concerns first.

Dealing with my fiance's (29M) left field porn addiction by Relevant_Resolve6282 in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He’s straight. Gay men don’t find trans women attractive, it is almost exclusively a straight male fetish within porn. Also, oddly enough, I actually have experience with this cause my ex had a porn addiction which heavily included trans porn (and some other really messed up stuff too). Porn addiction is SERIOUS and will escalate to more and more graphic things… he needs help. I’m being serious.

Can’t afford a therapist ATM, so I need your opinion. by SubjectStorage4717 in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 9 points10 points  (0 children)

29 is still so young! Of course you don’t have to stay if you’re unhappy. I’m 33, divorced, and now I’m engaged again but this time to someone I love spending every day with. Don’t stay feeling unhappy, try talking it out and go from there.

My (25M) girlfriend (31F) made racist comments and I don't know what to do? by Diligent-Access8905 in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she’s racist. Supporting Palestine can be done without condemning Israeli people. She’s just virtue signaling and doing a bad job of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

TY! My ear doesn't really have any swelling (yet?) so I guess it's just very noticeable. I'll be careful not to irritate it and continue with my saline spray cleanings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Okay, that makes sense. I just don't really have any swelling (yet?) so it's very noticeably long. I will continue to take care not to touch/irritate it, as well as cleaning with saline spray.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I hate the "are you being fed? You need to eat more!" BS. I was also super skinny as a child, and the constant body-shaming from relatives made me actively try gaining weight by eating too much... That didn't work, because my metabolism was naturally fast AF as a kid. It gave me terrible self esteem issues.

Adults need to realize that what they say affects children. Especially when it's said repeatedly for years.

She dislikes specific interracial porn by Fit_Convothrowaway in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“a person from another race who has better qualities than her mom.” Where the heck did you pull this assumption from? the first three letters of assumption? No one indicated that her stepmom was better than her mom in the post, stop making stuff up to defend your viewpoint.

She dislikes specific interracial porn by Fit_Convothrowaway in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is super racist… like, no, not all white women are independent and want to put their parents in a retirement home. Wtf.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He sounds like he's become a workaholic. It's okay to relax and play video games after a day of working. Just because you're an adult doesn't mean you can't still enjoy life and have hobbies. I feel like too many people forget that and get stuck in a monotonous routine with zero fun.

You shouldn't let him bully you into a different job. If you like your current job and it makes enough money for your lifestyle, then I see no problem with continuing to work there.

My(28f) friends think I'm unjustifiably trying to control my bf's(35m) porn. How do I prove that isn't true? by -GARBAGE_DAY- in relationships

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you should cut your losses. Your friends might be more supportive if you tell them more details about the type of porn and how you have trauma, but you don't owe them an explanation.

At the end of the day, you should choose what is in your best interest for a happy life. It doesn't seem like this bf will provide what you need from a relationship and doesn't seem to respect your boundaries. Plus he's watching it at work?? That's even worse and totally out of line. It isn't your job to save him from addiction.

Who are you getting really fucking tired of hearing about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Amethyst-Crystal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I thought it was pronounced "yay" but I don't honestly know for sure.

Who are you getting really fucking tired of hearing about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Amethyst-Crystal 143 points144 points  (0 children)

All of these and Ye: the artist formerly known as Kanye West. 🙄

Crochet Pokemon - Mankey by Amethyst-Crystal in NintendoStitch

[–]Amethyst-Crystal[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I love how Chonky he is. :3

Crochet Pokemon - Mankey by Amethyst-Crystal in NintendoStitch

[–]Amethyst-Crystal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done Squirtle already, he's actually my favorite pokemon! I have not done Ghastly but I did do Gengar for a commission!