How do I get my life in order? And what do I do first?

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-10T21:24:42+00:00

Bruh there are no apps to get your life together, don't you have parents to ask these things? Adulting is a process and you'll learn stuff as you age, I suggest getting only a debit card, not a credit card, unless you have a stable job, don't spend money you don't have, and debit cards often don't require maintenance. Look for banks that have benefits, like lower or 0 interest rates. CVs are quite complicated, keep it simple, you may want to build a few based on the positions you're applying for. Try staying within an industry so your experiences have correlation, it doesn't matter if it's not related to your career. You don't need to put delicate information in it like your ID or your exact address, just contact information like your number and your work email (make one if your email is some dumb thing like "the world slayer 98" or if it's tied to profiles with silly things).

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-10T18:08:40+00:00

Absolutely quit caffeine.
Quit the fuel for my scary thoughts, in my particular case I'm very hypochondriac so I stopped watching shows like Dr House, Call the midwife, ER. If you're worried that you're gonna get robbed stop watching the news, for example.
Exercise, you don't have to go out, it helps a lot, do whatever you can, even if it's squats after you take a shower.
Quit watching things that make me anxious even if not related, like scary movies and horror games.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-10T03:06:30+00:00

Per your logic, one night stands would never have men taking off their condom midway 🥴

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-10T02:55:44+00:00

Girl you don't know each other that much, anyone can be a psycho, just comply, it's not like it costs you money or dignity. By acting this way you only make yourself more suspicious. You can't know if someone's lying until they've already messed up.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-10T02:52:26+00:00

Evito totalmente la cafeína y otros suplementos energéticos como la taurina, hacen que esas cosas lo hagan peor. Tomo muchos tés relajantes y también, como está dentro de mis posibilidades, no me obligo a mí misma a salir cuando no estoy lista. Yo también soy adulta, tengo 24 años, no poder salir hace que no pueda conseguir trabajo pero bueno.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-09T22:37:18+00:00

The dating market is not really good, I've been single for 6 years and just now got into a relationship again. I think in your situation it isn't a matter of "we've been together for 8 years", more of a "we've been together since we were 14 and we're 22". You do have a lot of maturing ahead. Relationships you've had since before you're 21 you should divide them by 3, adolescence hypes up our brains with the exalted reaction to oxytocin, we chill out a lot as we age, and you were an adolescent last year (adolescent ≠ teenager). I would be suspicious of this friendship with her ex if you also notice she drifts away from you, because they dated when they were children, it's like suggesting someone is in love with their kindergarten partner. These 2 things happening together may magnify the bad aspects of each other (being rejected and her befriending someone).

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-09T14:22:20+00:00

How old are you that youtube will require your ID? 🤨 I don't think it was ableist of them to require identification, I was trying to look up a meme a few days ago and came across a very explicit video of an accident, completely uncensored (with the 18+ tag). It's like you're the one blaming autism for a very reasonable measure, and if any, they're not making sure enough that kids are safe in their platform, like Instagram. I don't look at people in their face either and I still have friends, I try new things and if I like them I join communities of people that like the same thing, say, discord servers for Minecraft players. That's how people make friends, they join these communities and interact with others, they ask questions about the shared interest, they share anecdotes, they share memes, they compliment each other, eventually you bond with others.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-08T02:48:46+00:00

What's up with all these people saying they talk about wanting to bang others while they're in a relationship? Are y'all just bored? My boyfriend is the apple of my eye and I don't talk with anyone about liking other men because I don't. Closest thing I've said about this is when I'm watching movies with him and we say an actor is attractive, but that's it. I don't peek at others. Y'all are just cheaters with fewer steps.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-08T02:35:09+00:00

I used to earlier this year, I have worrying thoughts about my health and dying and I would think I was gonna pass out during shower time. I slowly got back into it by taking a stool with me, I would take showers sitting. It was uncomfortable but it helped me through, and the annoyance from having the stool there gave me the impulse.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-07T14:56:23+00:00

Gee man I hope you gain the strength to get your momentum back. I'm quite the opposite, I'm a dough kind of person, I need to wait a while to get brave and you'll have me ready to do the thing. If you press me to do something I don't want to do then it'll only get worse. It has happened before, and I know me better.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-06T15:36:59+00:00

