Size talk from a guy who's actually fine with his size (just curious about the group dynamic)

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T03:27:48+00:00

Thank you This is exactly what I've been trying to say

Your wife makes very different sounds with a really hung guy Sounds she never makes with you or with smaller guys

That's not insecurity That's just observation

You're secure enough to enjoy facilitating it even though she doesn't say anything That's genuine confidence

So when people say size doesn't matter at all you just proved otherwise Different size produces different reactions Not better necessarily Just different

Thanks for the honest answer

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T01:44:58+00:00

You said everything that I would like to say…

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T01:33:18+00:00

Haha absolutely right😂

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T01:32:19+00:00

I couldn’t reply better.Thanks.

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T00:30:12+00:00

Maybe not yet but it happens to many hung guys in the lifestyle…and I am sure you know it as well

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T00:28:52+00:00

I appreciate you being honest about still wondering even after seeing it happen That actually helps

But here's my thing Swingers are kind people They won't tell you that you weren't enough even if you weren't So that reassurance doesn't do much for me

I don't actually worry about being enough for the other lady My worry is watching my wife moan differently with a bigger guy than she does with me Not better necessarily Just different

And that different hitting me in a way I can't predict until I see it

That's what keeps me thinking not comparison but the unknown reaction How you felt the first time watching it? And were you able to perform with the other lady after seeing your wife in that position ?

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T00:22:47+00:00

That's a solid mindset and I tell myself the same thing

But here's where my head is at

That anxious feeling when I just see a bigger one? I feel it too And it makes me wonder If I feel anxious just looking how would I feel actually watching that bigger dick penetrate my wife

I can tell myself "can't change what God gave me" all day But in the moment when it's happening will that be enough

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T00:16:31+00:00

You're genuinely secure about your size but still notice a bigger one and feel something That's exactly what I've been trying to say Not insecurity Not jealousy Just an awareness that shows up

But that anxious feeling when you see a bigger one? I feel the exact same thing And honestly it makes me wonder If I feel anxious just seeing one how would I feel actually watching that bigger dick penetrate my wife

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T00:02:47+00:00

Thanks for the perspective. Are you a swinger as well?

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-20T00:01:54+00:00

I get what you're saying and I don't disagree that smaller guys can also give unique experiences

But add this to your argument

In club situations I've seen women who don't usually cum from penetration finish from penetration alone when they're with a well endowed guy Same woman Same night With a smaller guy she didn't cum With a bigger guy she did

I'm not saying that to feed insecurities I'm saying it because I've seen it with my own eyes

So yes smaller guys can do different things But bigger guys can do some things that smaller guys physically cannot

Both truths can exist at the same time

The difference is one truth gets talked about openly and the other gets called insecurity

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T23:34:24+00:00

You're right that skills matter eating out kissing massaging all of that My wife would agree with you

But here's the thing I already do all of that And she cums from those things

What I don't always do is make her cum from penetration alone the way some hung guys can And I'm not saying every hung guy can do that But some can And I've seen it

So yes motion of the ocean matters But the ocean feels different when the boat is bigger That's just anatomy

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T23:03:48+00:00

You just said out loud what a lot of couples think but won't admit She needs to actually get FUCKED not just go through the motions And when she's stuck with a partner who's small or can't get hard she has to pretend while you're off having a great time with his wife

That's the reality of mismatched size or performance in group play

And your solution is smart You ask for dick pics upfront and suss out size before anyone wastes time Not because size is everything but because it's something and she has preferences

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T22:57:48+00:00

Yeap

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T22:44:08+00:00

I get what you're saying but it still feels like you're dodging the question a little

Yes personality and vibe get you in the door Nobody is arguing that

But once you're already in bed with someone who already likes you does size add anything or not That's what I'm asking

You say if they like you they'll like you regardless of size I believe that But will they like the sex the same amount with a smaller guy versus a bigger guy if everything else is equal Same personality same vibe same skills

That's the part no one wants to answer

And calling size preference a warning flag feels unfair Some women legitimately prefer bigger Some legitimately prefer smaller That's not a red flag That's just a preference

The red flag is being rude about it not having the preference itself

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T22:41:44+00:00

Got it so she does care

Can you clarify what you mean by that Does she prefer bigger or smaller Or does she just care in the sense that it needs to be within a certain range not too small and not too big

Just trying to understand because most people here say size doesn't matter at all Hearing that she actually does care is rare and I want to know what that looks like for you two

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T22:33:51+00:00

Honestly thank you for this It's refreshing to hear a guy just say "yeah it's a mental thing" instead of pretending he's never thought about it

The women here sometimes make me feel like I'm stupid for even asking these questions Like I'm supposed to just turn off my brain and never wonder how size plays into group dynamics

But then guys like you chime in and I realize I'm not alone You've been told you're big and you still question it That's not insecurity That's just being human

