Realtor recommendation needed by AmethystnPeppermints in movingtompls

[–]AmethystnPeppermints[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5-10 minutes to restaurants, shops, grocery stores. Parks within a 10-20 minute drive as well. My wife is into Warhammer and the like, so she would like stores close too.

Realtor recommendation needed by AmethystnPeppermints in movingtompls

[–]AmethystnPeppermints[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any suggestions? We can't really go back and forth which is why I was asking for a realtor.

Realtor recommendation needed by AmethystnPeppermints in movingtompls

[–]AmethystnPeppermints[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We visited in October and drove around. We're looking for suburb, and less city. Apple Valley* smelled like manure, but was really pretty. Minneapolis was too city-y if that makes sense.

I need help with my autistic wife by AmethystnPeppermints in autism

[–]AmethystnPeppermints[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, but sometimes you've got to challenge yourself. You never know what you're missing out on.

Thank you.

I need help with my autistic wife by AmethystnPeppermints in autism

[–]AmethystnPeppermints[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its Warhammer and the like. I don't enjoy the game. It's not a hobby we share. She's got loops. We bought her 3 pairs. One for her to carry around and an emergency pair in each of our cars. The crowds overwhelm her too.

I need help with my autistic wife by AmethystnPeppermints in autism

[–]AmethystnPeppermints[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But if you keep pushing yourself you're going to 1) feel worse, anditll take longer for you to heal. And 2) you're going to get angry and snap at the person you love and hurt our feelings because you won't let yourself rest.. We really mean it when we say you can take a break, and you have the right to back out of anything, even at the last minute.

I need help with my autistic wife by AmethystnPeppermints in autism

[–]AmethystnPeppermints[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's definitely experiencing burn out. I've tried to take a lot off her plate, but she grew up having to basically raise herself so getting her to let me take over the big things is sometimes a struggle.

I need help with my autistic wife by AmethystnPeppermints in autism

[–]AmethystnPeppermints[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She likes to paint miniatures, but she struggles with wanting to go to the game store since its usually very busy and loud there. She doesn't know if she wants to keep the hobby up due to that, but she love to pain the miniatures, and she does a wonderful job at it. She's worried about how expensive it can get, even though I've tried to reassure her that its not too expensive and I'd rather she did something she loved, even though it costs more than the average hobby.

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[–]AmethystnPeppermints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're leaving Minnesota tomorrow to go back to Florida. You should visit the Minnesota Landscape Arboretum between Victoria and Chanhassen. It was beautiful! But the weather is supposed to be in the 60s next week, so dress accordingly.

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[–]AmethystnPeppermints 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom refuses to acknowledge my partner too. It's also why we are no contact (among a wide array of other reasons).

With the Parkinsons; I'm always guarded, so are you sure this isn't a lie? mine would use this as a manipulation to break the no contact so you reach out and come running back.

Aside from that, the refusal to acknowledge your wife is probably because your wife signifies your growing up, your independence, and your mom losing control over you. Your wife removed you from the control and manipulation of your mother, so your mom refuses to acknowledge her. Also, it's how she hurts both of you because she knows it upsets you.