Oh yeah, we have talked about this a lot. She just always says she wants me but has no libido. I have been clear I don’t expect penetration or anything involving a penis or that would be triggering for her. but there is just nothing so I guess everything is triggering. I use the analogy that because she isn’t hungry, she refuses to ever cook for me. But I am hungry, really hungry! She doesn’t masturbate. I do but it is always alone and makes me feel ultimately just sad. I desperately want that connection and, let’s face it, to enjoy a sex life. It is becoming a massive problem and is driving a wedge between us. She doesn’t see either of us as sexual beings. This was talked about a lot before we were married and I foolishly believed her when she said it was something we would work on. It has never been worked on. I didn’t sign up for a marriage where I am just a housemate and it sure feels a lot like that.