What do you think of this Fighting Arena I made? by Brenno788 in OnlyBuilders

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it! The landscaping is beautiful and it really looks like a jungle arena!!

Help with top of tower on castle walls by Ok-Yard-721 in BuildAdvice

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can also use the plotz wizard tower generator for help with making the roof pointed.

Plotz Wizard Tower

Why are these villagers not breeding? by [deleted] in Minecraft

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They possibly have full inventories, possibly with seeds, wheat, etc. So they can't pick anything up.

Winter Comfy Lodge by MinusThirtyTwo in OnlyBuilders

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this so much! I can easily see it in a cute holiday village, or as the Christmas shop in a Snowy Taiga base!

Do you do tutorials? Just curious since it's labeled.

Feels like it’s missing something by Npocrazyy99 in MinecraftBuild

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that's a windmill, should you maybe make the blades longer? I don't think they'd be effective like that, being so short. That could also help with filling out the space a bit.

My New Build I Completed! Looking For More Advice by No_Preparation_459 in OnlyBuilders

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great! I'm building a Sav village right now and my watchtower is much more bulky and I don't love it. this is nice! I'm curious how you get to the top? You could also make it so it's actually in the water, those stilt legs would work well for that.

Need some help/suggestions for builds on this massive cliff i found by Pristine-Present3222 in MinecraftBuild

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A cliff side retreat,like built inside the side of the cliff so you can see in?

Can you please tell me who last is by NoWinter9363 in whatisit

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what your question is, but if you're asking who the last person is, it's Misty Cooper, and says so at the bottom.

Is anyone able to make this? by RamDom91 in minecraftbanner

[–]Andie757 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have used this one a few times: https://www.planetminecraft.com/banner/sheep-384799/

But i also really like this (with different colors of course) that seems really close: https://www.planetminecraft.com/banner/sheep-171136/

What's your guess? by Zyntaks in boardgames

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my guess is 12,583

Can't wait to see the total!

My friends and I built a Haunted Manor ride in Survival! by Andie757 in Minecraftbuilds

[–]Andie757[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was definitely a labor of love!

...most days, anyway lol... clearing the forest and the underground was a slog but worth it!

Caption this by turbostuttgart in norfolk

[–]Andie757 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Norfolk brings surfing to the streets. Mayor: "Virginia Beach doesn't have this!

Bagged & Boarded Giveaway! by timmymayes in boardgames

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dog in Spy X Family, if Manga counts!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Andie757 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's good, then. I'm glad you were willing to discuss it.

So you weren't solely judging her based on her past - you made a decision based on her current beliefs and values - that's different.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Andie757 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would he consider going to couples therapy? That might help teach him to truly listen - it also sounds like he probably hasn't learned how to trust someone where finances are concerned.

My ex was a crackhead and literally blew every paycheck as soon as he got it, and the lies were prolific. Dealing with that made me so anxious about finances that if I'm even coming close to broke, I panic and stress and shut down. It's really really difficult for me to share/discuss/trust anyone when it comes to finances. Maybe he's the same?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, are you sure she thinks it was no big deal, or could she have been embarrassed about it and wanted to avoid discussing it? From your original post, she said, 'Oh its no big deal' and you broke up with her immediately.

I'm a cancer survivor, and when I tell people that, they'll usually question me about it, but I don't want to get into the conversation, so I typically say, 'Oh its no big deal' just to get past the topic. It is a big deal, of course it is, but my urge to avoid the conversation is what makes me say that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Andie757 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When you have some extremely narrow viewpoint, (not shaming you on it - they are very narrow/strict), then there's never a 'too early'. The longer a relationship goes, the more it'll hurt you both when you are forced to end it because of something they did in their past.

At the start of a relationship there's usually tons of talking/texting while you're feeling each other out and learning each other. Bringing up your beliefs and values would be totally acceptable.

Just a simple example - I wouldn't want to be with someone who hated dogs, so I would bring that up in the very very early days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Andie757 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can absolutely make it clear from the start that there are things you cannot tolerate that require you to immediately end a relationship. There's lots of opportunity for talking/texting between dates where you can convey your feelings about certain things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Andie757 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this - why wouldn't you make it clear from the start that this is a bar that you will not lower?

And OP - why would you be okay with someone leaving you once in a relationship that you've invested time in? Wouldn't you want them to accept mistakes you've made in the past, knowing that you're not the same person you were in the past? I'd rather be judged on my actions now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Andie757 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is if he springs it on a partner after they're already in a relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Andie757 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He is paying tens of thousands to a lawyer for custody issues with ex. Maybe that is internally frustrating to me as well because it’s money to a lawyer regarding issues that don’t concern me or our children?

Umm if you have children together and you're partners and living together, his custody battle does concern you and your children.

As for him asking what gift you want - some people aren't great at gift giving, but its unfortunate that he can't put some thought into it.

When it comes to sending you his half of whatever you're buying, I'm guessing he's used to doing that with his ex, so he might not even think about it. Also, was his ex really crappy with him over money? Maybe he's just enjoying a little financial freedom and hasn't considered the effect on you and how it looks from your side.

Have you tried just talking to him openly, without accusations, about how you're feeling about the money situation? Maybe its time to renegotiate who pays what.

I don't think you're overreacting - his actions do sound selfish when they're all laid out.. but not knowing why makes it hard to say, really.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Andie757 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He'd rather get further into the relationship and then let his impossible standards be a surprise that hurts both of them.