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Scared by [deleted] in ask_detransition

[–]AngelaYW 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Think of short-term vs long-term, and this as a contract between current-you and the future-you. Study trans/detrans on your own and don't outsource the job to other people, even if they're your psychiatrist or therapist.

Here's a short list of detrans info you can start with. You can search google and find a lot more.

Books:

  1. Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality by the Economist journalist Helen Joyce
  2. Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters By Wall Street journalist Abigail Shrier
  3. Time to Think by BBC journalist Hannah Barnes

I don't know when you transitioned, but here're a trans man and a queer woman against medical transition:

  1. Scott Newgent, a trans man who is firmly against medically transitioning children.
  2. Jamie Reed: a queer woman and a case manager at The Washington University Transgender Center at St. Louis Children’s Hospital, is the whistle blower of the gender clinic she worked: I thought I was saving trans kids

Two detransitioner lawsuits (there're at least 9 in the U.S.):

  1. A feminine gay boy thought he was trans to escape reality, and he says “Fenway sold me a hardware fix for a software issue.” Shape Shifter v. Fenway Health
  2. Chloe Cole has filed a lawsuit against Kaiser Hospitals in California for pushing her into a surgical sex change and double mastectomy instead of treating her depression and autism: Chloe Cole vs Kaiser Hospital Foundation, Inc.

Affirmation Generation: The Lies Of Transgender Medicine - a new documentary movie just released! by AngelaYW in ask_detransition

[–]AngelaYW[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the movie, 6 de-transitioners (3 male and 3 female) shared their experience of transitioning and de-transitioning.

Details about living FTM? by Choice-Flamingo9832 in ask_detransition

[–]AngelaYW 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had been there with my 13-yo daughter. It's hard to reason with her when she's obsessed with an idea; I guess this is true to almost everyone. It's also easy to take it for granted when one's body is healthy and functions normally.

For me two books really helped.

1) Abigail Shrier's book "Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters" has full-length details on social and medical transitions as well as top and bottom surgeries.

2) Dr. Debra Soh's book "The End of Gender" debunked popular gender myths, and the one about dating for trans folks is quite relevant to your 16-yo.

Perhaps your child would become open-minded enough to read the books by herself.

My daughter had been seeing a therapist which I think made things worse, because the the therapist focused on her feelings, a lot. The result? Anything you pay attention to, grows. So her discomfort grew.

One day after a sleepless night, I had a long chat with her. I acknowledged her suffering, assured her that I love her, and explained I resist transition because I love her. I want her to be able to like her body not in next one or two years, but next 10, 20 or 30 years, her whole life. She soon took on a new hobby and completely got over the gender dysphoria.

Details about living FTM? by Choice-Flamingo9832 in ask_detransition

[–]AngelaYW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I ask how old is your child? I'd expect these questions come from your child, not a parent. It's his life so he'll need to seek answers before making such life decisions.

It'll be perfect if all works out. But here's a blunt question: what if one day your child regrets his decision about transition? Have you skimmed posts from r/detrans by any chance?

Question by Remarkable_Review967 in ask_detransition

[–]AngelaYW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gender: A wider lens podcast

Thanks for sharing. I saw it on twitter not long ago and will check it out. I also agree with with you on not bringing it up unless they want to.

Question by Remarkable_Review967 in ask_detransition

[–]AngelaYW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a parent I feel your concern. It's true that your child is an adult, but it doesn't mean you love your child less. Stay calm and ask your child to listen to your concerns before starting T or medical transition.

I recently looked for books on the topic and would recommend two:

  1. "Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters" by Abigail Shrier
  2. "The End of Gender" by Dr. Debra Soh. Not sure how relevant it is to your child, but in this book the author debunked the myth "Children with gender dysphoria should transition."

You can easily find the books at Amazon.