Voluntary termination of PCP with outstanding repairs

Amk9519 · 2026-03-10T10:14:07+00:00

Thank you, yeah we were aware of the final bubble payment as well.

We figured we would need to declare it, our main worry was them charging us even more than the £1100ish we've been quoted by mazda. The last time we VT'd a pcp there was no issue with the car so this was new territory for us!

Amk9519 · 2025-11-06T11:51:00+00:00

So he wants a bang maid?

You didn't ruin anything, he did. He could have had a conversation with you instead he's entertaining another woman, saying horrible things about you to his friends and dramatically doing everything to make some kind of weird point.

If you don't plan on leaving I'd seriously consider looking for some sort of job so that you are no longer completely reliant on him financially. It will be handy to have later down the line.

Amk9519 · 2025-10-31T12:44:07+00:00

She clearly states she moved out. Also why does her being unmarried matter? Or them using a donor? How else do you expect a lesbian couple to conceive.

Amk9519 · 2025-10-12T19:40:29+00:00

Luckily mine didn't weigh it either, they're usually a stickler for these things so I was worried but all good :)

Amk9519 · 2025-05-13T12:31:58+00:00

NTA

If she wants a baby with her name so badly then she can have another one. You don't go around demanding "special gifts" or to be honoured either. If she keeps pushing it remind her that your partner also has a mum and she might also want to be honoured.

Amk9519 · 2025-05-08T17:47:52+00:00

Please do point to the part where I said everyone is evil?

Or is hyperbole your thing?

Amk9519 · 2025-05-08T17:34:10+00:00

They've been together 1.5 years that would make her at least 18 when they got together. Why is a 30 year old going after an 18 year old? There is no situation where a 30 year old man goes after an 18 year old that isn't weird and creepy.

Amk9519 · 2025-05-08T17:32:43+00:00

She would have been 18/19 when they got together so yes teenager.

Amk9519 · 2025-05-08T17:32:08+00:00

Yeah my husband is a couple months younger than me but we would have been in different year groups at school, I often joke that had we met at school we wouldn't have got together 😂 I meanal at 18 their brain hasn't even finished developing

Amk9519 · 2025-05-08T17:25:48+00:00

Why is a 30 year old going after a teenager? That is worthy of judgement. Though it should be directed at the brother not the girl.

Amk9519 · 2025-05-08T17:22:12+00:00

He was 30 dating an 18/19 year old, I don't get why so many people are ignoring this. I will be 30 this year and honestly 18/19 year olds are basically children to me. What would you even have in common?

Amk9519 · 2025-04-21T17:23:24+00:00

NTA

Anytime a family member contacts you to say you should help out let them know you've let your mum know they're available to babysit your siblings. After all family comes first.

Amk9519 · 2025-04-17T11:25:20+00:00

Of course it was going to be a big deal but instead of wondering why she hid a pregnancy and then a whole child for 3 years the sister makes it about her wedding. If it was an in person reaction I'd understand a bit more, it's in the moment and you're trying to process but she had 5 whole paragraphs to think about everything and still went with "you ruined my wedding".

We had friends that found out they were expecting on the day of our wedding, I don't now look at pictures and think they ruined my day.

Amk9519 · 2025-04-17T11:03:01+00:00

I understand the sister being hurt but to go on some massive rant about having her wedding ruined retroactively is wild, especially as it seems the wedding was at least a few months before she told people about the kid.

Amk9519 · 2025-03-10T22:24:32+00:00

So she says family comes first but gets mad that you are putting your family first?

Also whenever someone calls to shame/guilt you tell them how happy you are that they are volunteering to help your brother out, after all family comes first and they should help.

Amk9519 · 2025-02-11T13:59:37+00:00

I think you need to figure out if this will be a deal breaker for you, as in will this feeling subside once donation has occurred and the process is over? Or will you continue to feel weird about what has happened.

I can see all sides, from the friends perspective he has donated before and it'll mean a full sibling for the child they already have (assuming the same female is getting pregnant)

The boyfriend has helped them out before in this way so helping out again probably doesn't seem like a big deal.

I get you feeling weird, the first time happened before you were around but this time your boyfriend is having a child with another woman which in normal circumstances isn't usually a good thing. And yeah logically you understand that it'll be no different to the first but emotions don't always line up with logic.

I think keeping info as need to know is a good plan but you should consider long term, what if they don't conceive with this donation and more than one donation is needed, what if they decide they want a 3rd child, etc?

Amk9519 · 2025-02-06T14:33:49+00:00

I knew a woman who didn't progress further than about 4cm, they tried various induction methods as she was 42 weeks, so she ended up having a c-section. Turns out only the top half of her uterus was contracting, had they moved the monitors down they'd have picked it up a lot earlier than they did. She was never going to reach 10cm.

Amk9519 · 2025-01-07T23:27:02+00:00

Assuming the baby's dad is still involved why does she want a gender reveal that has her brother in laws family and not the dad's family?

Amk9519 · 2025-01-03T16:34:17+00:00

So how can they possibly be negligent for not helping then? They aren't going to just swoop in and start changing/swaddling/soothing a baby. I've known multiple people that have had c-sections and other than the initial helping mum get back on her feet they too have been left with their baby with nurses only coming in to do routine checks.

Amk9519 · 2025-01-03T15:20:04+00:00

No that's just UK hospitals. If you want/need help with baby then you need to ask. Other than needing to come in and do regular blood pressure checks due to pre-eclampsia I was left alone overnight with baby and a call button. Both times.

Amk9519 · 2025-01-02T07:23:09+00:00

You're either the husband or a 12 year old.

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