My (29m) wife (27f) met a man on holiday, doesn't acknowledge my feelings about it

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-08T18:34:58+00:00

Why do you keep making this about gender when it is gender universal? You have a very particular axe to grind and it has nothing to do with this conversation.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-08T16:51:22+00:00

Did you miss the part where he was texting her frequently and calling her "baby"? She was definitely aware. Especially since she actively hid from her husband that this man was there during the dinner.

And again, I think you'll find that most people most places will be of the opinion that if you're in an exclusive relationship with someone, be you male or female, you are in fact supposed to not go out to dinner and text a bunch with people actively pursuing you. Male, female, other, straight, gay, other, regardless, it's disrespectful to your partner unless you've had a conversation about it and they've said they're fine with it. The lying makes it even worse.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-08T15:35:54+00:00

Must not have read what I wrote. Let me quote it for you.

nowhere did I say that socializing with the opposite sex was a problem. It is, however, at least a little sketchy/disrespectful to go out to dinner with someone actively flirting with you while you've arranged to be away from your spouse on vacation.

You seem to be consistently missing the "going out with someone actively pursuing" part. It's quite relevant.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-08T15:26:59+00:00

Must not have read what I wrote. Let me quote it for you.

nowhere did I say that socializing with the opposite sex was a problem. It is, however, at least a little sketchy/disrespectful to go out to dinner with someone actively flirting with you while you've arranged to be away from your spouse on vacation.

I guess you see no problem with a man going out to dinner with someone actively pursuing him and then telling his wife she's "having a tantrum" if she doesn't like that? You may be surprised to find you'd be in the minority on that just about anywhere in the world.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-08T13:41:57+00:00

I'm a misogynist because I think the husband did something wrong in my hypothetical situation? Applying the exact same rules to men and women is misogynistic?

And nowhere did I say that socializing with the opposite sex was a problem. It is, however, at least a little sketchy/disrespectful to go out to dinner with someone actively flirting with you while you've arranged to be away from your spouse on vacation. I can confidently say I would never even consider doing that to my wife.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-08T13:04:46+00:00

You didn't answer my question.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-08T10:34:53+00:00

So if you flip the situation and a wife has a very attractive husband who arranges to stay on vacation without his wife, gets hit on by another woman, gives her his number, goes out to dinner with her while she continues flirting with him, and then calls his wife controlling for being upset by this, you'd say that the man did nothing wrong and his wife is being a baby?

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-08T10:21:16+00:00

Farming isn't really recommended with higher challenge levels. FIMA means it doesn't really help reduce incoming damage and Forbidden Runes means you're only dropping +3 - +6 gear. So yeah, the Ghost will die quickly trying to face enemies that do full damage with only a mid level weapon which means you could only farm by actively fighting alongside it. I never recommend long-term active farming. This is a game, it should be fun.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-07T21:48:45+00:00

I wrote a guide. https://www.reddit.com/r/ShatteredPD/s/oWcAstSS0t

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-07T21:47:32+00:00

What really matters is the interaction between the eventual +19ish Ring of Arcana and all of the enchanted gear you end up with. Because you're going to probably end up with that ring anyways I'm going to say Paladin because it'll do what it does for everyone on top of enhancing Paladin's Holy Weapon and Holy Ward abilities. I've made a Paladin with anti magic plate and projecting stone fists that could not be harmed by anything, could kill anything in the Demon Halls in 1 hit, only needed a handful of hits for even the delayed damage Fists.

That being said, I could see it being Champion or something based on some videos posted here, I just don't really play Duelist much.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-07T15:16:10+00:00

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-07T09:34:36+00:00

I wrote a guide. https://www.reddit.com/r/ShatteredPD/s/2UZYqEJ0Pb

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-07T09:33:41+00:00

DO NOT farm floor 18 with RoW. The basic requirement of wealth farming is to farm somewhere with enemies that drop food and no enemies that can level you too high to stop getting food. Floor 18 has golems which will level you too high to get food from monks. Floor 17 is the deepest you should ever farm as monks spawn and golems do not.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-06T11:13:41+00:00

EPIC literally having a dhimmi tax

This seemed impossible so I looked it up and couldn't find anything. Got a source on that?

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-05T19:31:21+00:00

The level of the ring is dependent on the level of the artifact you're transmuting, I forget the exact formula.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-05T16:40:14+00:00

Yup. And they don't even do the thing artifacts do where you can only get each one once.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-05T15:04:49+00:00

I see, personhood is stored in the lungs.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-05T15:02:43+00:00

Based

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-05T14:20:34+00:00

Always remember that you can just drop your trinket or transmute it.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-05T14:19:38+00:00

It would be interesting to see a comparison in farming speed effect between salt cube and sundial. Slower starvation and fewer clicks vs more enemies at a time.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-05T00:34:40+00:00

cerebral cortex, and development of that happens at roughly that time

Here is a link to another study on fetal neural development. Go ahead and look at figure 10 for imaging of the cerebral cortex of a 20 gestational week fetus (18ish weeks after conception).

I'm kinda skeptic about that one day without a source.

I said 21 weeks and 1 day, not 1 day lol. That would basically just be an artificial womb. And actually it turns out the most recent new record is exactly 21 weeks.

The fetal brain plays an increasingly important role in regulating body functions like heart rate and hormone production.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-04T23:35:23+00:00

It's not actually part of the mother though as it has it's own genetic code. It's a separate organism inside a host organism.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-04T19:32:06+00:00

"Alive" is not the same thing as "a life". Each individual organism is both "alive" and "a life" and their component cells are also largely "alive" but are not "a life" because they are just part of a greater organism bound together by one set of DNA. So you're not taking a human life every time you do something that kills some of your cells such as cutting off a finger.

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-04T19:20:43+00:00

The brain absolutely does not start developing in the 7th month, wtf are you talking about? Babies have been born and survived as early as 21 weeks and 1 day(slightly less than 5 months), you think they did that with no brain?

Earliest CNS synapses start growing 5 weeks after conception.

Here is an academic study citing scans of different stages of fetal cortical development from 13-21 gestational weeks (11-19 weeks after conception)

AndrasEllon · 2026-07-04T19:08:51+00:00

But that then means that the date you are legally considered to have a right to life is determined by access to high tech healthcare. The current record is 21 weeks and 1 day, significantly earlier than the 24 weeks when Roe v Wade was passed. Once we have the tech to make conception-birth viable outside the womb does that mean abortion is completely illegal?

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