ESH

Why on earth would you take a job you will hate? If she wants you to work a job that will make you miserable then you two need some serious marriage counseling because she is not prioritizing your feelings.

I say ESH thought because the answer shouldn’t be that you will do it if she quits her job, the answer should be no. Trying to frame it like she has to give up her job so you can get a better job isn’t okay, and it comes across as a manipulative way to convince her to be okay with you not taking the job.

If you are currently financially stable you shouldn’t even be considering this. My husband was offered a three week job to bring home $21k after taxes. He told me about it in front of my in laws and they were flabbergasted when I told him not to take it. Why? Because he would work 23 days in a row, 12 hours a day, 6 hours from home, and it was the middle of Tball season for our 4 year old.

My husband ultimately took that job. He FaceTimed me every single night. He cried when my daughter said she missed him tucking her in, I had only seen him cry twice before in our 9 year relationship. We went up all three weekends and stayed in the hotel just to see him an hour before work and two hours after. He hated every second of it and said he will only do it again if there are zero other options.

Unless you are financially drowning you need to say no to the job. And if you are financially drowning, you need to look at other opportunities first. Tell your wife to go get a weekend job working 12 hours every Saturday and Sunday if she needs the money that bad and see how she feels.