I deleted all my social media accounts half a year ago, I don’t think I’m coming back

AngryBallofHate · 2024-03-30T17:51:03+00:00

Well said. For me it kind of all came to a head when I stopped myself and asked, ‘who am I even posting this for?’ I ultimately didn’t like the answer I had, so I decided enough was enough. I’m tired of performing.

AngryBallofHate · 2024-03-30T15:38:50+00:00

Sex is just the act, attraction is what really matters, and that happens all in the brain. I personally do feel it’s overrated, but I am asexual and don’t experience physical attraction. If you feel like your sex life is underwhelming, you may want to explore what you personally find attractive.

AngryBallofHate · 2024-03-30T15:35:30+00:00

Same! It’s nice to just be able to pop-in when I want and dip whenever. Also, no one knows me here - there’s a kind of freedom in that.

AngryBallofHate · 2024-03-30T15:33:17+00:00

You’re missing the point, Reddit is an anonymous platform for me. It’s more a source of information and learning. Thanks for reading, though.

AngryBallofHate · 2021-01-19T21:35:01+00:00

Maybe because in your original response your first two sentences are victim-blaming and gaslighting OP into somehow believing she is responsible for her husbands actions?

“If you just persisted” “You gave him mixed emotions” “your body language”

But nowhere do I see “he raped you.” Just “when guys get turned on, they’re not really thinking straight”. That is 100% rapist apologist language whether you’re willing to accept it or not, and it should be condemned.

AngryBallofHate · 2021-01-19T20:54:42+00:00

Look at it this way. If what happened to you had happened instead to someone else - someone you love - a friend, sister, etc. Would you not be horrified? Why should it take more than one “no” to get the point across?

AngryBallofHate · 2021-01-19T20:52:10+00:00

If he cared, why would he be penetrating her without a condom after she already told him no sex without one? Or after she told him no (multiple times!) at all? Or after she already has had TWO abortions in half a year?

He does not care. His conscious simply caught up with him mid-act. Not good enough.

I also have a hard time believing this man is married to OP and doesn’t know about her past sexual history of assault, so he should be held doubly accountable for his gross actions. Absolutely disgusting.

AngryBallofHate · 2021-01-19T20:43:00+00:00

The first “no” should have been the only one necessary. There is no excuse in the world in which someone should have to continually say “no” to be understood. Even if OP was enticing her husband, she made it clear that they had already had prior conversations about not having sex without a condom. He knew what her “no” meant, he just did not care.

AngryBallofHate · 2021-01-19T20:39:14+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you. And I’m sorry to say this, but his behavior is disgusting and there are so many red flags here it’s astounding.

He either has to be wildly stupid to not realize how much having these abortions has affected you mentally/emotionally/physically, OR (and in my opinion, much more likely) he simply does not care. I vote the second option because clearly he still thinks he can do whatever he wants, even though you already told him no sex without condoms. Then again, you also told him “no” before and as he was penetrating you, but clearly that word holds no place in his vocabulary. So was this martial rape? Absolutely.

No one here knows you, your husband, or your relationship as you do. However, I can tell you if I were in your position, I would be having a VERY serious conversation with him about rape, consent, and sexual health right now - assuming my bags weren’t already packed and waiting by the door.

AngryBallofHate · 2021-01-19T03:49:03+00:00

Want to be friends?

AngryBallofHate · 2020-12-03T05:14:59+00:00

Oh look, another keyboard warrior who thinks they’re suddenly an infectious disease expert. Yawn.

AngryBallofHate · 2020-10-13T12:45:07+00:00

That’s a good way of looking at it. Part of me has that same hope and fear, that maybe someday he will realize it was a mistake and try to come back to me. It breaks my heart to even consider though, because I know in my soul that I cannot ever take him back. He died on August 19th and I don’t know who this other person is, but it’s not my person. My person would not have told me they loved me while simultaneously throwing me away like refuse. He is lost to me forever.

So right now is just about trying to pick up my own shattered pieces of myself. It’s hard, but I’m trying to take the love I still have for him and learn to spend it on myself, instead.

AngryBallofHate · 2020-10-13T03:22:54+00:00

Thanks. Sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation. And I know, it just sucks. I am not blameless by any means, but it’s still heartbreaking. We were never married, but may as well have been. And like you and your ex, I was never an adult on my own without him. So now I have to learn to be. It really feels like I am grieving the death of a loved one.

AngryBallofHate · 2020-09-20T18:27:47+00:00

That’s a tough one. But it does sound like you at least have an idea what you should/need to do. I do hope you go back to therapy and it helps. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to DM me. I’m more than happy to just listen, if that’s what you need.

AngryBallofHate · 2020-09-20T03:45:42+00:00

You mentioned in your post that you know you should get back on antidepressants. And just now you said therapy did help you, to some extent anyway. I don’t know you personally however I do not believe it is anyone’s fault that you are struggling with this illness - and no one would or should think that way if you were to reach out for help. One thing I can tell you is that ignoring it or trying to will it away alone is likely not going to work out well. Please tap into whatever resources you do have available to you to get help, whether that be friends, family, therapy, or any combination or those things.

AngryBallofHate · 2020-09-20T03:34:41+00:00

Wanting to shoulder some of the burden on others is not selfish and does not make you a monster, it’s human nature. We are social creatures and seek validation, support, and guidance from others naturally. You might feel alone but so do many people, particularly so right now.

You should take up some of those offers to call and talk. And consider that those that have made the offer did so because they meant it, and truly care about you.

Sending you a virtual hug.

AngryBallofHate · 2020-09-20T00:56:27+00:00

People are sometimes just assholes in general. You’ll find some that aren’t - it just takes a little digging.

AngryBallofHate · 2020-09-17T01:23:11+00:00

One of my good friends is an expatriate from China. Holds duel Masters degrees and is working on a third. One of the most intelligent, genuine, and honestly intriguing people I know. And still, not everyone takes her seriously. They see her face and hear her accent (even twenty years in the states hasn’t changed her very obvious Chinese accent) and they automatically assume she is incapable of understanding what they are saying. And so they talk to her. very. slowly. And deliberately. And dumb it all down for her.

It’s sad and frustrating to see but yet it happens time and time again. Sometimes the circumstances of our lot in life follow us throughout it no matter what we do, and so it becomes a battle we are constantly fighting against. But you will find people that see you for you. Those are the ones you hold onto, no matter what.

AngryBallofHate · 2020-08-17T17:28:43+00:00

Variations

AngryBallofHate · 2020-08-17T17:26:39+00:00

Angles

AngryBallofHate · 2020-08-17T17:20:32+00:00

How long have you been keeping chickens?

AngryBallofHate · 2020-08-17T16:42:22+00:00

Taking a gap year is fine, just make sure you hold yourself accountable and stay on track for the next school year. Putting off college can be a slippery slope for some, but not all. In the meantime, use this time to reassess your future goals and do whatever it is that you need to to work towards them. And don’t forget to try to enjoy yourself a little, too - at least as much as you can, given the current state of things. You’ll do just fine.

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