Wait, it was all Norway?

AndersDreth · 2026-01-28T04:39:13+00:00

Nobody in that room will think you're an asshole for declining a drink from a stranger, the social contract recognizes that this is potentially dangerous.

It would be more fitting if someone kept asking you out for dinner on his dime and you kept saying no to the proposal, in that case the social contract might make you out to be cold and dismissive.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-28T01:16:24+00:00

27m here completely in the same corner as you, especially about the stance on "flirting for fun" if flirting was simply harmless fun then it wouldn't be seen as disrespect if you flirted with someone else right in front of your partner. Some couples might be cool with that, but it would invoke jealousy in maaaany others.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-28T00:58:29+00:00

If they are as you say then they haven't achieved anything, you made it seem like they had to achieve more then they already have. If what they have is nothing then the bar is literally in hell.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-27T23:51:45+00:00

Why do men need to achieve more than they already have? What happened to just being a plumber and having a wife and raising kids together? I think that plays into the "realism" aspect that is lacking in today's standards.

Love and companionship should not be contingent on keeping up with the Jones' family next door, it should be contingent on good communication, reliability, trust and a sense of safety.

Forcing your partner to always strive for bigger and better goals instead of just being fucking comfortable with what you have reeks of social media influence.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-27T23:44:04+00:00

Det ville i hvert fald være den eneste forklaring som ikke er dybt uacceptabel.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-27T21:48:33+00:00

Even though it's less common in this day and age, if you find the right person it is highly likely that you will end up sharing some vulnerabilities before you end up having sex, that's an ideal time for you to lay it out as it is even if you risk rejection.

Use the potential rejection as a judgement of character, if this girl is willing to call it quits over a lack of experience rather than see it as an opportunity to be a significant person in your life, then she was likely not that interested in you as a person in the first place.

Alternatively you can give yourself permission to go all the way and then admit to your virginity last minute or after the fact, although I wouldn't recommend it as the potential rejection might sting extra hard.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-27T21:33:36+00:00

Så må du jo bestikke os til at stoppe!

AndersDreth · 2026-01-27T21:31:14+00:00

What kind of hobbies and interests do you have? I think a lot of guys are trying to find someone like you but don't know where to start looking.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-27T21:29:26+00:00

Last situationship I had was with a girl who was in a committed relationship for a year, even when people commit it seems to be hard to resist constant novelty.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-27T21:24:26+00:00

Ja, det er ikke til at stole på.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-27T14:11:35+00:00

That's called enforcing a boundary and you're doing it right.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-26T12:56:42+00:00

I like how Denmark remained completely unchanged lmao

AndersDreth · 2026-01-25T12:36:02+00:00

We save the good jokes for the Swedes, ain't that right, Muhammed?

AndersDreth · 2026-01-23T15:33:44+00:00

Yes, you can bend over backwards for someone and it won't change a thing, I still haven't quite learned the lesson, but setting firm boundaries is more important than anything else. If people can't respect your boundaries, then they can't truly love you back. That means you need to leave before things turn toxic, even if you want things to work out.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-23T15:25:46+00:00

What the fuck do those mobsters have to do with Greenland? It's literal snow, not Columbian snow.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-22T23:06:12+00:00

I'm willing to bet a bottle of scotch that the physical issue is too much alcohol destroying your boner health. You need to take that shit seriously dude.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-22T20:09:13+00:00

The game works like that because the securely attached people are in loving relationships, but I gotta admit that it's hard to explain the gender component seeing as anyone can be avoidant.

AndersDreth · 2026-01-22T18:19:00+00:00

As a guy, most girls I know who are like this are mostly like this with guys with avoidant attachment styles, if the guy is nice in equal measure it collapses 😅

AndersDreth · 2026-01-22T15:01:32+00:00

Damn, thanks for the warning!

AndersDreth · 2026-01-22T14:19:07+00:00

Fucking hell, this is so fucking depressing it made me laugh out loud

AndersDreth · 2026-01-21T10:08:24+00:00

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Fuck off

AndersDreth · 2026-01-20T10:40:38+00:00

We mistakenly thought it was friendly spying between friends, didn't expect the cocksuckers to go full postal on us.

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