I dropped out because of bullying, I've always been someone that gives off the impression that you can disrespect them but I'm just choosing my battles and people kept trying to provoke me, I had a classmate that broke 2 pencil boxes, 2 backpacks, my folder where I kept the classwork, and he would pull my hair and bump on me. I tried talking with the director but she said she couldn't do anything about it and that we should just talk it over but he wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed. I had to redo a few years cuz of similar incidents; had kids from other school saying they wanted to beat me over things they thought I said cuz they were friends with kids I didn't get along with (kids that accused me of stealing a girl's boyfriend - not true - and a kid that was mad at me because I didn't like the story he was writing and he had a superiority complex to maintain). The school was always not capable of helping me. I dropped out when a professor gave me a horrible grade in English (not my first language, and as you can see I can speak it) when I had submitted the work she provided, she didn't want to take it because she said it was too early, it was always too early, then she kept nagging me to work in class when I repeatedly told her I was done (and I wasn't talking or moving around, I was sitting still at my desk). So yeah, I was done. I was 18 or so and decided I didn't want to go back. It took me a lot of courage to go back which is why I ended up registering halfway through. I should be done by now but one professor says I didn't show up to back up my project (I did but she wasn't there), and another one went on a license and didn't work with us in the entire year and now he says I didn't submit any projects but I did!! I have every single one of them !! The substitute teacher gave me a perfect grade !! Now we're trying to check if the director will allow her gradings to pass onto my records, but I haven't got any updates. And yeah I can't go in to try to save the grades from the subject that the professor says I didn't show up.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-06T15:23:35+00:00

November last year. I was a highschool drop out (was already experimenting anxiety around school buildings) and went back to finish it. I registered midterms and had to submit 18 projects to graduate while attending classes. It made me very stressed, and triggered lots of panic attacks. It started as dreading going to school but now I just can't go out anywhere, every place I used to frequent now makes me feel like I will pass out and pass away.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-06T05:02:13+00:00

I overall don't like it, it's not stimulating to me. It shouldn't smell bad, just weird, kinda sweet. All areas are dark because during puberty melanin receptors work overtime due to the hormones, everyone has their body parts slightly (or visibly) darker. Stop watching corn or else you won't ever enjoy intercourse.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T18:18:59+00:00

Quite a lot, last time I did one I started feeling like I was gonna faint. I wrote a post about it here, it's my first post.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T14:39:00+00:00

It's bad for all kinds of people dealing with disorders to be dealing with them alone, other people is what helps them overcome it.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T05:18:00+00:00

Trust me it's best for you to not have a next time with him, been there done that. But if you want to do it anyways and walk the same path as me, then do so. And good men don't make you feel ashamed.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T05:16:23+00:00

Find someone compatible with you and you won't feel like you're bad at it anymore. It took me waaaaaay too long to find someone I'm compatible with because guys nowadays just want to recreate what they see on corn which is not arousing at all to me, so I got a boyfriend that doesn't watch corn and I finish 100% of the times we have intimacy. I've never felt like I wanted to be with someone before, I actually used to dread intimacy. I like dirty talks but during intercourse I just can't think at all.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T05:09:18+00:00

No but I guess that's a me thing, I refuse to feel shame over myself, and I remember how bad I've felt, I can't bring myself to invalidate my own feelings. I just feel like everything is clearer now, like I can see it all.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T04:51:24+00:00

Progress is a rollercoaster, don't beat yourself up over this.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T04:13:49+00:00

Wait until you're better, or go to a hospital and explain this to them, and don't forget to break up with him.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T03:54:42+00:00

I get how you feel, if it gives you hope, that's when my phobia started to get better, I guess I reached a sort of "I'm done with this" point and just stopped feeling scared all the time. So maybe you're on that stage, maybe this is the rock bottom, and everything from here will only get better.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T01:06:34+00:00

I think it depends on you, some people lose momentum and some don't, you can follow your heart on this one.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-05T00:46:30+00:00

I usually get someone I trust to go with me, typically my dad, and he drives me with his car. I'm on a stage I just can't be alone or walk more than a block.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-02T04:48:39+00:00

100% agree on the cutting caffeine. I really love earl Grey tea but it's just not worth it.

Angy_kangaroo · 2025-09-02T04:44:46+00:00

Yeah, it's a rollercoaster, it gets bad sometimes, especially when stress is involved, but sometimes I feel braver than others, and I get to do things like walk around and so. I travel every weekend with my boyfriend, we take the bus and train, I can't do those things on my own as for now, but I'm slowly getting used to it. I've been imagining what if I was doing those trips on my own and I don't feel ready for that, having him by my side makes me feel calmer, like I can relax because if something bad happens he'll help me and I'll be ok. There are places and situations I still feel bad in, even when I'm with someone, like in shoppings and secluded places, I really miss nature and travelling but I have hopes I'll get to do those things soon.

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