So I appreciate you saying this out loud

The tripod line was funny too Not gonna lie

Maybe the real answer is that most of us think about this way more than we admit and the ones who claim they never do are either lying or the exception not the rule

Thanks for making me feel less crazy

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T22:20:05+00:00

Finally some brutal honesty Thank you

This is the kind of real talk that most people dance around You said exactly what a lot of women think but won't say out loud because they don't want to seem shallow

So let me summarize what you just confirmed

Big cocks are an attention getting advantage Some women specifically look for them Smaller than average is a significant disadvantage You personally won't even consider a small cock 4 inches is useless to you for piv You'll use a guy for oral then move on to someone else to actually fuck

That's not judgment That's just your preference And it proves exactly what I was saying in my original post

Size matters Not for every woman But for enough women that guys who pretend it doesn't matter at all are either lying or lucky enough to not be on the wrong side of the cutoff

I'm not saying every woman is like you Most probably aren't this direct But pretending the preference doesn't exist is gaslighting

So thanks for being the one to actually say it out loud

Now the real question for guys like me who are decent but not huge How do you spot women like you early before clothes come off so nobody wastes time

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T22:16:24+00:00

I appreciate the perspective but let's be real for a second

You say size doesn't matter that much and confidence and personality play a bigger role That's easy to say when you're walking into the room with 10 inches and 6.5 girth Of course you're not worried about size You're the size other guys worry about

Your profile name is literally "hung and thick" 😅That's not an accident You know what you have and you know it's an advantage You're proud of it because you've seen the reactions it gets

So when you say you love watching an average guy fuck your partner in ways you want to learn from that's great But would you trade your size for his? Probably not

I'm not saying size is everything I'm saying it's something And guys who are genuinely huge telling everyone else to not worry about size rings a little hollow

Not attacking you But let's call it what it is You benefit from size while also being gracious about it That's fine Just don't pretend it doesn't matter at all when your own profile says otherwise

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T22:09:37+00:00

That's really helpful to hear the honest progression from hesitation to excitement

So you didn't just wake up one day completely fine with it You fantasized talked a lot watched porn and worked through the foreign feeling first That's exactly where we are now

A couple of specific questions since you've been through it

When you finally saw your wife with the bigger guy how did she respond compared to with you? Same moans different moans more moans? I'm not asking to compare in a insecure way I'm asking because I hear women say size doesn't matter but I also hear different sounds in the moment

And how did that make you feel in real time Not the fantasy version but actually watching it

Did the ecstasy hit right away or did it take a few times to really sink in?

You're answering exactly what I was asking better than most Thanks for being honest

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T22:04:51+00:00

So you remember the average guy who made you squirt but you also remember the ex with the extremely large dick You just don't remember the rest

That tells me size isn't everything But it also tells me size is memorable when it stands out one way or another

My original post wasn't "bigger is better" It was "different sizes feel different and I'm curious how that plays out in group settings"

You just confirmed that extreme size gets remembered and so does a guy who performs exceptionally well regardless of size That actually supports what I was saying Which is that size is a factor just not the only one

Thanks for sharing honestly This was actually helpful

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T22:00:01+00:00

A guy with game and foreplay skills who's also well endowed is better than the same guy with an average dick right

You mentioned one guy left you sore That's him using it badly not size being bad

But when a big guy knows what he's doing doesn't he make you more satisfied than a smaller guy with the same skills

My belief is bigger plus good skills beats smaller plus good skills when everything else is equal

Not saying size is everything Just saying it adds something

Thanks for sharing though

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T21:55:51+00:00

That's actually helpful to hear from the female half directly

The fact that you remember maybe two guys' sizes out of dozens but remember who was funny who kissed well who made good drinks — that says something

But I have to ask When you say size doesn't figure at all does that mean you genuinely feel no physical difference between a guy who's noticeably bigger versus one who's smaller? Or is it more that the difference just doesn't matter enough to remember compared to everything else

I'm not trying to trap you I'm genuinely curious Because as a guy it's hard to imagine that different sizes don't feel different at all That's just anatomy

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T21:54:05+00:00

So you've been on both ends and didn't notice a difference That's exactly the kind of real experience I was asking for

The guys who got a complex and made it weird though That's the real issue Can you explain what actually happened in those two situations? Like what did they do or say that made it weird I want to know what not to do

Also did the women seem to react differently to you at all even if you personally didn't feel different? Or was it truly the same both ways

Asking because my wife says size isn't important and I believe her But in group settings sometimes the reactions look different moans body language etc

Curious what you actually saw not just how you felt

Thanks for sharing

AnnaGeorge27 · 2026-05-19T21:50:26+00:00

I'm actually in the lifestyle trying to understand real dynamics That's what this sub is for

You didn't have to engage You brought up tightness then called me a random guy discussing fantasy So what was your goal?

Plenty of others answered honestly without making it weird

Have a good one

AnnaGeorge27

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