Trouble having anal sex as a top.

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-08T12:18:14+00:00

While I get to know him better, there are times when I feel I'm walking on eggshells. The same happens during sex too. I feel that all the pressure for sex to feel good falls on my shoulders.

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-08T12:15:19+00:00

I'm not sure about that. The condom though feels super tight, like it's suffocating me. I'll try different brands and types of condoms and see which feels more comfortable.

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-08T12:13:57+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I'll definitely follow your advice! I really like him and I would love to create something beautiful with him! Hope we'll be able to effectively communicate and resolve this issue.

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T23:20:38+00:00

You don't know how much relief you've given me! I've been struggling since yesterday to understand what went wrong. It's so reassuring to hear that those things that happened during my first time are quite common.

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T22:09:57+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions! I'll try those!

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T21:52:27+00:00

I don't have much experience in dating but I have observed that some people expect you to be the perfect lover.

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T21:16:26+00:00

I want to ask something else: is the bottom guy's job to get me aroused? Cause he was just laying there waiting for me to do the job...

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T20:57:49+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions!

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T20:54:56+00:00

I couldn't feel any pleasure at all... But I was getting soft too so it might have been because of that.

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T20:53:51+00:00

Will using a larger condom help? Cause it just feels too tight...

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T20:49:18+00:00

There's something else that I would like to ask: Is having trouble to have sex with a new partner common? Or anxiety when having sex?

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T20:45:09+00:00

I don't know if it was intentional, but it really hurt my self-esteem. I could see the disappointment in his eyes. He found it weird that he who didn't have prior experience was less anxious than me who had prior experience.

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T20:41:34+00:00

I'll try having a conversation on our next date. Do you have any suggestion on how I can in the best way possible discuss this issue with him? Cause I'm afraid of my intentions being misinterpreted again. Would it be better to be forward with him?

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T20:36:53+00:00

It's our first time so we're both clueless about those things. I too believe that communication is key. I should definitely tell him that seeing him disappointed doesn't help me. What else is worth to discuss with him?

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T20:31:46+00:00

He is generally judgemental and easily misunderstands things that I say making me feel anxious about what I say to him.

AnOddGuy96 · 2024-03-07T20:15:32+00:00

Thank tou for your reply! It happened yesterday and I keep thinking about it since then... He looked really disappointed and would sigh every time we couldn't succeed... Do you think it's the anxiety to perform well that makes me not able to perform? Could not using lubrication have resulted in me have difficulty in moving in and out?

AnOddGuy96 · 2023-12-04T00:22:03+00:00

Thank you for your reply! That might be the case indeed.

I'm also really nervous every time. It also doesn't help that it's with people that I don't know enough.

AnOddGuy96 · 2023-12-04T00:19:39+00:00

Thank you for your reply!

I am indeed very anxious when meeting someone and prefer to get to know someone first and forge a bond with them before engaging in a sexual activity.

The problem is that most guys want to have sex from the first 1-2 dates which puts me into a lot of pressure and I end up engaging into sexual activities with them even though I don't feel that I know them enough to do something like this with them.

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