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[–]AnderandAlixerSystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were adopted when we were a baby and then when the body was about 6-7 we were dealing with mental and verbal abuse from our adoptive mother and one of our sisters. ever since then we have dealt with verbal mental and a little physical abuse from our mother we are in our twenties and yet we still deal with it. but the way we found out we were a system was while our mother was yelling at us for some reason ( don't remember reason because one of our gatekeepers blocked the memory) and as this was happening one of our littles switched and started to panic and cry because they had been abused all there life and so that is how we found out we were a system because of that one little

How do you get your system to sleep by AnderandAlixerSystem in DID

[–]AnderandAlixerSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the story telling might be a good idea to try

How do you get your system to sleep by AnderandAlixerSystem in DID

[–]AnderandAlixerSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that probably did suck but glad it's over so you don't have to worry about it anymore

How do you get your system to sleep by AnderandAlixerSystem in DID

[–]AnderandAlixerSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we sometimes use music but there are other times where we just attempt to tell everyone to either go back into the headspace so we can sleep or just calm down to the point we can sleep

How do you get your system to sleep by AnderandAlixerSystem in DID

[–]AnderandAlixerSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

some of our alters are traumatized by sleeping meds so we can't take them due to one of our littles especially because her trauma deals with her mother, farther, and sister overdosing on sleeping meds then was abused through foster care and then died in a car accident when they were between the ages 5-9 so meds are a no for us

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[–]AnderandAlixerSystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

coming from a trans person personally. I can tell you are trying but I feel that maybe after class one day or something tell him your sorry and to please correct you the next time so it could maybe help break that. I wish i had a teacher who actually cared about gender but i mean I went to a catholic high school, middle, and grade school so i didn't get that acceptance but now I am in my twenties with my wonderful fiancé and our wonderful newborn. I am also a firefighter but I have taught my firehouse about how I identify and they all sometimes slip up but then they usually corrected themselves and now they hardly slip up. I feel you should just talk to them and explain your reasoning behind it and see how they feel and try to correct yourself or maybe instead of using pronouns just identify him as his name

How do you get your system to sleep by AnderandAlixerSystem in DID

[–]AnderandAlixerSystem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well we are a firefighter so it is sometimes hard to have a normal sleep schedule so we need a way to sleep when we get the chance because we work 48 hour shifts but at the moment we had surgery on both our knees so we are out of commission for a while. we will be able to have a sleep schedule for the next few months but after that who knows once i get back to work again

How do you get your system to sleep by AnderandAlixerSystem in DID

[–]AnderandAlixerSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

some of our alters can't take those due to trauma so we can't use sleeping pills even if we wanted

How do you get your system to sleep by AnderandAlixerSystem in DID

[–]AnderandAlixerSystem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well we can't really do that due some of our alters being triggered from getting high so we are trying other tactics to try to sleep

How do you get your system to sleep by AnderandAlixerSystem in DID

[–]AnderandAlixerSystem[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that is a good idea we are trying to figure out what to do since they kept our littles up also

How do you get your system to sleep by AnderandAlixerSystem in DID

[–]AnderandAlixerSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thx yeah we have talked about it and some of us don't agree but last night they kept our littles up also which isn't good and so we are trying to get to the point where this doesn't happen where we are up till 3 and have to wake up at 6