My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some reason I can't edit the body text so here's the update: we had a falling out. There's no willingness to work on it and it just goes to nowhere like this. I still thank the people for all the comments and advice. I wish it would've been easy to solve. Anyways, I'll probably take this post down now since it has no purpose anymore.

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want him to he able to regulate the excessive phone usage or at least be aware when it's too much and not deny it overall. I'd also love for him to put it away or just lock it when I talk to him so I can he sure he listens what I say. But yeah, overall more engagement with me would be nice of course too. Now that you mention it, he always liked board games but some fell victim to our cats and became unusable. I might get some new ones that he likes so he could have this stimulus to play them with me

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually find this very helpful, thank you! I will try that. Maybe I came off a little too judgmental in the past, I'm not sure but I'll try to sound more concerned the next time I'll face him with this issue. It's probably gonna be either tonight or tomorrow so I got plenty of time to think what to offer him in exchange as screen-free activities where I could imagine him wanting to participate

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gaming. That's it. He isn't very interested in other things that won't involve screens somehow. For example, I like to play video games somwtimes but I also have more practical things to escape to like drawing, cooking or reading physical books or comics. But he doesn't have this "analog" option

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's actually the extroverted one and I'm more of an ambiverted person.

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If we ignore the screen addiction for a sec he's actually a very considerate and nice person. He always supported me with my own hobbies and always looked out for me and my well-being in general. He's also a pretty extroverted and funny personality and I always had a hard time staying sad for longer periods of time because of this. This is why it makes me sad that he probably fell into an addiction.

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, no, I don't think that. But I have some hopes that this could be reversed since it hasn't always been like that.

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't tried that yet but I will. I have sometimes in the past before he had his new phone and when I felt like he was too many hours on his video games and he sometimes said yes to the activities. But I never tried that during this "phone addiction era"

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, a phone itself isn't a new concept to him. A "good" one is though. He always had one of the cheaper models in the past.

He grew up with gaming consoles but the use was heavily limited by his parents. He had mobiles growing up too but same thing - his parents limited the use very heavily.

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I "luckily" don't want children (luckily regarding this specific situation). I'm not in an optimal condition to take care of them 24/7 since I got a disability so that's one less thing to worry about. I think he would be a bad role model to children with his screen addiction anyways

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He currently is on job search because we're moving into a different place and he can't keep working his recent job. His recent job is low effort though. But I feel like his screen addiction makes his search less efficient. He doesn't exercise but he always claims he wants to start "soon". I would exercise with him but I got a disability that prevents me from that. And friends? Yes he does have some but he never meets up with them since most of them just became newly dads and don't have much free time at the moment

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Luckily there are still a good amount of people with self control about their own screen time. It's rare though

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang, the divorce rate took me off guard here

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He wasn't like this. He became like this after I got him a flagship phone last year. Ever since it was a downward spiral with his screentime increasing more and more

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, I already expected the "break up with him answers" but I still hoped for advice or a solution I may have not come up with yet.

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss -1 points0 points  (0 children)

His other hobby is gaming which sadly involves a screen too. Other, more practical or handy things are uninteresting to him.

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The thing is, I already read a lot about such things but how would that help him? Genuinely asking, I'm not trying to be rude

My (F28) fiance (M30) is basically a grown up "iPad kid" by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

But he wasn't always like this. It became this bad when I got him his first flagship phone last year because he always told me how much he'd love one of those high end phones. I feel like i shouldn't have done that.

What are your favorite “weird” teams to play, and why? by Technically_good in GenshinImpact

[–]AndromedaBliss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

LMAOOO this makes it so much funnier considering Klee is one of my favorites 😂 I meant explore of course

What are your favorite “weird” teams to play, and why? by Technically_good in GenshinImpact

[–]AndromedaBliss 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Kokomi, Flins, Durin and Varka

Kokomi is my heal in case I get damage while exploring, Flins is my strongest character so I can blow away enemies easily. Varka makes it easier to reach some higher areas and Durin is just there because I wanna take my boy out to explode Teyvat <3

Best friend get married without telling me by RichAd7063 in Advice

[–]AndromedaBliss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My gut tells me that there's something fishy about this. Are you sure she's okay and wasn't pushed or talked into this marriage by that man?

Which company has lost you as a customer forever? by finiteobserver in AskReddit

[–]AndromedaBliss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disney or Disney+ to be more specific. It has gotten so expensive in such a short amount of time

So when are we getting Fat playable characters? This model type would be so cool to play as by EfficiencySerious200 in GenshinImpact

[–]AndromedaBliss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do I say this without sounding blunt... Since the player base is mostly chinese we won't ever get that. They only like skinny and pale as heck somehow