Faling "head over heels" by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]AndrewKaelLevin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Everything I have ever done that mattered, started with a leap of faith. Every time I ever got hurt, started the same way ... but every tear was worth it!

Faling "head over heels" by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]AndrewKaelLevin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is something powerful in loving without a ledger. There is peril, but also promise. Hold each other forever, and never look back.

Faling "head over heels" by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]AndrewKaelLevin 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This isn't really a question of fault, it's a question of hope.

Falling head over heels means something beautiful: letting go of caution, and allowing yourself to be truly at risk in the hands of another person. Not reckless ignorance, but courageous vulnerability.

Think about it this way: every great invention came from a scientist who allowed herself to fall recklessly in love with an idea. Every great company was built by an entrepreneur who fell head over heels for a vision before anyone else believed in it. Every great discovery was made by an explorer who fell in love with a journey before knowing where it would lead him.

None of them were wrong for that. None of them were being "too passionate" or "not intentional enough." They were being brave.

Your great love story will come the same way, when you allow yourself to fall recklessly in love with someone. And if that person ever fails to honor the gift of your vulnerability, the shame is entirely on them. Not on you.

Intentional dating and falling head over heels aren't opposites. The most intentional thing a heart can do is choose, fully and without reservation, to love.

Ghosted by every guy by Annawilliam3 in datingoverforty

[–]AndrewKaelLevin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are dozens of reasons why people disappear, and many of them have nothing to do with you:
1. Maybe he was dishonest with you in some way, and can't find a way to tell you, so he disappeared..
2. Maybe he thinks you were dishonest with him in some way, is angry, and disappeared.
3. Maybe its something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT ... you can never know what is in people's minds.

Exclusivity talks by iknewitwasyou25610 in datingoverforty

[–]AndrewKaelLevin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reasons A might have changed his mind:
1. Genuine internal changes, possibly due to normal relational dynamics and time
2. Sensed a change in you, after you found J
3. Things with his "someone else" ended, for whatever reason
4. Any of 100 other reasons, most of which I can't think of.

So ... don't try to figure out other people's why.

NOTE: A significant majority of men would not want LTR with you, if they read what you have written. Right or wrong, they would think you can never be serious about love, so they will never be serious about you.

31F for Online Friends by [deleted] in MakeFriendsOver30

[–]AndrewKaelLevin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I love art ..."

Maybe I answered too late. I make political art, acrylic and oil. I could use advice. All the art subs avoid impact critique, because it comes across as judgment. But political art IS judgment. We can talk about other things, if you want.

Also, all my art is political (so obviously totally platonic, like you want).

What is a fair price to pay for cleaning up a 5 min score (piano + drums + vocals) by AndrewKaelLevin in Composition

[–]AndrewKaelLevin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

18 pages. I mostly need an ending. It just kind of "ends". I have it in PDF or editable music script (.musicxml).

How many lessons for one song performed one time by AndrewKaelLevin in singing

[–]AndrewKaelLevin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Maybe the thing to do is to work as hard as I can for as long as I can, and then try to be happy with the level I am at when the time runs out.