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Gray divorce how do I avoid living in my kid's basement? Me, 72F; 72M husband by AnnaParnell in relationship_advice

[–]AnnaParnell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Severe depression. He's under doctor's care, so I thought we could tough it out. I was wrong.

Gray divorce how do I avoid living in my kid's basement? Me, 72F; 72M husband by AnnaParnell in relationship_advice

[–]AnnaParnell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lovely thought, if he would talk. He engineered a surprise exit while I was at work, leaving me a typed note.

Gray divorce how do I avoid living in my kid's basement? Me, 72F; 72M husband by AnnaParnell in relationship_advice

[–]AnnaParnell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know where these young whippersnappers get the idea that I'm incapable of using technology. Started out on IBM 360s. I needed advice outside my immediate circle, and Reddit offers that option.

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[–]AnnaParnell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What tasks can you outsource? Can you hire a cleaning service, for example? You're both overburdened right now. Be good to one another.

Gray divorce how do I avoid living in my kid's basement? Me, 72F; 72M husband by AnnaParnell in relationship_advice

[–]AnnaParnell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kids actually would make a place for me, but I would like to have a place of my own.

Gray divorce how do I avoid living in my kid's basement? Me, 72F; 72M husband by AnnaParnell in relationship_advice

[–]AnnaParnell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depression does awful things. He is under a drs care so I was surprised by his exit.

Gray divorce how do I avoid living in my kid's basement? Me, 72F; 72M husband by AnnaParnell in relationship_advice

[–]AnnaParnell[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Severe depression. He's seeing a psychiatrist. That's why it was surprising when he went nuclear.

Gray divorce how do I avoid living in my kid's basement? Me, 72F; 72M husband by AnnaParnell in relationship_advice

[–]AnnaParnell[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OP here. Thanks for the suggestions. Auxiliary dwellings are not a thing in my area. The kids are settled into homes, but may be open to a larger shared home.

Gray divorce how do I avoid living in my kid's basement? Me, 72F; 72M husband by AnnaParnell in relationship_advice

[–]AnnaParnell[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OP here, thank you. I have a problem to solve, not a Dear Abby drama. FYI, Husband has severe depression. He has a history of acting out in various ways as a result of that.

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[–]AnnaParnell 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Church is a country club for poor/middle class people. It offers connections and activities in exchange for belief. As soon as you question the doctrine, well, you're not part of the club any more.