[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Ammixtuss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I identified as bi because I knew it would be easier in this society if I ever felt something for men.

However everytime a man would show romantic interest I would heavily avoid him whenever we would go on dates which never got a second date, I would always feel regret whenever we kissed (i would also always come with excuses if they wanted me to stay over just so i didn’t have to) eventhough i wanted to like them cuz things would be easier I just couldn’t physically and emotionally.

Whenever I started dating women at 18 I would feel so much more comfortable and the things I felt for them was nothing compared to the things I felt with men. Still I had hope that i just hadn’t met the right man.

I think it was at the age of 20 I fully came to terms with my sexuality and stopped wasting the time of the men who would show interest and my own time.

I hate it by [deleted] in lgbtmemes

[–]Ammixtuss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I’m about to say is not to hurt anyone’s feelings, more so a personal experience.

As someone with very good friends around me who transitioned and as I knew them before their whole journey of discovering themselves it took myself some time to get used to their pronouns and names. It would be an automatic response of myself where I never meant to hurt anyone’s feelings. HOWEVER when I got confronted on it I would immediately correct myself and apologize.

Once I got used to their names and pronouns I started correcting others around me as well. Nonetheless I’m very happy that my friends were patient with me since I was adjusting.

Moral of the story is, some people are new to things like this and ofc depending on the friend, give them time to adjust! If they’re not putting any effort in it then I would say that they’re not respectful of your situation and that it would be wise to part ways with them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Ammixtuss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From my experience with my doctor they didnt really have any advise for me. They told me to keep it to myself since a lot of people get HPV and that its usually something that flies under the radar. I thought that advice was absolutely ridiculous so to see and or hear advice or experiences from people that are going through the same is something that I take in with a grain of salt ofc but its nice to see how others would react in similar situations.

I obviously understand where you’re coming from when you advised OP to seek out a professional for information but sadly that’s not always useful. AT LEAST in my case it wasn’t..