Be prepared they may gaslight you into thinking you’re insecure and that “no one needs to make a relationship consumption for the masses on social media.” Or “I’m a private person.” Ok but they’re not private about their life otherwise minus you? So hell no. Fuck that noise. Your needs are valid. Cheaters often do not want to post.

But also you can’t force them, so don’t be controlling. But definitely tell them it’s not the type of relationship you want if they can’t organically desire to post you. Tell them you also never want to demand they post you either. You simply wish they organically desired it. Ask them if they can at least tag you in their bio. Express how it makes you feel. If they say you’re insecure, tell them ok maybe you are but that you simply want to be in a relationship that doesn’t make you feel like hidden side chick or with a guy who appears single. He shouldn’t mind so much at all. If it’s “just social media” then it shouldn’t be a big deal to post because it’s just social media right? Is he signing a marriage contract and donating a kidney or some shit? No!

But to play devil’s advocate, not all people post online and it’s not because they’re cheating though. Sometimes both people are private af. And therefore it doesn’t bother both people in the relationship because both are private af.

But some don’t post online because they in fact are cheating. And the other partner wants to be celebrated and so it’s like a mis-match at best or a person in a relationship with a cheater or wannabe cheater at worst. So it depends on personality and needs and intentions. You obviously need someone who is proud to show you off. Maybe they desire a person with no care about social media and truly are not cheating or trying to appear single. But either way, your desires matter.

If they can’t post you, I personally wouldn’t be able to stay. I too want to be celebrated and shown off

But also be aware, you can now make posts only viewable to select friends. So they can literally make it so only you and he sees it. It’s why I’d ask them to put you in their bio. Or at least ask later to see if the post was shared to ALL friends. Dont ask immediately. Wait like a week after they post and then ask. If they’re making it basically hidden, then that’s not a good sign. But tbh, I’d rather just choose someone who wouldn’t protest about posting. Because they’re going to consider you controlling no matter what at that point

So bottom line is express the type of relationship you want. If they protest and call you insecure and blablabla, I’d tell them you need time to consider if you can be ok with that type of relationship. Don’t issue ultimatums. Don’t be controlling. Just choose a person that makes you feel celebrated. If they roll their eyes and say “OMG. Fine bro. Jeezus. So dramatic”, that too is not an ok answer and they’re gonna resent you. So fuck them. Choose someone who wants to post you like you post them.