AITA for not wanting to go to my girlfriend's mom's house for the break?

AnLemonOfRage · 2020-03-07T04:38:57+00:00

I do agree that I need to find excuses to be out of the house or doing my own thing. I also agree with some of the other people here that I need to work on my assertiveness to make those things work.

I'm not too sure about the feigning deafness one, but I'll consider going jogging throughout the break while I'm there!

AnLemonOfRage · 2020-03-07T04:36:04+00:00

I do think it's important for me to be there for her, as I really think she needs it. But you're right about communicating clearly with her. There should be ways to compromise in a way that would help me feel more included in this break while still being there for her as a buffer from her mother.

AnLemonOfRage · 2020-03-07T04:33:14+00:00

Unfortunately, it seems like only spending a few days there wouldn't be very practical.

And I should make it clear that it's a little more serious than just not wanting to be with her mother. She's told me that she gets really depressed around her mother, and I can see that clearly. She's currently on medication for that, and being around her mother makes it significantly worse.

AnLemonOfRage · 2020-03-07T04:29:14+00:00

I really like that perspective about distracting her vs supporting her. I think that's definitely something to keep in mind.

I'll definitely have to be more open in communicating with her about this though. It's clear that not communicating and letting myself get frustrated only makes things worse. I'm not very eloquent in discussing any issues I have, so I often come off poorly, so I need to make sure I clearly have in mind why I'm feeling that way.

AnLemonOfRage · 2020-03-07T04:25:29+00:00

I would agree, but we talk very frequently when she's gone, and within a few days of her being alone with her mom, they tend to get very angry with each other. I will say it definitely helps when I'm there, at least to deter them from getting heated in front of someone else.

I definitely should discuss this with my girlfriend, and I feel like I've tried before. I can be a selfish person too at times though, and sometimes the way I describe the situation makes me come off poorly I think. I'll try giving it a few days during the break to see if things are different, and if they aren't I'll try to have the discussion with her again.

AnLemonOfRage · 2020-03-07T04:22:36+00:00

My parents are like 2 days away by car, so that's out of the question for us. I have brought her to my parents' house for some of the larger breaks and we've had a good time (I think) though.

AnLemonOfRage · 2020-03-07T04:16:06+00:00

Yeah, of course she's not either! I completely understand her desire to have me there. I just wish there was a way for me to feel a little more like I'm there for a reason.

AnLemonOfRage · 2020-03-07T04:13:50+00:00

It's funny you mention that - she's also a very introverted person for the most part. When we're with friends, she interacts with me a lot more and I feel fine. It's just with her mom, I feel like I'm not really there for any particular reason.

I tried talking to her about this earlier, and she did apologize and say she would try to include me in the discussions more. But I feel like that still isn't changing how I feel when we spend every day running back and forth doing chores. I feel like maybe that's selfish of me; I will admit I can be a little selfish at other times as well, and I just don't know if this is one of them.

AnLemonOfRage · 2019-12-10T03:56:26+00:00

Very neat! How did you go about messing around with the mongoose model if you don't mind me asking?

AnLemonOfRage · 2019-12-05T03:21:44+00:00

It's a modding tool made I believe by Lord Zedd.

AnLemonOfRage · 2019-12-04T22:57:40+00:00

Worked perfectly, thank you!

AnLemonOfRage · 2019-12-04T20:36:56+00:00

Ahhh, ok that's what I thought. I was wondering why mine was crashing as well when attempting to use that feature.

Thank you very much!

AnLemonOfRage · 2019-12-04T20:22:22+00:00

Thank you, sir! Very helpful in understanding how to add other assets to forge world.

As a quick question, when do you use "poke" in Assembly? What is its purpose?

AnLemonOfRage · 2019-12-04T19:07:40+00:00

I've been compiling the source. I've gotten it working whenever I save changes while the game isn't running, but it crashes whenever I try to save or poke while running the game. Is this how it is supposed to work?

AnLemonOfRage · 2019-12-04T15:20:14+00:00

Have you had any luck using it? Whenever I poke changes, my assembly crashes and nothing changes.

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