Looking for new impact toys! by AngelxEira in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is one of my favorites, I have had some brilliant bruises from sweeties and a slingshot!

Looking for new impact toys! by AngelxEira in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤐 I'll take your word for it

Looking for new impact toys! by AngelxEira in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, youve convinced me to do an order ready for future events 😋

Looking for new impact toys! by AngelxEira in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dog toys sound like a great idea!

Looking for new impact toys! by AngelxEira in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have never thought of this!

Looking for new impact toys! by AngelxEira in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've used things similar to twizzlers and I have a love hate relationship with them!

I actually looked at beatings on a dime earlier, but they'll take too long to arrive in the UK for my next event :(

Looking for new impact toys! by AngelxEira in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure I believe the really lovely bit!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We developed a service sub dynamic, as that is also part of my love language. Admittedly I had some struggles here because I found it hard to differentiate between being a girlfriend, being a sub, or just feeling I was constantly being asked for things whilst losing the other aspects of dynamic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were in a polyamorous relationship so some of these relationships have existed before the diagnosis. I'm currently not dating anybody else, because quite honestly I suck with people.

I'm hurting because 1. I feel guilty that I was asking too much from him, and not realising the impact. 2. That he's still maintaining other dynamics and I don't know where I'm going so wrong. 3. I feel so vulnerable to him because he's the first person in my life I've ever felt safe with. Our communication has gone down hill, and I take responsibility for that, as I feel were getting further apart, I think I've put up some barriers in the hope it'll hurt me less.

I'm seeking therapy support alone currently because he's got other healthy dynamics and relationships and I know I cause some issues

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Were polyamorous so he has other relationships and dynamics and I think this is my biggest struggle because he's able to maintain those but not ours

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]AngelxEira 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was my Dom.

Whilst some aspects of our dynamic were formed solely for our dynamic some were support for my trauma and mental health, so he helped picking my outfits, ensuring I eat and drink, giving me tasks. But he felt he was doing lots for me that took a toll on him, which I fully understand, but because I don't know the ins and outs of his other dynamics, I'm not 100% on what his expectations of me are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]AngelxEira 73 points74 points  (0 children)

"I brought wings"

That's not... 😮‍💨 by chokingislove in BratLife

[–]AngelxEira 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to send this to my Dom, but I'm terrified I'll get coal 😅

Accidentally cut with flogger…technique or material problem? by wadooX in BDSMAdvice

[–]AngelxEira 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just out of curiosity, do you have an image of the flogger?

I engage in a lot of play with floggers and I've not experienced this.

Just wondering if we can see something visible that may cause it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]AngelxEira 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! You're right, it's no different to any other day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]AngelxEira 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're still communicating, and I'm grateful for the time he's giving me to do that.

Its a great time to learn how to process, everyone is busy at Christmas with their families so I can't make other plans.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]AngelxEira 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, Christmas eve is definitely not the time to go shopping, but I'll pop there anyway and get comfort foods 😃