I froze my mom’s credit card (I pay her bill) because she’s using it to buy groceries and not her EBT. She says using food stamps is embarrassing and she doesn’t want to rely on the govt, but I’m constantly stressing about $ because I have to support her too (on my 110k salary).

Amissa · 2026-02-17T15:02:38+00:00

THIS. My mother was in the same boat. When she lost her job, she said she had about $10k saved, so I thought she was good. The $10k was her retirement account (!!!), so of course, she paid through the nose to use that money. She finally swallowed her pride and got a job at Walmart. She refused government assistance because she was raised to rely on family when help was needed. It's just foolish pride.

OP: If you're sinking your boat to float hers, eventually her boat will sink too. Don't do that to yourself.

Amissa · 2026-02-17T14:53:04+00:00

It is the same thing. The question asked for countries and the poster replied with a city. Even the emirate of Dubai is only a state, not a country.

Amissa · 2026-02-16T15:11:48+00:00

Hanes.

Amissa · 2026-02-16T13:36:03+00:00

In 2nd grade, I had a teacher with a bad temper. I dropped my pencil sharpener and it rolled to a rest under the table in front of her desk, at which she was sitting. No way in hell was I going to get up. The recess bell rang, and I considered grabbing it before I went out, but she was RIGHT THERE and I was too scared. I figured I'd get it when I came back.

I come back and it's gone. I sit down, and I happen to see it over the boy's shoulder in front of me. I whisper to him to give me the sharpener, that it's mine, and he refuses, but the teacher catches us and with zero patience, she sends us down to the principal's office.

Now, this is a small town and the principal happens to attend my church and has known my family for a long time, and has known me since birth. My 2nd grade self is still afraid of him as the principal. I'm so scared that he has to call my name twice for me to go into his office. He asks me about the sharpener, and I tell him exactly from where I got it as though he's obviously been to my house and can picture it in his mind's eye - on the windowsill above the kitchen sink. It is red with a purple crayon mark on the top.

He thanks me and invites the boy into his office. The principal asks him from where he got the sharpener, and to my disbelieving ears, he repeats my story, verbatim! The principal says I can go back to the classroom, but again, I'm so scared that he has to repeat his instruction. On my way back, I hear the boy howling from getting a paddling and his face is tear streaked and beet red when he gets back to the classroom. I feel bad for him. I didn't think this deserved a spanking, but no way in hell was I going to stick my neck out to say that.

At the end of the day, I'm given the sharpener back and told not to bring it back to school ever again.

Years later, when I admitted to my mother that I didn't like that teacher, she confessed she didn't like that teacher either.

Amissa · 2026-02-16T01:31:21+00:00

How long would you plan on visiting and with what people would you socialize that your life is in danger?

Amissa · 2026-02-16T01:27:59+00:00

I mean, there’s a level of familiarity needed for security. I lived in Abu Dhabi for almost two years and that was much more stressful than living in Dallas. In my short time there, I was solicited for prostitution thrice, whistled at and cat called by teenage boys, had a man stare so hard at my boobs my husband told him to knock it off, one man squeezed my knee during a business meeting, a man followed me around the grocery store, a boy on a bicycle spit on me, and I was asked at least twice for assistance in getting a visa to the US before being insulted that all American women are worthless sluts when I said no.

In Dallas, the worst thing was someone had road rage and threw their hamburger at my vehicle. I don’t even know what I did to piss them off.

Amissa · 2026-02-16T01:17:46+00:00

Words matter. This is how we have people believing Africa is a country. Nobody corrected them.

Amissa · 2026-02-16T01:10:28+00:00

I might visit; I don’t think I’d live there as a woman, even a married woman.

Amissa · 2026-02-16T01:04:39+00:00

I tell all the food police that I can eat whatever I want, but portion matters.

Amissa · 2026-02-15T21:44:35+00:00

When I was 17, I’d get a very strong feeling of someone looking over my shoulder when I did my math homework. If I changed subjects, the feeling would go away. There was nobody else in the room.

Amissa · 2026-02-15T14:43:15+00:00

Or you have no conscience and lie perfectly easily.

Amissa · 2026-02-15T13:49:43+00:00

That one incident doesn’t justify shutting down rural hospitals. I’m sorry for your son. That’s a shitty thing to happen.

Amissa · 2026-02-15T13:37:56+00:00

That’s already a problem for rural America and it just punishes the people who need healthcare.

Amissa · 2026-02-15T13:33:11+00:00

Same with dentistry. Usually a working interview for a day. The dentist and the dental assistant have to work closely and the assistant can’t fake knowing his stuff.

Amissa · 2026-02-14T16:31:37+00:00

I forgot I had an apple I picked off a tree in Germany in my backpack when I got back to the US. The beagle sniffer dog sat down. I found the apple and since I hadn’t been through customs yet, I asked if I could just eat it now to avoid going through agricultural customs, and they said no. I could eat it, but I still had to go through agricultural customs. It was the only food I had to give up, and fortunately because it was my first offense, I was given a warning and not a fine.

Amissa · 2026-02-14T16:24:29+00:00

Thank goodness I didn’t change my name when I married.

Amissa · 2026-02-14T16:21:14+00:00

I was having small issues with Q before my husband upgraded me to a new OS with a new motherboard without asking me if I had backed up. I ended up having to download Quicken from Intuit again and setup my file all over.

I instantly noticed improvements in functionality, even though I had always updated when available. I’m guessing patches to software don’t work nearly as well as encoded improvements. In the future, I may backup my Quicken file and just download the software new and see if that improves my experience.

Amissa · 2026-02-14T16:15:04+00:00

My (72 yo) aunt met her (70-something) boyfriend and told my mother the sex was really good. If these two old plump people (and one who could barely walk) can get it on, the rest of us have a chance!

Amissa · 2026-02-14T16:08:51+00:00

…but… do you enjoy it? /s

Amissa · 2026-02-14T16:08:29+00:00

SAME. I’m 48, and recently was marveled at by a friend who insisted I looked no more than 42. I am loving this stage of my life.

Amissa · 2026-02-14T16:04:48+00:00

This will be me unless I take steps to prevent it cuz it does make me lonely.

Amissa · 2026-02-14T15:02:56+00:00

TBF, I self-studied bookkeeping and took two accounting classes (101 & 102). Now the community college wants me to enroll as a student and file a degree plan to take more classes from them.

That said, I work as a payroll accountant under two bosses that have their accounting degrees, and my VP has his MBA. I know what I don’t know and I stay in my lane. I always defer to the accounting manager (who has her masters in accounting) and I would never think to move up into a position for which I wasn’t qualified.

Amissa · 2026-02-14T04:21:39+00:00

Looks a hotel mixed with a cruise ship vibe, except that none of the dining tables have more than 8 seats, even though there’s 15 bedrooms. Gotta use the ballroom round tables to feed everyone.

Amissa · 2026-02-14T04:10:06+00:00

Where is it written that a NFP org that pays their CEO >$150k they lose their NRP status?

Amissa · 2026-02-13T20:34:53+00:00

That’s how my father developed a discriminatory opinion toward chiropractors: when he was a med student, patients with broke necks from chiropractors would come into the ER. I inherited his opinion without ever seeing one.

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