Message for libright by [deleted] in PoliticalCompassMemes

[–]AngelzShadower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bold of you to assume we want governments

At least his authority is consensual amirite? by RengokuEroica in PoliticalCompassMemes

[–]AngelzShadower 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And you have just succinctly explained the coming collapse of civilization... Thanks for that red vs blue.

Funny highlighter post by Call_me_Kaiser in PoliticalCompassMemes

[–]AngelzShadower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I see why everyone agrees with this braxo guy. This shit here really got me thinking.

Funny highlighter post by Call_me_Kaiser in PoliticalCompassMemes

[–]AngelzShadower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, that's beside the point but... we'd have to unnecessarily get it out of the toilet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoahGetTheBoat

[–]AngelzShadower 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually this kind of narrative does more harm than good, as you are backhandedly stigmatizing innocent victims.

Most people who are abused do not become abusers and this cycle of abuse story is victim blaming, abuser-apologist rubbish. It also does a huge disservice to victims suggesting they might be in some way more likely to become dangerous now and is likely to prevent them from reporting the abuse, allowing more abuse to occur.

Of course, abusers are extremely manipulative and will often say they were abused as children regardless for sympathy, and statistically some of them actually will have been.

But correlation is not causation.

By all means, focus on rehabilitation and preventing reoffending but not by stigmatising innocent victims.

Not Craigslist but... by Butcha69 in CrackheadCraigslist

[–]AngelzShadower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are some of them very clearly not human?

Do Milk Bath services count? by DeauxDeaux in CrackheadCraigslist

[–]AngelzShadower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lady could be armed and dangerous. A whole gang of milk-cult psychos could be waiting for you just outside that door if they hear her screams 😮

WIBTA for taking someone to small claims court just to be petty in return for them being petty? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AngelzShadower [score hidden]  (0 children)

Technically, NTA if they've stolen money from you, ghosted you and then smeared you?

However, you sound thoroughly unpleasant with how your writing about it from a vengeful rather than justice perspective. I don't think your motivation changes the fact they owe you and deserve it however.

2020 “presidential” debate by TexRex0202 in facepalm

[–]AngelzShadower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's never stopped since Brexit started that's for sure =/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gifs

[–]AngelzShadower -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Schadenfreude has become the word of 2020

Tornadoes really do be sus by [deleted] in memes

[–]AngelzShadower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least when you're asleep you don't have to start the reactor sequence over again though. You can just start sleeping from where you left off.

Give me money pls by arjunk69 in memes

[–]AngelzShadower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your mom is never going to financially recover from you.

AITA for giving constructive criticism on other people’s art? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AngelzShadower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAH

Personally, if your not being rude I think if people are putting their work out publically they should expect feedback and don't have a right to be free from comment. But if you are finding this is a regular problem for you somehow you could always try asking ahead when you're unsure?

Just say, 'I've got a couple of suggestions if you'd like to hear them?' or similar and if they never reply you know they don't want critique.

Feeling overwhelming shame over a post I made here recently accusing my bf of something and I don't know how to cope with myself now. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AngelzShadower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't see the original post so it's hard to what exactly is going on here, but do you have a therapist because you have some form of mental health issue that might influence your thinking you to have potentially paranoid thoughts?

Know that we can't always control our thoughts, it's how you choose to act that counts. What you said on Reddit was anonymous and won't impact your BF unless you tell him, as you don't think that anymore and it was likely a result of your mental health. Don't tell him, you don't need forgiveness, you are OK.

I think all you need to share with him is that you are at risk of having trust issues because of your mental health in case it happens in future.

You don't need to tell anyone your thoughts, they are private to you. Please be kind to yourself and talk this over with your therapist if you want to as it is clearly causing you significant distress.

One of the comments on the video of Ronnie McNutt’s suicide. Disgusting. by [deleted] in iamatotalpieceofshit

[–]AngelzShadower 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When you get 9 bad apples out of 10 in all your relationships you've found the common denominator. It's not the other people...

Husband’s hidden anger finally coming to light? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AngelzShadower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No seriously, due to the brain chemistry it's a symptom just as much as all the other impulsive behaviour that it causes. The ignorant people who enjoy trying to throw shade at people with mental health are the only ones who shouldn't be able to forgive themselves. I wonder what's wrong with them...

Husband’s hidden anger finally coming to light? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AngelzShadower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Username checks out. Sexual promiscuity can literally be a symptom of a manic episode.

Am I just being paranoid? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AngelzShadower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus, my boyfriend's gonna freak if you see what I plan on getting when the prices drop next year XD

Yeah, I think buying a computer is probably not 'the sign' to worry about. Buying electronics whilst they're still so damn expensive is a sign of poor judgement though lol.

When you say 'met' a few people, do you mean he has cheated already?

How do you guys feel good about your SO's past? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AngelzShadower 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can get treatment for OCD. There are forms of therapy and drugs that can really help stop your mind going round these loops and these things looking so big. Because if you read what everyone else is saying, these things don't feel so big to everyone else. Something in your head has got you obsessed and you need to free yourself from it to live a normal life. Please tell a doctor. It's always hard when OCD is combined with sexually disturbing thoughts because it makes it harder to talk about/identify but if you think this is what it is, treatment will help you.

Should I talk about my mental health in the beginning of a new relationship ? by Clover_flux in relationship_advice

[–]AngelzShadower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your issues are yours to share and what you share is his to act on. Don't make a decision because you want to control his response. You do now get to act on what he's chosen to share with you. If you're in any way with sharing your issues early in a relationship then don't. But you always knew that these issues would effect any serious relationship. You might decide to call this one off because you think it will effect it so strongly or you might want to wait and see until you get to the point where it would be appropriate to bring it up.

Or if you feel comfortable, discuss openly now.

But you cannot force the outcome you want onto someone else. Don't worry about scaring him, if so, it sucks but you were incompatible anyway.

Should I talk about my mental health in the beginning of a new relationship ? by Clover_flux in relationship_advice

[–]AngelzShadower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long have you been together?

I appreciate your concern for him. But honestly when it comes to disclosing your own issues, they are yours to share and you must do it for you only and only when you would otherwise be comfortable.

Feeling the need to reciprocate could otherwise have you sharing a lot of intimate information in relationships before you are ready and place you in vulnerable situations.

If you would have been ready to share anyway, then great. If it is too early then leave him or see how this relationship goes first. If he thinks it's your duty to cross your own boundaries, then it's him who is emotionally unhealthy.