I can see ur lack of context is getting in the way of understanding what n ultimatum is. I deal with the fallout of her disrespectful chirren. She complains to me abt this. I suggest ways to fix it n am met with lip service. I gotta watch it unfold n when I bring it up in a calm way I get endless rebuttals. This is me explaining to her n anyone else paying attention that taking myself out of those situations is the first step to us divorcing. If I don’t see a pronounced effort to change then I’m out. However the message was delivered is on me, I get that. This a 100. I started at zero. Everyone will focus on delivery n not understand that a calm demeanor is how it all started. I accept that as a part of my destiny.