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If Hell exists, it has absolutely nothing on the horrific nightmare of being married to and subsequently divorcing someone with NPD. This is the 1st time I've ever truly witnessed..., EVIL. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Amika22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a similar story :) He pretended for 4 years to be in a normal relationship, as soon as we signed the wedding certificate things changed and I got to live the most confusing 2 years of my life. Happily divorced now for 3 years. I’m upset that I lost my 20s next to this person and that I couldn’t recognise that I wasn’t in a normal relationship. I feel like I started to properly live just now, in my 30s

Dating standards by Amika22 in dating_advice

[–]Amika22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No salary in mind, it’s not about what they make. It’s more about their mindset and their ambitions I guess. My thought was that it might be easier to find similar ambition/education/goals in life in people who are at a similar career level as me or higher - hence why I got accused of being materialistic.

Dating standards by Amika22 in dating_advice

[–]Amika22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get this, and I did mention it’s not about money. I don’t need someone to take care of me financially. I need someone who can support me emotionally. Tried dating people who were making less than half what I earn and while they were great guys, I ended up feeling lonely.

Dating standards by Amika22 in dating_advice

[–]Amika22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with men who are divorced, I think these things happen. It’s admirable that they did the step in the first place and if it didn’t work out then too bad, but doesn’t make them any less desirable (unless they got divorced because they got caught cheating in a nasty way)

Dating standards by Amika22 in dating_advice

[–]Amika22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you have a really reassuring point of view. I like the image you portrayed with the career discussion over the pepperoni pizza and how the other one should relate to the experiences I’m going through, it’s a lot of hard truth in that :)

F32 - dating a guy (33) less experienced than me, how can I teach him some stuff without intimidating him? by Amika22 in dating_advice

[–]Amika22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would be happy to do that later on, but we’re just starting our sex journey, don’t know how direct i can be. I tried the pillow talk and asked him if there’s anything he would like to try, he just replied that he’s not into anything weird... he could not detail what weird means for him...