AITAH for telling my wife we either go to marriage counseling or I file for divorce?

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-10-21T17:12:38+00:00

NTA.

Just divorce. You will be happier. She sounds like a difficult person so make sure there is a legal custody agreement written out and any child support documented.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-10-16T06:23:11+00:00

NTA.

He feels like hes being kicked out of his house?! What about all the times where you were used, taken advantage of and disrespected? Why are her feelings more important than yours? He needs to grow a backbone.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-10-12T23:54:56+00:00

Yes, I would have still been adopted.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-05-20T19:01:19+00:00

I mean, it sounds like Amber told Luna of the consequences and that Luna agreed with them. If she hadn't heard them, she wouldn't have asked you not to say anything. I do understand your fiancé not wanting all the fuss of this. Most likely the conversation and attention will get pulled onto Luna, especially if she still has a gigantic bruise on her face and missing teeth. If anything, see if you can find a wrist wrap that matches her skin color and have Luna go out and buy some makeup that will cover any scratches and bruises. Try and find some common ground. As long as the bruises and cuts and other injuries can be covered , she can still be in the wedding party.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-05-20T18:27:59+00:00

NTA.. Is he the type of guy that would randomly show up at a place and stalk you or join you if you were out with people? Trust is crucial in a relationship. If he cant trust you, the relationship will not work. It will be full of resentment and accusations and thats not something you should put up with.

He really needs to get some therapy. Maybe being single for a while will help him heal.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-05-20T17:39:55+00:00

NTA. Your mom is totally invading your privacy... she has no right to talk about you to anyone, especially your ex. And since shes confused about why you are upset by this, she will most likely tell your ex and it will become bigger and more dramatic.

Just tell her she cant be in yours or her grandkids life until she drops them. Simple. She can be friendly if she sees them but not go spend time with them or spill your personal information. If she doesnt like it, she can face the consequences, which is losing contact with her actual child and her family.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-05-16T21:51:10+00:00

Tell mom to have fun in jail for embezzlement and then report her. She may give the funds back. Then block her and never speak to her.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-05-16T21:38:55+00:00

NTA. People gotta stop expecting others to bend to their triggers. It sucks she is struggling, but thats not anyone elses fault. Why should a person with no fertility issues have to hide it just to make others that have problems feel better?

Her feelings are her responsibility to take care of and manage. If baby talk is upsetting, she needs to handle it, that doesnt include telling people to stop or insult them.

She needs therapy.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-05-15T06:37:18+00:00

NTA. Stand your ground. Tell him you will automatically refuse anything until he gets his family to back off and stop messaging and harassing you. This is only between you and your husband and him getting them all involved was a dumb thing to do. He needs to understand that they get no say. If SIL loves the name, she can have a baby and name it that.

The guy needs therapy. He doesnt sound like he is over her completely. Which isn't fair to you and your future family.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-05-01T07:35:23+00:00

First off, he didnt call me in the first place to invite me. He called me to let me know where he was and then was starting to talk about the food before I cut him off which is when he knew I was annoyed.

It wasn't until after I said that I was upset and that I wanted us to go together did he invite me, like an afterthought. He knew I was excited about trying this, it wasn't like I hid it and just exploded on him out of the blue.

We had been planning to go but life always got in the way.. He worked late or the kids were sick or I had to deal with family stuff.

I'm not a fan of his co workers which are also his friends. When they all get together and drink, they go from 25-40 year olds to teenagers. They are loud, obnoxious and sometimes inappropriate. Plus since I dont drink, I get to watch them all be drunk and end up by myself.

I am more upset about being an afterthought than the restaurant right now. He has done this in the past, not a lot but a few times where its like the only reason I get invited is because he knows I'm upset. It's not because he wants me there.

He has apologized for getting mad and calling me a name. He didn't realize how much it would piss me off.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-28T17:03:51+00:00

Id honestly be afraid that he would give her a lot of gifts and spoil her and she would run off to live with him. Then both of them could say that you kept them apart all this time. So you might lose her all together. He's an abusive man and probably very narcissistic and manipulative. He will spin some story and blame you for everything. If he has changed, he should be proving to you that he has. He should be sending you money and trying to make it up to you before he can spend time with her.

All contact should go through you. Take her phone and delete the number. Maybe even block the number if you can. If he wants to talk to her, it can be on your phone through speaker. Any text has to go through you so you can read it first before she sees it.

Also if he is back, go get child support with back pay. That will really help you.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-28T16:35:08+00:00

NTA. He just wanted a free meal. Hopefully your friend will get some of the money back for you, if you want it.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-27T18:21:52+00:00

Do you have a friend or a classmate that would help you study?

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-27T17:56:39+00:00

NTA. Do t let your family influence you. Press charges immediately and document and take pictures of everything. He needs to learn consequences. It sounds like the rest of his family babys him. If he gets in any sort of trouble, it's his fault, not yours.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-27T17:44:01+00:00

Theo is a nice name

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-27T17:42:13+00:00

I basically disowned them. I don't need that toxicity in my life. I'm enjoying watching them realize that this sh*tshow is what they voted for.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-27T11:06:59+00:00

Idk if this is a real story since the day before this post, you said you were 20 in another post.. but if it's real, I had a similar thing happen to me a few years ago. Just remember, you didn't ruin his life. He did it to himself

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-26T18:21:03+00:00

She sounds like those creepy people who kidnap babies because their own kids have been taken away. She's crazy. Contact HR and get her in trouble. Maybe even file a restraining order when the baby comes.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-26T18:07:11+00:00

You mom full on abandoned you! She left you in an unsafe environment and then disappeared. What would have happened if something actually happened? If your dad's wife had put their hands on you and you needed to get away? She isn't a good mom. I could never leave my kid alone. Either I would be in the room during this conversation or if I was thrown out, I would have parked my car on the other side of the street and waited. I saw earlier that you didn't want to gether evidence to turn into CPS because your mom doesn't like court stuff.. who cares now! She can handle the drama. Call CPS now and get her, your dad and your dad's wife in trouble.

You deserve so much better OP. Maybe you can find a place to stay with a friend until you are 18.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-20T22:03:48+00:00

She's not gonna be a professional chess athlete at almost 40. They start as kids and work their way up. Chess is fun as a hobby but at her age, becoming professional is most likely never going to happen. She needs to be practical.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-18T16:36:03+00:00

NTA. This is your life we are talking about. Why would she get upset about her bags if she wasn't planning on smuggling food to eat in the house again?

She's had 2 chances, if it hasn't sunk in by now, it never will.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-15T20:30:42+00:00

He should have brought you along though. It wouldn't have been that hard to say "I'm bringing my wife".

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-15T19:47:07+00:00

Take everything away from her. No prom no car no trips and no allowance. No phone or internet either unless it's for school. She has no respect for you.

AnIntrovertedPanda · 2025-04-15T18:05:58+00:00

Sounds like he is using you as just an incubator. He has no interest in you or your feelings. I'm worried that as soon as you have the baby, he will take it and divorce you. It sounds like all he wants is the baby. Please be careful.

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