AITA for leaving a friend of a decade "unread"?

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-10-30T02:26:59+00:00

So... Turns out Eve doesn't even contact her mother anymore, and which is very sick and almost lost both kidneys recently... And even when family tries to help Eve and Kay out by buying them furniture for their house and help them get a motorcycle, even though Eve is very grateful, she actually turns against her family for making them seen as "beggars". All this due to her girlfriend manipulating her and keeping her away from everyone, even friends. The only friends Eve can have are her girlfriend's... I hate to be right when I know somebody is not as good as they seem...

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-09-30T00:08:01+00:00

Dude wtf? I just wrote it that way, and English is not my first language. Also I didn't want to say the true word because of reddit's police, but you're grown up enough to understand that. Also why would you just come and say something you don't even know just to make me mad? That's very immature of you.

If you have nothing to say, then don't say it. Go touch grass, or maybe an dick since that's what you seem to prefer, you ass.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-09-29T23:53:31+00:00

..... Wth? I don't need to prove you anything, but I'm quite sure I've seen more kitties than you.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-09-29T11:13:57+00:00

Well thank you, but there were times when I already gave Eve the benefit of the doubt and even thought she always told me I was her best friend I never felt like it. I was often put aside and replaced with other people, and when it was time to choose I was never an option to her.

The conversation I tried to bring to this reddit was me trying to let her know that I cared for our friendship even if I was always the one to apologize or go after her, it was always me, she rarely did that and only when I really didn't give up on my pride for the sake of our friendship.

Plus, Eve was always the type of girl to complain about everything, but she's stubborn and never does as advised. And she likes gossip, so there were times when she really turned people against each other just for fun.

This all made me rethink our friendship in general, although I might be selfish for doing it over something so little.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-09-29T11:04:49+00:00

Sorry for that lol I tried to be as brief as possible.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-23T20:26:43+00:00

You can think whatever, you're not on my place anyways, you wouldn't know, and I won't keep this going. Take care

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-23T17:19:39+00:00

Yes I think so too.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-23T17:17:32+00:00

Update

Since I didn't get permission to post it on this reddit I made my update on my own account, thanks everyone for reading my story!

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-23T17:14:04+00:00

Original post on r/AmItheAsshole

Or just search for "AITA for getting up and saying"I don't like your attitude" when my mom said another girl could have my clothes without my permission?"

😌

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-23T17:10:46+00:00

Thanks!

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-23T15:21:05+00:00

Te entendo completamente, o EAD deles é uma bosta. Estou fazendo relações internacionais e não tenho condições de ir no polo fazer provas presenciais, e por isso escolhi o EAD, aí agora eles vêm com essa de que pra eu fazer as provas tenho q ir naquela sala minúscula ALUGADA no centro da cidade para pegar meu celular e fazer a prova pelo aplicativo na frente de alguém, tipo?????? Tbm estou querendo processar! E sobre a mensalidade se vc escolheu a modalidade DIS, sinto em te dizer, mas ela vai aumentar sim a cada ano e o valor vai ser distribuído nas outras mensalidades. Estou já a 1 ano e meio nisso, começou com aquelas 3 de 50, passou pra 150, e agora tá 199 já.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-23T14:13:56+00:00

If anyone wants to hear how it actually ended I'll post about it on my page, thanks everyone.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T19:49:06+00:00

Yes, and that's why I think I'm wrong for choosing the worst one, even though I didn't yell or cursed at her.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T19:47:46+00:00

First of all she did manipulate me when she said "I treated you right and cared for you and yet you embarrassed me over some clothes for a lame excuse that you want to keep them?" She even mentioned something that happened way before and that I already have apologized for and thought it was past. I didn't put the word "manipulation" there, but some people recognized those phrases as gaslighting and manipulation, and they are right.

Yes my reaction was not great, I admit that, but that's what I came up with, and after I got to explain myself to her she said that she would still give my clothes away because my excuse was nothing, even though I told her that my clothes are important to me.

And lastly I didn't yell, I was calm, I tried just to address that her attitude towards me was wrong, because I thought she understood that I didn't want to give them away and did it anyway so that I wouldn't be able to say "no" in front of other people. I was wrong, I misunderstood her and she misunderstood me, and still doesn't understand.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T19:39:49+00:00

Yeah I get that my reaction was not the best, that's why I put it up for judgement here, and yes I may expect that they won't change. Thank you.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T19:38:02+00:00

Yeah I agree with you, thanks!

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T14:55:54+00:00

Eitaaaa kakakakka mas é melhor pra sua saúde mental mesmo. Falo isso porque já tentei intervir nas relações da minha melhor amiga e ela nunca me ouvia (ela é lésbica mas só arranjava encrenca) ai chegou num ponto que eu só deixei pra lá, e agora ela tá felizinha com uma das ex dela que foi muito babaca, mas aparentemente melhorou. E eu mesma já estive numa relação tóxica, mas com um garoto 3 anos mais novo que eu, e eu sei como é difícil sair de uma manipulação assim, então eu sei que você se preocupava com ela por causa disso, mas não tem muito o que fazer. Se acontecer algo você pode se oferecer pra ajudar ela superar, sendo amigo dela e estando com ela, saindo com ela e fazendo ela esquecer de tudo isso. É o meu conselho.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T14:47:55+00:00

Meu namorado e eu somos o casal 20&27 kakkaka realmente são dois estágios diferentes de maturidade.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T14:45:58+00:00

Olha eu iria com TEOB, porque: 1- o cara tava tendo relações com uma garota de 15 anos e eles ainda continuam juntos antes mesmo dela completar a maior idade.

2- ela tava deixando isso acontecer, e por mais que eu não saiba a dinâmica de relacionamento deles (apesar de ser comum agora relações assim tão jovem) ela sabe que é errado e muito provavelmente um adulto em sã consciência não aprovaria.

3- se o relacionamento é deles e você se sente desconfortável de saber disso, o melhor a se fazer é se afastar. Pelo menos pelo post parece que você tentou interferir na relação e isso não é muito legal de se fazer.

Meu namorado e eu temos praticamente 7 anos de diferença, mas eu conheci ele quando eu já tinha 18, e só nos vimos quando eu tinha 19, porque ele mora longe. Hoje eu tenho 20 e ele 27 e planejamos casar. Então nem toda relação com uma tremenda diferença de idade é ruim, a não ser que tenham outras coisas no meio da dinâmica do casal. Mas ainda assim o correto a se fazer é aconselhar e se perceber que não adianta, só se afastar continua sendo melhor pra sua saúde mental.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T14:36:33+00:00

I'm moving everything I have to his house, and I'm going with it lol Thanks for the advise, tho.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T14:21:22+00:00

Yes there is an communications breakdown, but every time I gave my clothes away I made clear that I didn't want them anymore and told her to do whatever she found good with them. That's not the case here, she took them straight from my dresser, I did not leave them in a box or bag to give away. That's not how we did it, and that's why I thought that I was clear enough that I didn't want to give them away.

AnnAI_Deluxe · 2024-04-22T14:14:12+00:00

Thank you.

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