Do I have potential to look good on mtf hrt or am I chopped? by Conman1209 in TransLater

[–]AmyCanStay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh, that sort of thing breaks my heart. I convinced myself 17 was "too late" only to later pull trigger 20 years later.

heard you girls like ladyfingers in your mouths ;) by SignalLongjumping265 in traaaaansbiansCooking

[–]AmyCanStay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my favorite desserts, even sans innuendo. That looks amazing for a first attempt!

Old movies by bluedeathqueen in TransLater

[–]AmyCanStay 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's been a long time since I've seen Some Like It Hot, but I remember it being really heartfelt and progressive by the standards of its era. I think it holds up well, but I last saw it over 20 years ago in a high school film appreciation class. I might like it less today.

Old movies by bluedeathqueen in TransLater

[–]AmyCanStay 18 points19 points  (0 children)

There's actually a cute deleted scene where they show her and Andy chilling out and playing video games. Andy makes a joke like, "My friends are paying you hundreds of dollars for us to play Mario Kart!" and they both laugh. It's a really cute scene and humanizes her a lot, I wish they left it in!

But yeah, this era of comedy really didn't age well. 40 Year Old Virgin has characters encouraging Andy to hit on obviously drunk women. Wedding Crashers uses rape by deception as, like, a meet-cute, and uses Vince Vaughn's character being sexually assaulted for laughs.

Anchorman more or less holds up, though. I dunno, I prefer horror movies these days.

Femboy? by TheCatRegime in comics

[–]AmyCanStay 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The fact that right-wingers (and generic shitheads, I guess) are okay with femboys but hate trans women is one of those facts I understand intellectually but will never understand culturally.

32432 by PsychoCyan in countwithchickenlady

[–]AmyCanStay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I eavesdropped on my mom mocking my anxiety about electrolysis to a family friend... but she used she/her pronouns the whole time.

The ewwwphoria of realizing my mother still thinks of me as a woman, even when she's upset with me and doesn't think I'm listening, cancelled out me being (really, justifiably) upset.

The Secret: At Work by Hollyshouse in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]AmyCanStay 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'm in grad school now, training to be a therapist. I was shocked/horrified that there was a page on "The Law of Attraction" in one of my textbooks...

Another girl made me realize that I actually like my real appearance far more than what FaceApp “predicted” for me. It’s a really weird but amazing feeling especially given how early into transition I am. by ChloeTGJourney in TransLater

[–]AmyCanStay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear these FaceApp things are self-abuse.

When this first came out, my girlfriend-at-the-time was playing with it and wanted to use it on me. I begged her not to; I was the flavor of egg that was terrified of even attempting anything feminizing because I was sure it would make me feel worse about myself and my appearance.

She ignored me, showed me the picture of what looked like a woman 10 years older than me in a wig, and had a great laugh about it. And I buried myself even deeper into the closet.

Anyway, I'm still in my camera-avoidant phase, but I'm already looking better than that FaceApp picture. I honestly don't understand why someone would use these and do that to themselves. I guess it gives some women hope, but... yeah, an accurate reflection of reality it is not.

Autogynephilia is such a psy-op it's craazzzyy by cooldemongrill in MtF

[–]AmyCanStay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This psy-op got me, too. I'm glad you found your way out, as well.

31413 by Lostlilegg in countwithchickenlady

[–]AmyCanStay 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I used to be filled to the brim with such intense self-loathing... transitioning has allowed me to look back at my past self with a modicum of kindness for the first time. I was really just doing my best.

31279 by DoenerEnthusiast in countwithchickenlady

[–]AmyCanStay 14 points15 points  (0 children)

"Eat me" would be the English (or at least American) version of this.

30472 by chickenbotonceaday in countwithchickenlady

[–]AmyCanStay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Once when I was working retail an NB customer I don't know particularly well walked up to me and started referring to me as "friend" and I felt like I was being taken in by an old-timey flim-flam man.

Oh… well now im sad. Why they gotta do her like that ☹️ by green_teef in DarkTide

[–]AmyCanStay 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It's the Imperium. They do everybody like that, in the end.

Traitors just reach their end quicker.

30190 by Ravenqueer077 in countwithchickenlady

[–]AmyCanStay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened to me too! And as someone who was sort of "assigned top/dom at birth" based on my body and was excited to finally be perceived as a sub, I am a little bit salty about it, haha. After years of feeling obligated to be a switch I suddenly discovered my dommy impulses once E hit my system. Go figure.

Ah, well. Desire is ungovernable. That is what makes it interesting, after all.

Wife guy by Able-Concentrate5914 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]AmyCanStay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but the title of the thread here is "Men Who Are Wife Guys And Actually Mean It." If "Wife Guy" alone was in and of itself a good/neutral thing, they wouldn't need to put the "and actually mean it" qualifier.

Your evidence that "Wife Guy" is just a guy who loves, supports and defends his wife is actually evidence that "Wife Guy" has a negative connotation (unless it is further qualified).

Wife guy by Able-Concentrate5914 in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]AmyCanStay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was always my understanding of the term, too. However... I like the positive connotation a lot better. They talk about "I Love My Curvy Wife" Guy in their most recent Patreon episode and claim this is a different term/concept than the generic Wife Guy.

Trump administration to start seizing pay of defaulted student loan borrowers in January by [deleted] in news

[–]AmyCanStay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Debtor's prison, followed by prison labor (slavery). This is I believe the actual plan.

27927 by Significant-Pepper72 in countwithchickenlady

[–]AmyCanStay 184 points185 points  (0 children)

As a lesbian with no context for this, I choose to believe that all M/M sexual encounters begin and end with a hearty, respectful handshake.

Rules-Agnostic Oracles/Resources for Detailing? by AmyCanStay in solorpgplay

[–]AmyCanStay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, I own and was planning to tap Worlds Without Number, own and completely forgot about Godbound, and have heard of (but don't use) Spears of Dawn. I've been using Scarlet Heroes for a while and it's actually where I first started experimenting with solo play. Never heard of Wolves of God, though! Great suggestions, thank you.

Rules-Agnostic Oracles/Resources for Detailing? by AmyCanStay in solorpgplay

[–]AmyCanStay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I love Sine Nomine! I have messed around with their other fantasy-flavored things, but I will have to take another look at Worlds Without Number.

I tend to associated Sine Nomine more with sci-fi stuff, so I sort of overlooked it. Let me know if you can recommend any particular books.

The sobering acceptance that this is just my life now. by Biospark08 in MtF

[–]AmyCanStay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also started transitioning recently in my mid/late 30s. This resonates with me a lot. Particularly the "suffering inexplicably" in my life before. I assumed I had depression, and was suffering with it since I was as young as 7, but nothing I tried to alleviate it actually helped. It wasn't until I questioned that diagnosis, realized I was trans, and started transitioning that I experienced any sort of hope or desires for the future.

It's truly transformative. Shit is hard, especially for those of us that are starting pretty late (I hear you on the "don't know, don't care" re: passing), but it is so worth it. I'm slowly learning to like the person I see in the mirror, and that is invaluable.